Great Girl, Too Much Baggage?

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I met a girl over three months ago, she seems to be the kind of girl i have been hoping to meet my whole life. Sweet, caring, giving, smart, easy to talk to.

She has a lot of baggage though…She has a 14 year old son who constantly argues and defies his mom right in front of me. Her older sons ex husband comes over her house and just goes off on her in front of her sons.

Her six years old dad is a drug addict. He comes over and steals from her.

I tell her she shouldn’t let them in the house anymore, it only invites problems. She says she knows and that it will get better.

Soooo…I’ve tried not to get scared away by all this drama…which seems to be every other day…

So this drug addict baby daddy is trying to get clean and she told him she would support him emotionally. Sooo…he’s living in a half way house and he pops over her house all the time…Everytime i stop over, he’s there. When I show up she acts really awkward and nervous. i told her she can help him without having him over the house all the time…she agrees and then bam he’s over again…

She has the this strange idea that we could all hang out…She talks about wanting to live together someday. I feel like that’s the only way I can keep the crazy people away from her…But i’m not ready for that kind of change. I like living on my own for now…

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Run, don’t walk, Run

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[quote]treco wrote:
Run, don’t walk, Run[/quote]

I’ve never disagreed with treco yet and I’m not starting now.

Your story seems like there’s no answer but for you to get out. You know it better than we do, but it sounds like a really bad situation that may not just hurt you emotionally but get you in all sorts of trouble. Just wait for them to start asking you for money.

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Yah that’s the conclusion I have come to…I can deal with the punk teenager, and the older son’s dad…but i can’t deal with this other guy over the house all the time…I believe in helping people, but not at other peoples expense.

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[quote]treco wrote:
Run, don’t walk, Run[/quote]

Dont run, sprint!

tweet

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[quote]adamhum wrote:
She has a lot of baggage though…She has a 14 year old son who constantly argues and defies his mom right in front of me. Her older sons ex husband comes over her house and just goes off on her in front of her sons.[/quote]

Given how his father acts, its no surprise that the son assumes such behavior is acceptable.

[quote]adamhum wrote:
She has the this strange idea that we could all hang out…She talks about wanting to live together someday. I feel like that’s the only way I can keep the crazy people away from her…But i’m not ready for that kind of change. I like living on my own for now…[/quote]

Dude. You need to keep the crazy people away from yourself as well.

These dads will always be a part of her life and given their respective anger management/drug abuse issues, it’s hardly a stretch to envision them eventually flipping out on you. Such a thing may even be MORE likely if they see that your relationship with her is actually healthy, functional and they subsequently come to resent that. These are not rational, reasonable people you’re describing.

In a one-sentence nutshell: you need to put self-preservation ahead of your heart here.

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Run. Run away and never return.

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I came in here with an “everybody has problems in their life” line prepared but just gtfo of there now. Hell, aren’t you worried that this emotional support has gone physical?

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[quote]Alex Good wrote:
I came in here with an “everybody has problems in their life” line prepared but just gtfo of there now. Hell, aren’t you worried that this emotional support has gone physical?[/quote]

This.

Why the hell are you still there man?? Make sure all your stuff still belongs to you, if you want a final shag then double-condom up and foxtrot oscar, ricky tick

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I hope some Mod changed your title.

Why is there a question mark?

Ah, I know, because we dont know if she is all that great.

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[quote]adamhum wrote:
I met a girl over three months ago, she seems to be the kind of girl i have been hoping to meet my whole life. Sweet, caring, giving, smart, easy to talk to.[/quote]

She’s nice now… Wait until you move in with her, and her baggage. I’m with everyone here, RUN LIKE HELL!

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Well, you know best, but it sounds pretty bad. Maybe a “break” until certain things change.

This really sounds like she is cheating on you.

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[quote]Gambit_Lost wrote:
Well, you know best, but it sounds pretty bad. Maybe a “break” until certain things change.

This really sounds like she is cheating on you.
[/quote]

Prob with the ex and the babby daddy!

Who the fuck seriously dates women with kids?

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Dp then run.

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Acting awkward and nervous = doing something she knows she shouldn’t be
Being sweet and caring = making up for something, possibly the same thing which makes her act awkward and nervous.

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T- Nation is Hysterical lately!

Congratulations sir, you have found what we call a FIXER. A continuously searching chick who needs to FIX EVERY MAN with problems! She’ll probably get bored with you and turn toward someone else with bigger problems that need fixing

GTFO. Plenty of girls are smart caring fun easy to talk to with out that much shit. GTFO

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She’s on the shit herself dude.

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[quote]adamhum wrote:
I met a girl over three months ago, she seems to be the kind of girl i have been hoping to meet my whole life. Sweet, caring, giving, smart, easy to talk to.

She has a lot of baggage though…She has a 14 year old son who constantly argues and defies his mom right in front of me. Her older sons ex husband comes over her house and just goes off on her in front of her sons.

Her six years old dad is a drug addict. He comes over and steals from her.

I tell her she shouldn’t let them in the house anymore, it only invites problems. She says she knows and that it will get better.

Soooo…I’ve tried not to get scared away by all this drama…which seems to be every other day…

So this drug addict baby daddy is trying to get clean and she told him she would support him emotionally. Sooo…he’s living in a half way house and he pops over her house all the time…Everytime i stop over, he’s there. When I show up she acts really awkward and nervous. i told her she can help him without having him over the house all the time…she agrees and then bam he’s over again…

She has the this strange idea that we could all hang out…She talks about wanting to live together someday. I feel like that’s the only way I can keep the crazy people away from her…But i’m not ready for that kind of change. I like living on my own for now…[/quote]

Depends on how hard a body she has and how good she is with blow jobs.

Also, if you are fixed or not, given you’ll end up paying child support for three kids, the way the court system works, if you are not fixed.

Finally, be aware she’s still fucking one or both of those guys, and they will eventually cook up some crank-fueled plot for her to marry you, get life insurance, and then we’ll be watching this story on Investigation Discovery with Lester Dobbs.

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[quote]orion wrote:
I hope some Mod changed your title.

Why is there a question mark?

Ah, I know, because we dont know if she is all that great. [/quote]

lol!

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[quote]treco wrote:
Run, don’t walk, Run[/quote]

Push a prowler or drag a sled while you are at it for extra man points