Have some standards and self respect OP. Okay, you fucked up. Fucking up doesn’t define you, but how you handle yourself and move from it does. If you want to “get” her, show her she is insignificant to you, a mistake you made in a moment of weakness, one your wiser self won’t make. There is zero benefit into getting involved in stupid bitch head games. Falling into some perverse game to prove who can hurt the other more will fuck you big time. Even if you win, you lose.
I really hope this whole story is made up. It sounds like it is but who knows with some of the weirdos out here. This is chlamydia we talking about, the most common sti in the world. A week of antibiotics and its gone. This guy is acting like she gave him herpes or hiv or something. This is no big deal. He obviously construed this whole fantasy world in his head. A more plausible explanation for her acting like a flake is the fact that he is a control freak; going through her phone, constantly asking her about std tests, and more than likely probably always bringing up the age difference. That is junior high shit, not grown man stuff.
Either way, if you have unprotected sex with someone, do not freak out and blame the person if you get an std, especially while casually dating and knowing the risks. And certainly don’t throw a drink on her or throw her bag on the ground. what an asshole.
[quote]Playboy wrote:
I really hope this whole story is made up. It sounds like it is but who knows with some of the weirdos out here. This is chlamydia we talking about, the most common sti in the world. A week of antibiotics and its gone. This guy is acting like she gave him herpes or hiv or something. This is no big deal. He obviously construed this whole fantasy world in his head. A more plausible explanation for her acting like a flake is the fact that he is a control freak; going through her phone, constantly asking her about std tests, and more than likely probably always bringing up the age difference. That is junior high shit, not grown man stuff.
Either way, if you have unprotected sex with someone, do not freak out and blame the person if you get an std, especially while casually dating and knowing the risks. And certainly don’t throw a drink on her or throw her bag on the ground. what an asshole.[/quote]
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Seriously, who throws a drink? Honestly! You fight like a woman!
If YOU have unprotected sex then YOU are responsible for your outcomes. It’s not like silly sluts get STDs on purpose just to infect you. And it’s not like the fact that WOMEN LIE should come as a huge shock to anyone. If you stick you toe into the cesspool that is “internet dating”, then don’t be surprised if your toe falls off!
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I think you guys need to get off the high horse about throwing asshole comments and saying he’s ruined his kid’s lives.[/quote]
You’re right, I’m on a high horse, and I honestly don’t care.
You’re also right, that this might not effect his kids lives in a negative way, and I already mentioned that.
But I’ll just leave this here for people to mull over:
The bottom line is that there is a large body of literature showing that children of single mothers are more likely to commit crimes than children who grow up with their married parents. This is true not just in the United States, but wherever the issue has been researched.
Having lived through both, neither are particularly pleasant, no.
Yes, and there is a significant body of evidence showing that a statistically significant number of “criminal minded” individuals come from broken homes.
Not only does OP clearly imply this was his problem that lead to the split, but life, love, marriage and family is about so much more than “fucking” I don’t even want to start.
While sex, and sexual attraction is important, it isn’t like anything to described above isn’t reversible and/or very simply handled with communication and mutual understanding.
Plus, you make the assumption that he didn’t “let himself go” as well.
Interesting that you instantly assume the onus is on her, and her short comings, and I assumed it was on him.
This isn’t a damnation or a statement saying either one of us is more right than the other, but rather an interesting happening.
I would use the word conjecture, but yeah, I’m doing it, and am going to continue to do it based on shit OP posted and continues to post.
The first part of your statement here, is all the more reason I brought about the reason for the second part of your statement.
Because life is about more than getting your dick wet.
Aside from the fact it didn’t seem to both him all that much before, as “kids” implies they had sex more than once.
[quote]All I’m saying is that you “family oriented” guys are just a WEEE bit over the top in your sense of superiority. An intact family is great. But if EVERYONE involved isn’t doing their part, it isn’t HIS fault for wanting to get out of it… There’s plenty of blame to go around.
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Maybe, that is part of the problem, and not the solution?
These days, literally the only way to truly “rebel” is to be in a long term committed relationship that you work on, go to work everyday, dress modestly, be in decent shape and just generally be a kind and generous person who cares about others more than themselves.
Maybe the “new normal” fucking sucks.
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I agree with AC that both partners have a responsibility to maintain themselves (I don’t understand why he thinks only women turn into lazy slobs), but in the main I agree with Beans here. We should at the very least treat marriage and divorce with the dignity they deserve.
I divorced after two decades of marriage. I can’t imagine how I would live with myself had I just gotten sick of the same ol’ same ol’ and moved on to something more exciting than my kids’ frumpy dad.
