Where has this been all my life?
But they arenāt, hence a passing lane.
In a vending machine, apparently, haha.
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Well, in a perfect world, they wouldnāt be driving at all.
I forgot a big one: sharing a bed (or a room)
Itās just a recipe for suboptimal sleep for at least one party in the arrangement.
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Itās not about sleep.
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I know that some people feel this way, but it certainly isnāt widespread. Many people find sleeping with someone comforting and that peace of mind helps them sleep better. And that is pretty natural. Babies need to be rocked to sleep. They donāt fall asleep better when you leave them alone.
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Might be widespread in terms of college roommates or siblings 
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Sharing a bed is completely different than sharing a room.
Holistically speaking.
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Anna did say (or room)
But yes Silyak was referring to sharing a bed
Should be euthanized
True. I guess everyone would just be stuck in one lane until everyone had to get over to slowly pass an idiot traveling under the speed limit.
Iām not saying that I would like to share a bed with just anyone. But sharing a bed with someone you love can be very relaxing.
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Lots of research to support The Benefits of Sleeping Next to Someone You Love
But I have to agree with @anna_5588
While I do share a bed with my wife, when I sleep alone I do sleep much better.
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I read this last night and initially thought āme too,ā but upon reflection over the course of the evening and while awake at 3 am - alone - I realized that itās not actually true for me, at least any longer. My husband snores sometimes and obviously moves around, but when I really thought about it I get up less often for the bathroom, am prone to sleep later if itās not a work day. What really clinched it for me was the realization that if Iām going to incorporate the noise of the alarm or watch vibration into my dream or wake up shouting āwhat is that noise??ā heās there. Itās a deeper sleep.
After skimming the article @Njord linked, a thing I donāt get, but okay, is not being on the same sleep schedule. I have friends who are awake until midnight-1am, while their spouse goes to bed at 10 for a 6 am wakeup. When do they have sex? When do they snuggle at all? And what about pillow talk? When else are you going to hear the kinds of state secrets you can sell to the Russians or be able to remind one another of an important next-day thing? I donāt think this needs to be a rigid rule, but it does make for better all-around couple-ness, IMO.
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Also, Iāve been meaning to say that this list is pretty much all the things I DO like, with the exception of the sports. Iām not interested in televised sports unless thereās a hook for me (e.g. Tom Bradyās incredible run) but I like (very much) in-person sports and I enjoy some risky sports, but performed very cautiously. Like, skiing carefully or mountain biking in flat Texas.
But by and large, this is my āyesā list. Add āreading to childrenā and I think my entire spectrum of lifeās best delights is achieved, haha.
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We have this dynamic.
Normally we put the little one to bed around 8, then we have sex and my wife goes to bed. Occasionally sheās up for a 3am romp for round 2. The daughter has changed daytime and evening availability a little but my wife is pretty receptive n command. I hate to use the term because we donāt have a stated dominant/submissive thing going on, but we mutually enjoy sex, she isnāt much for initiating but is generally open. The best thing I can do to keep her from being grumpy, irrational and out of tune is to respect her sleep schedule. And Iāll just stare at ceiling while sheās sleeping so itās pointless to hop in bed early.
We chat over dinners while our daughter is at activities a few times a week and kind of randomly throughout the day.
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Haha, thatās another thing on my ādonāt get the appealā list.
I donāt have the patience to deal with young children, nor do I find them cute.
I donāt know how my parents put up with me lol
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Itās different when itās your own. The biological imperative is strong
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I would read to a random child no problem unless it was visibly filthy, lol. I love the exchanged looks after an exciting or funny sentence, and adore the process of settling in together for it. Just warm and happy, regardless of kid. I have a pretty big need for personal space, but kids under 7 can move in and out of my bubble freely. After that they become people, and should keep their distance. 
I think this is probably pretty common, as is the female sleep need relative to menās. Iāve had to tell my husband that Iām not opposed to sex on work nights, but not once itās sleep time. If we go to bed early, no problem!
Heās gotten similarly accepting of and responsive to my food needs. If I say āIām hungry,ā I expect a pretty immediate move toward acquiring food. Delay doesnāt go well for either of us. Nothing catastrophic, but grumpy and irrational do occur.
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