[quote]Aragorn wrote:
NeelyDan wrote:
Kataklysm wrote:
It’s incredible how everyone’s post is the exact same when you look at the last 2-3 pages.
“Z&K suck, they’re not pushing hard and they’re making excuses. ME on the other side, I’m pushing more than everyone in the world and I started out at X weight and now I’m at Y benching W, one day I’ll be J. Blah blah blah…”
It’s pretty sad that on a bodybuilding site, nobody compliments others on their achievements but instead bashes them and tries to show how better they are. It’s like if you can’t lift half a ton and increase your lean body mass by 100 pounds after a year of training, you’re a failure and you’re training like a douche.
That’s your interpretation, though.
I say kudos to the guys giving shit to someone who says they’re 5’6 and destined to be small. Why cater and humour such whiny bullshit?
A lot of these guys doing the bashing have been through the trenches and accomplished what 90% of the site says they cannot, under similar circumstances. Couple that with the fact that they’ve seen 10 years of the same shit, and you can understand how they’re a touch less than gentle when it comes to conveying their thoughts.
A lot of people just can’t accept the fact that they ARE training like a douchebag. I know I was.
Yeah I agree NeelyDan. I’m not a paragon of progress by any means. I’ve screwed up a number of times. But here’s the thing–I went through that phase when I started out. Same circumstances, same excuses floating through my head. It took PX and others bashing me to knock me out of that funk. If I’d been told “hey, nice going dudez” repeatedly, I’d never have made the progress I did.
If anyone Oogies me (please god don’t do that) they can easily see what an idiot I was when I first started posting after my lurking phase. And they can easily see that I got the same type of crap from PX that others do now. But it was a good thing.
Kataklysm–there’s plenty of compliments floating around, for those who’ve earned it. The whole idea is that your results have to be good. You have to earn the compliment.
The other thing is that this ISN’T about the 1 year mark. It’s about the 5-10 year mark. A newb who rocked some good progress in a year WILL get complimented, and then told to shut up and do it for another year.
The journey’s not over after 1 year. It’s never over.
Similar to DoubleDuce, I know and have trained a couple of times with a “top 20” PLer. I shut the hell up and listen to what he says. And he a lot of times gives me crap like PX does to newbs. I can’t offer him anything, so I ask questions and shut up and LISTEN to the answers, even when, ESPECIALLY when, I don’t like the answers. I know my place, and my place is to shut up and listen.
Look, most people know me as a fairly level-headed individual. the big problems I have are
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newbs who give advice instead of taking it. Shut up and/or ask questions. Know your place, pay your dues, just like all of us did.
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people who haven’t made any significant progress towards their goals. It doesn’t matter so much what their goals are to me, as how much closer they’ve gotten to them. I don’t care if you want to be a rock climber, an MMA artist, a PLer, or a bodybuilder, or a track athlete, or to lose tons of fat. Just work at it and make progress.
Caveat to #1-- it’s perfectly cool to share your experiences and what you’ve learned through them to other people. There are a couple people on the Beginner’s forum who’ve been helpful to the newbs there while still being relative beginners themselves. They share their experiences, and what they learned. That’s cool. People can learn from that. It’s NOT cool to give advice in an authoritative manner.
Caveat to #2-- whether the progress is significant depends on a few things-- training age, starting point, disabilities, injuries, health problems, all that stuff. It doesn’t have to be mindblowing, but it should reflect the amount of effort one says he’s put into things. Also, a good attitude goes lightyears towards NOT being harassed. [/quote]
Very nice post, can’t really argue with that haha.
I agree that beeing strong depends on your perspective. Someone who’s been lifting for a decade probably thinks that a 245 bench is weak, but for me, who started out at 65, it’s a huge feat. Eventually it will seem weak to me as well and I’ll look forward to 315.
That’s why you can’t just look at someone’s lifts and say “you’re weak” because when you look at the structure you don’t see all the bricks, steel, wood and concrete that it took to build it.