Hey everyone, been lurking for awhile now and finally decided to join… Been lifting off and on for years im married now w kids and dont really care about being ripped up, totally been lifting for size and strength the last couple months… Mainly following Bill Starr’s program idea but w my own twist.( i know 5/3/1 is popular here but my strength coach in HS followed this and i got great strength but i wanted a 50/50 size strength combo… dont like BB cause its a lot of look and no go(no flames but you know what im saying) Love Bill Kazamier and even now when he’s in his 50’s…
Finally figures out ive got to join a gym again cause i can’t motivate myself like i need to in my home gym nor is it easy lifting w a 4yr old running around me… Im kinda nervous walking into a gym with a bunch of young kids and doing my strength rountine, when they’re all walking around looking at themselves flexing etc. My workout last no longer than 45mins, get my heavy lifts in w a lil accessory work and im out the door…
Anyone else feel the same way walking into a new gym with all the wanna be bodybuilders??(Again nothing wrong w BB just not for me, too much volume and the diet is too strict to maintain bf%, i myself like to stay around 20%) If you read all that, thanks and im sorry it was so long. I will add i love the “sex and male animal” forum; it has me laughing all the time while at work…
I see what you’re saying. I think joining the gym would help with the motivation, but may make it even more difficult to watch over your kids while lifting, no?
Also, I would make sure the gym is OK with kids before you sign a contract. They may see kids as a liability for getting hurt, or like you seem to be kind of be worried about, distracting to other members :(.
I don’t see any reason to feel self-conscious around those that are bigger and leaner than you. I think it would be pretty motivating, and maybe you’ll a thing or two!
Ha I feel the same way going into my university gym later in the day when all the bros start making their way out of the woodwork. It is just a different atmosphere than the mornings and early afternoons when the more serious lifters are in the gym. It is hard to get a productive strength workout in with little 130 lb weaklings running around benching 135 (on all 6 of the benches, nonetheless). Totally different gym in the evening.
Just go in and do what you have to do. Put on some headphones and don’t pay attention to the guys spotting each other on bicep curls. If you need a spot try to find someone who doesn’t look like a douchebag, or just be careful. If you are self conscious about your appearance to guys that have shredded 6 packs, wear a long sleeve shirt and sweatpants.
Anyway you look at it, you just gotta make the best of your situation.
the best way to survive your first day at the gym is to go up to the biggest baddest mother in there and hit him over the head with a lunchtray so everyone in there knows you mean business…you ain’t gonna be nobody’s bitch!
Find the Alpha Male. He will be easy to spot. Thickest gloves, tightest shirt, most tribal tattoos, and he will be yelling the most and also talking the most. He will be giving commands to his minions while they bench press that make no sense like, “Aim for your clavicles” or “Just do some negatives.” When he isnt coaching his little lemmings he will be talking to anyone within earshot about his training methodology and how he benched 700 raw in high school before his humerous exploded while racing/crashing dirtbikes through the woods with his buddies.
Befriend the Alpha Male. They are always looking for new people to eat up the bullshit they are serving. He will happily accept you into his tribe. Maybe even hop in on a few sets and talk about how much his training style “burns so good.”
Kill and eat the Alpha Male. Regardless of strength or size, his minions will be lost without a leader, you can then take control of the pack. You know have spotters and training partners.
Get strong.
This strategy works in all aspects of life if you really think about it.
[quote]StormTheBeach wrote:
Next time you walk in:
Find the Alpha Male. He will be easy to spot. Thickest gloves, tightest shirt, most tribal tattoos, and he will be yelling the most and also talking the most. He will be giving commands to his minions while they bench press that make no sense like, “Aim for your clavicles” or “Just do some negatives.”
When he isnt coaching his little lemmings he will be talking to anyone within earshot about his training methodology and how he benched 700 raw in high school before his humerous exploded while racing/crashing dirtbikes through the woods with his buddies.
Befriend the Alpha Male. They are always looking for new people to eat up the bullshit they are serving. He will happily accept you into his tribe. Maybe even hop in on a few sets and talk about how much his training style “burns so good.”
Kill and eat the Alpha Male. Regardless of strength or size, his minions will be lost without a leader, you can then take control of the pack. You know have spotters and training partners.
Get strong.
This strategy works in all aspects of life if you really think about it.[/quote]
[quote]StormTheBeach wrote:
Next time you walk in:
Find the Alpha Male. He will be easy to spot. Thickest gloves, tightest shirt, most tribal tattoos, and he will be yelling the most and also talking the most. He will be giving commands to his minions while they bench press that make no sense like, “Aim for your clavicles” or “Just do some negatives.”
When he isnt coaching his little lemmings he will be talking to anyone within earshot about his training methodology and how he benched 700 raw in high school before his humerous exploded while racing/crashing dirtbikes through the woods with his buddies.
Befriend the Alpha Male. They are always looking for new people to eat up the bullshit they are serving. He will happily accept you into his tribe. Maybe even hop in on a few sets and talk about how much his training style “burns so good.”
Kill and eat the Alpha Male. Regardless of strength or size, his minions will be lost without a leader, you can then take control of the pack. You know have spotters and training partners.
Get strong.
This strategy works in all aspects of life if you really think about it.[/quote]
You are wise beyond your years…
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So far, in my short lifting career, I’ve had to establish dominance many times. This strategy works best.
when I go into a public gym, I crank the headphones and tune everything else out cept for my lifts. I dont care about the cardio bunnies or other lifters. I get the bidness in, then I get out. F everyone else in there and what they are doing.
Well it wasn’t too bad, anxiety was gone pretty quick, def a better experience without the 4 yrs old Bad thing is there is no gym bunnies really, but im good friends w the spin class trainer, and she is a bunny, think i might try spin
