Hey guys. Got a situation here that I thought I run by you all for some ideas. And some giggles. It’s pretty bad.
So I’m 34. 3 kids. Mid life crisis. Separated from my wife and been trolling the dating sites.
I meet this girl. She’s 25. She seems really nice. I’m a bit of a germo-phobe. I explain that’s she’s only the 2nd girl I’ve slept with in 12 years (was married) and how important to me is that she’s clean. She gets tested and says that she’s clean. I don’t see the results. After 3 or 4 weeks of dating and safe sex, she mentions that she wants to go on the pill so we can do it without a condom. I tell her it’s too soon. But that and the test gives me confidence.
So long story short, I get really good at the rythm method. Everything was great. I can admit it, I was falling in love. She was all I could think about. But the age difference was a big deal to her. One day, we had a few drinks. When she went to the toilet I looked at the photos on her phone. No joke there was at least 20 photos of guys from a dating site on it. I asked her about it. She SWORE to me that she wasn’t sleeping with anyone else. I didn’t think anything of it at the time. We had a talk and I mentioned how hard it had been getting separated and how I missed my kids. She didn’t contact me for a week. I thought it was over.
I walked around like a zombie for about a week. Started to get over it. And she contacts me again. Wants me to come over. So I do (cos I’m an idiot). I thought it was a break up talk. She meets me at the door with a massive kiss. We have sex, but she was being really weird, staring at me the whole time. Again, as was our custom, we used a condom for the first time, but not the 2nd.
I haven’t seen her since. She goes really weird with the txting. Hours without replying etc. Rescheduling plans with no notice.
Now look, I’m in love but I’m not a bitch. I call her and say that it’s been a lovely 5 weeks but I’m out. She gets really sad, asks why I’m so amazing, that she thinks she made a huge mistake to which I reply “no, your reasons are valid, it’s cool”.
As soon as it was over I get a STI test. Can’t be too careful right?
She txts me the next day asking me to meet her at a bar. I say yes but then after thinking it over, cancel. She’s just been too weird now.
We continue txting a little over the weeks. Which is annoying because I’m trying to get over her. My appetite sucks. I wake up most mornings at 4:30am and can’t sleep etc. I can’t take it. So I txt her, let her know that I’m up for a meet at a bar. Later that day I get the results of a sti test.
Chlamydia!
I’m still seeing her friday. I want to see her face when I tell her. I’m going to keep her waiting about half an hour. Be friendly for a few drinks, and then start dropping bombs. I’m so angry right now. More angry at myself to be honest. What kind of idiot falls in love with the first chick he meets after a 12 year relationship? And doesn’t use a rubber religiously. I could have gotten hepatitis, or aids!
I’m the biggest idiot in the world right now.
So any advice? What’s the best way to run this operation? Or do I just not show and never contact her again.