[quote]lewhitehurst wrote:
[quote]digitalairair wrote:
Women’s taste for men’s body can vary slightly due to where they are in the menstruation cycle. If they are ovulating then there’s a good chance that they prefer the more muscular look :
One thing I find interesting in this article that I have a personal experience with is how women find men who were overly obsessed with their bodies and diet - people who eat cooked chicken breasts, egg whites, and broccoli all day just to maintain chiseled abs a little bit of a turn off.
A few years ago I was one of those guys…maintained a 4 percent body fat all year round and was OCD with my diet and training. I even proudly bragged to women about my diet when we go out to eat (I never eat with them LOL) , and expressed my obsession with weight training with great enthusiasm…thinking that they would dig that. I was 23 years old and had NEVER had a sip of alcohol because I was afraid that it would make me fat and weak. I was suffering psychologically due to the amount of mental effort that I was putting into this thing, but my body looked great (at least from my perspective lol). I was also depressed because I was doing all those things to perfect my physique, but I wasn’t getting any attention from the girls and didn’t get laid for 2 years.
Over the last year and half, I “let go” (and most people who watch my videos thought I completely stopped lifting).
I still trained and had a fit body by most standard (but was nowhere near “aesthetic” like ZYZZ), and didn’t care very much about bf % or PRs. I drank moderately once or twice a week, partied on occasions, and ate whatever I wanted.
I lost my 4 percent physique. My abs blurred, and I could no longer jump 40 inches on a stand-still. I stopped wearing beaters to impress when I go out, almost never mention the fact that I work out. Basically I acted like I didn’t care too much about my body while still maintaining a respectful, natural looking body (about 10 percent bf @ 165 lbs).
And guess what? I had sex with over 130 girls in just over a year. Why? I was happy, confident, and MENTALLY much healthier than I was when I was OCDing about everything from the number of fish oil I took in the morning to a lack of 2.5 pound PR on a squat workout.
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The issue wasn’t your physique but your attitude, so it had nothing to do with how you looked, You were coming across as the arrogant prick that people stereotype bodybuilders and athletes as.[/quote]
I guess the way I looked had to do with the way I felt. When I was super cut I was actually more insecure because the psychological factors that go into maintaining such an “unnatural” made me tried too hard on everything. I felt like I deserved more attention than I did. After I stopped caring, I felt freer. It was probably akin to the way edward norton felt after he blew up his apartment.
