Seeing a Chick Who Gave Me an STI

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[quote]RATTLEHEAD wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:

I think you guys need to get off the high horse about throwing asshole comments and saying he’s ruined his kid’s lives. A divorce DOES NOT “fuck up” anyone’s life any more than watching your mom and dad fight every day. How is a life “fucked up” anyway? I went through 4 divorces with my mother before I left at 16, and while my life has been “an adventure”, it certainly isn’t “fucked up”… I know plenty of people who’s parents got divorced and they are completely “normal”, whatever that means.

Sometimes shit doesn’t work out. Especially if it’s one of those “entitled bitches” who get’s fat and cut’s their hair after pumping out a few kids. Who would want to fuck THAT for the rest of their life? That doesn’t make anyone an asshole any more than it makes the wife a bitch for letting her self go. And we don’t KNOW what happened - he summed it up as “mid life crisis”, you guys are judging and assuming things that you don’t know the details of. It’s called paraphrasing. He wanted to talk about the STD, not the divorce and you guys are jumping in all over him with no facts, just assumptions and judgements.

I think more men should leave their fat, ugly wives and trade them in for a younger, fresher, less bitter model. If you can afford it, why not? Why should you have to fuck someone who doesn’t respect you as man enough to take care of herself? It’s the new normal. And when a man DOES have enough and leaves, he has to give her half his shit. How about fining HER for looking like a mountain troll at age 36?

All I’m saying is that you “family oriented” guys are just a WEEE bit over the top in your sense of superiority. An intact family is great. But if EVERYONE involved isn’t doing their part, it isn’t HIS fault for wanting to get out of it… There’s plenty of blame to go around.

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THIS, FFS.

People make bad choices, especially when it comes to relationships.

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On a somewhat related note. I once went on a date with a girl where she ended it with “I have to tell you, I have herpes”. We were joking around a lot during the date and I thought she was kidding around and responded as you would if you thought it was a joke. Turns out people don’t have much of a sense of humour about these things. Still, cool of her to be upfront.

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You should see her in her bhole. May not be any STIs in there.

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You both get treated then you’re good.

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[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:

lolololololololol, she lied to you, gave you VD, and now you’re blaming yourself and are “going to tell her and try to be nice about it.”

Guarantee she turns the table on this sap, blames him for infecting her, and has him apologizing and paying for dinner by the end of the night.

Dude. You’ve been out of the game for 12 years. Cancel the fucking date and get your head on straight.
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Dude. I can’t do anything about other people’s actions. I can only control myself. Yeah I can hate her, but really, I’m hating myself because I got myself into this.

So you bet I’m going to learn everything I can from the sitch so it never happens again.

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[quote]angry chicken wrote:
I think you guys need to get off the high horse about throwing asshole comments and saying he’s ruined his kid’s lives. A divorce DOES NOT “fuck up” anyone’s life any more than watching your mom and dad fight every day. How is a life “fucked up” anyway? I went through 4 divorces with my mother before I left at 16, and while my life has been “an adventure”, it certainly isn’t “fucked up”… I know plenty of people who’s parents got divorced and they are completely “normal”, whatever that means.

Sometimes shit doesn’t work out. Especially if it’s one of those “entitled bitches” who get’s fat and cut’s their hair after pumping out a few kids. Who would want to fuck THAT for the rest of their life? That doesn’t make anyone an asshole any more than it makes the wife a bitch for letting her self go. And we don’t KNOW what happened - he summed it up as “mid life crisis”, you guys are judging and assuming things that you don’t know the details of. It’s called paraphrasing. He wanted to talk about the STD, not the divorce and you guys are jumping in all over him with no facts, just assumptions and judgements.

I think more men should leave their fat, ugly wives and trade them in for a younger, fresher, less bitter model. If you can afford it, why not? Why should you have to fuck someone who doesn’t respect you as man enough to take care of herself? It’s the new normal. And when a man DOES have enough and leaves, he has to give her half his shit. How about fining HER for looking like a mountain troll at age 36?

All I’m saying is that you “family oriented” guys are just a WEEE bit over the top in your sense of superiority. An intact family is great. But if EVERYONE involved isn’t doing their part, it isn’t HIS fault for wanting to get out of it… There’s plenty of blame to go around.

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Thanks man. I really appreciate it. I don’t take the trolls seriously. They’re just showing where their heads are at, by being so keen to spew hate with almost no information.

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[quote]TDub301 wrote:
Although I agree 110%, are you really going to act like anyting different ever happens here?

This place has had its ups and downs over the years and stuff like this has been one constant throughout.

It got to the point a long time ago where a thread feels weird if this doesn’t happen. Every once in a blue moon it does.

But to be fair, we don’t know anyone’s history or where they’re coming from when they discuss these issues. So in a way, you’re judging them, too. Plus, a lot of people just like to talk shit and bust people’s balls. I think most here are doing it and it’s pretty easy to tell by now.

That’s the beauty of the internet, you’re forced to take it for what it’s worth. A bunch of anonymous (for the most part) people speaking their mind. So you have to be prepared to get the whole gamit, because that’s what will happen 99% of the time.

I think we don’t know enough about the situation to truly give the OP proper advice and furthermore think that he probably should seek advice from people closer to his situation anyway. Just like in most threads. At least chlamydia goes away, try one of the many STDs that stay with you till you die and let me know how it feels…

Also, general rule of thumb, don’t fall in love with the first person you meet after a long relationship. In your 30s, you should know that. Everyone knows what a rebound girl is and you don’t fall in love with rebound girls. But the OP knew he shouldn’t have done that (as he mentioned) and he’s getting burned now for some of the many reasons why.

Lesson learned, move on. At the end of the day, you’re ok. Just wait until the STI goes away before you find some new puss puss.

Unless you’re going to dominate her, don’t even keep in touch with her is what I think. But do whatever your instincts are telling you and if it turns out to be another mistake, at least learn from it. If you keep making the same mistakes, you’ll never grow and don’t let this bitch keep you from growing (no pun intended).[/quote]

Thanks man. I appreciate it. I think I’ll go nuclear on her. No calls, no txts. There’s no point. When you treat someone well and they lie to your face and it’s been less than 2 months, I can’t see much of another option.

I’m just really glad I got to learn a painful lesson with little permanent fallout, it could’ve been fucking HPV for gods sake!

And yeah, I know you don’t fall for the first girl. It’s a noob mistake. That’s why this is funny. I’ve made ALL the errors.

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:
You both get treated then you’re good.[/quote]

Yeah but if someone has sworn to you that you’re clean, that you’re the only one, that they’re falling for you… and then you get something from them, me personally, I’m out. It’s the lies. So unnecessary. All she had to do was tell the truth. I didn’t need to be exclusive. I’m happy to wear a rubber. But I believed her, and thought I didn’t need to.

Cos I’m an idiot. Have I said that enough?

My purpose in writing all of this is to pound it into my head that I’ll never do this again. No matter how nice you think someone is, if you’ve only known them a few weeks, then you don’t know them.

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[quote]angry chicken wrote:

[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]countingbeans wrote:

[quote]Rowans1 wrote:

I’m the biggest idiot in the world right now. [/quote]

Agreed, and it has jack and shit to do with your VD.

Stop worrying about strange and focus on the fact you totally just fucked up your kids’ life, for a “mid life crisis”.

Fuck.

Don’t people just buy Harley’s or $3,500 rifles/golf clubs anymore? NOOO it’s “let’s leave the wife and nail some sluts a decade younger than me, YOLO!!!”[/quote]
lol

I just bought this Beans for my mid-life crisis.

Plus can you have a midlife crisis before you turn 40?

I dont think so, I think that just makes you an asshole.[/quote]

Bingo, labeling it a mid-life crisis doesn’t make you any less of a self absorbed irresponsible lousy ass-hat. [/quote]

I think you guys need to get off the high horse about throwing asshole comments and saying he’s ruined his kid’s lives. A divorce DOES NOT “fuck up” anyone’s life any more than watching your mom and dad fight every day. How is a life “fucked up” anyway? I went through 4 divorces with my mother before I left at 16, and while my life has been “an adventure”, it certainly isn’t “fucked up”… I know plenty of people who’s parents got divorced and they are completely “normal”, whatever that means.

Sometimes shit doesn’t work out. Especially if it’s one of those “entitled bitches” who get’s fat and cut’s their hair after pumping out a few kids. Who would want to fuck THAT for the rest of their life? That doesn’t make anyone an asshole any more than it makes the wife a bitch for letting her self go. And we don’t KNOW what happened - he summed it up as “mid life crisis”, you guys are judging and assuming things that you don’t know the details of. It’s called paraphrasing. He wanted to talk about the STD, not the divorce and you guys are jumping in all over him with no facts, just assumptions and judgements.

I think more men should leave their fat, ugly wives and trade them in for a younger, fresher, less bitter model. If you can afford it, why not? Why should you have to fuck someone who doesn’t respect you as man enough to take care of herself? It’s the new normal. And when a man DOES have enough and leaves, he has to give her half his shit. How about fining HER for looking like a mountain troll at age 36?

All I’m saying is that you “family oriented” guys are just a WEEE bit over the top in your sense of superiority. An intact family is great. But if EVERYONE involved isn’t doing their part, it isn’t HIS fault for wanting to get out of it… There’s plenty of blame to go around.

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Fuck. Yes.

You ever find yourself in my neck of the woods, you drink for free!

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:
You both get treated then you’re good.[/quote]

lol, yup. It only takes one pill.

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[quote]Rowans1 wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:
You both get treated then you’re good.[/quote]

Yeah but if someone has sworn to you that you’re clean, that you’re the only one, that they’re falling for you… and then you get something from them, me personally, I’m out. It’s the lies. So unnecessary. All she had to do was tell the truth. I didn’t need to be exclusive. I’m happy to wear a rubber. But I believed her, and thought I didn’t need to.

Cos I’m an idiot. Have I said that enough?

My purpose in writing all of this is to pound it into my head that I’ll never do this again. No matter how nice you think someone is, if you’ve only known them a few weeks, then you don’t know them. [/quote]
You’re overthinking it and being hypercritical in my opinion. You still have your health and got some pussy. Nothing really lost unless you allow yourself to think otherwise. You also gained handy experience regarding trust and judgement. If you don’t have the best judgement when it comes to people, then don’t accept things at face value. You’ll be fine, man.

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Anyone else think this thread is a troll job?

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:
You’re overthinking it and being hypercritical in my opinion. You still have your health and got some pussy. Nothing really lost unless you allow yourself to think otherwise. You also gained handy experience regarding trust and judgement. If you don’t have the best judgement when it comes to people, then don’t accept things at face value. You’ll be fine, man.[/quote]

I know. I wish I’d had longer to process it but I only found out a day before the meet so I went in fresh and… that bridge is BURNED.

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So I meet her. I get her to buy me a drink and I take her to this part of the bar which is basically 2 lonely chairs and a table at the end of a corridor. I sit down so she has her back to the wall and I’m blocking her in.

I hit her with the questions. Where you really in love with me? She says yes. Where you seeing anyone else? Where you sleeping with anyone else? She says no and looks a bit rattled. I look her in the eye and say “do you have something you want to tell me?” and she says no. It keeps going like this for a few mins. I remind her of how she swore that I was the only one. That she was safe. Of how important it was to me that we were protected. She looks freaked out but agrees with everything I say. I say again “do you have something you want to tell me?!?” And she starts laughing really nervously and says 'No no, there was noone else, I haven’t had sex for a long time"

I say “So you’re just going to lie to my face?” She leans forward and looks into my eyes and says “what’s gotten in to you, stop it! I can’t tell if you’re joking”.

No chick would still be sitting there laughing after I said all this.

So I tell her what I think happened. That she freaked out, slept with a guy with no protection and then slept with me again. That’s why she’s been acting so weird.

She drinks her beer, laughs really strangely and denies it.

I say “so I got a blood test. Wanna guess what I came up as?”

And she goes “clean? hahaha?”

I just stare at her. Then she says “you didn’t get a blood test. I don’t believe you. Where did they take the blood from?”

I say “my right hand to god i got a blood test. You gave me a fucking disease!”

She’s still laughing.

I say “I fucking trusted you!”

Still laughing.

So I throw my drink at her (not the glass I’m not an arsehole). She makes this ‘ooomph’ sound, but just sits there, looking at me out of the corner of her eye, drinking her beer. I pick up her handbag and throw it on the ground (ok I’m a little gay, don’t know why I did this) and I turn to leave.

She’s still drinking her beer, staring at me out of the corner of her eye but gestures at me to come back. Like wtf? So I turn around and say “you fucking deserved it. You’re scum to me!” and I turn and walk out of the bar.

I felt really weird at the time. I think she deserved it. But hindsight I don’t think it was a cool thing to do. I don’t feel great about it. But she’ll never forget me.

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[quote]Rowans1 wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:
You’re overthinking it and being hypercritical in my opinion. You still have your health and got some pussy. Nothing really lost unless you allow yourself to think otherwise. You also gained handy experience regarding trust and judgement. If you don’t have the best judgement when it comes to people, then don’t accept things at face value. You’ll be fine, man.[/quote]

I know. I wish I’d had longer to process it but I only found out a day before the meet so I went in fresh and… that bridge is BURNED. [/quote]

Some time, some other girls (or not), depending on what you take from the whole experience, and you’ll be fine.

While I don’t agree with the “separated from my wife and kids and nailing some 20-something”, I will say that there are ways to take this experience, and the fact that you actually ARE seen as desirable by younger, attractive girls, and use that to your advantage to inspire change in your current relationship.

In many regards, there was a major shift in my own long-term (not married and no kids) relationship once we had a break and I dated a girl a decade younger than her. What wasn’t important were the details, but rather the idea that I actually have “options”, and knowing that I’m capable of exercising those options. This has shifted the overall tone of the relationship more in my favor and actually improved things for both of us.

So while your actual experience may have been horrible and led you to a general feeling of anger and distrust, I recommend trying to distance yourself from that, look at it for what it is (great sex [I assume] with an attractive woman), and see how you can use that experience to better your life… whether with your wife or not.

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[quote]LoRez wrote:
Some time, some other girls (or not), depending on what you take from the whole experience, and you’ll be fine.

While I don’t agree with the “separated from my wife and kids and nailing some 20-something”, I will say that there are ways to take this experience, and the fact that you actually ARE seen as desirable by younger, attractive girls, and use that to your advantage to inspire change in your current relationship.

In many regards, there was a major shift in my own long-term (not married and no kids) relationship once we had a break and I dated a girl a decade younger than her. What wasn’t important were the details, but rather the idea that I actually have “options”, and knowing that I’m capable of exercising those options. This has shifted the overall tone of the relationship more in my favor and actually improved things for both of us.

So while your actual experience may have been horrible and led you to a general feeling of anger and distrust, I recommend trying to distance yourself from that, look at it for what it is (great sex [I assume] with an attractive woman), and see how you can use that experience to better your life… whether with your wife or not.[/quote]

Thanks man. That’s really nice. I’ve actually tried to post 3 times now on what happened at the meeting but for some reason the posts aren’t going through.

But I really appreciate your words. Thank you.

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She didn’t take you seriously. She didn’t feel any loss. I’d advise not talking to her anymore if you want to move forward with your life. She served her purpose.

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:
She didn’t take you seriously. She didn’t feel any loss. I’d advise not talking to her anymore if you want to move forward with your life. She served her purpose.[/quote]

I don’t know any of that. I think she was just in shock at being confronted. She thought we were going to go straight back to being lovey dovey.

Which to be honest, I totally would’ve done. But the STD thing, and the lying. I just didn’t know how to process it.

Fucking sucks. I thought she was great. Hahaha. Apart from the lies and diseases. Don’t worry man, not gonna waste much time reaching out. I’ve got to move forward with my life. And I’m actually quite happy with the lessons I’ve learned, I’ll definitely do a lot better with the next one.