All is good now. He took me so that I could sub in a coed soccer match. I played d and he totally cheered me on. He’s going to make spaghetti and meatballs when we get home. Told me I was his badass wife and he’d clean the car no worries cuz I got it muddy. It was a total slosh fest. It was a blast, and they want me to join up, but I feel like I was hit by rocky. My iPad is all muddy now lol
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Wow…I sleep for 4 hours after nights, and look at all the amazing conversation in here!!! I am having problems doing the quotey thing, so this might take me awhile to respond.
@Spock81 - I completely agree. When someone cheats it typically has more to do with the cheaters low self esteem and inability for self-reflection that has them searching for something they “need” from another person. As far as I know, I have never been cheated on, but if it did happen, I would not take it personally (as much as I could) but I also wouldn’t stick around to try to “fix” things. You can’t fix other people.
@losthog - Another post that made me tear up!!! It is so nice to hear men talking about their wives with such love and devotion. Honestly! I agree, the very thought of having to try to figure out a different person in the same way that you know your partner seems exhausting to me! There is something to be said for the comfort level a long marriage allows you. It makes you stronger, and I think you are “more yourself” with your spouse then with anyone else because you have raised kids, been through crap, grown as people, supported eachother, fought and cried etc…in most marriages you have become an adult with your spouse, you will never exerience the same growth with another person.
So, does your wife know about “hot to trot?”. Why or why wouldn’t you tell her?
I appreciate the fact that you can hold yourself back, and logically get the problems that could happen, if you went for the “new thing”.
@Frank_C- Another response is really sweet and amazing, though a little more angrily passionate then some others, lol. I whole heartheadly agree. My hubby and I also have done counseling, my hubby does not really like talking about feelings, and I know he only went because of me, but it did help. Funny enough, we did the same test, with exactly the same results. It is very tough to get out of your own comfort zone to meet the needs of your partner,but that is part of being a partner, growing as a couple and MEANING YOUR WEDDING VOWS!
I think a lot of people get caught up in this “fairytale” idea of what relationships are portrayed to be, and never really understand that it’s hard, it’s work, you gotta deal with good years, and bad years. People want instant gratification and that “lust” feeling all the time, those people should not get married. I really enjoyed your post, thank you so much for sharing!
@ChickenLittle - or this! Lol. Truth is though I love my hubby and my family, and when I said “I Do” I meant it. He is stuck with me!
Though believe you me, there have been days I have wondered…would single be easier?
@girlgotguns - glad you are feeling better!
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Nope haven’t told her directly. She is very secure in me and our relationship. For now there is nothing serious about this younger person to include my wife in the discussion. I get crushed on by many younger women, flattering for sure! This situation is different in that this person is going out of their way to be around me and little things you girls do to say “hey notice me”. If the situation escalates I will give my wife the heads up about what I’m dealing with. I’ve never kept secrets from her…not going to now. The situation is managed and life goes on.
I’m sure I don’t hear about everything my wife deals with related to advances from other men. Glad I don’t honestly. There have been times in our relationship when I’ve seen men get too interested and I had to step in and have her think through somethings but our life is one where having friends and caring for the people around us is part of everyday life. We live to make people’s life around us better. Some people see that as flirty and get the wrong impression…boundaries are established and we move on.
I come from a divorced parent family. I would never want my children to have to deal with that…and my wife is the coolest chick I’ve ever met. I have dreams for us as we age. We plan to retire on the beach somewhere and run around in bikinis 70-80 wrinkles and all enjoying the sand and waves. Those are the things that keep me committed to her…
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IAs I asked @mortdk , do you express all these lovely thoughts to your wife?
I think having long term goals (ie:wrinkly on the beach retirement) is an excellent way to stay bonded. If you are thinking in terms of plans for 10/20 years from now, then you know you are in it long term. I think when you stop making plans, there is trouble in paradise!!
From your profile pic you seem like a big joker, but it seems from your words, you (and lots of the male posters here) are just big teddy bears inside. Melts my heart.
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I don’t tell her enough how much she means to me.
I told her I loved her on our wedding day and I would never leave her. That should be enough…
I’m not perfect. But I do love my wife.
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The Hog expressed this very well.
We have said it once, I’ll tell her if things change 
On a site note in about a month we’re celebrating the 50 with a lot of friends, and in front of everybody I’ll make a speech and tell her how much she means to me. Promise.
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Lmao. Well what u r doing is working!
Vids as proof 
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Very late to the party but awesome work 
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PR Party Day
Bench
1x5-45 lb warm up
1x1- 65 lbs
1x1-85 lbs
1x1- 90 lbs
1x1- 95 lbs
1x1- 100 lbs
Even though I didn’t lift as much as I hoped, I am still happy with this. I think I could have lifted 10/15 lbs more if I had a spotter. Regardless, I feel I am getting stronger on bench, and feel confident I can reach a bodyweight bench at some point
Squat
1x5- 45 lbs
1x3- 95 lbs
1x1- 135 lbs
1x1- 155 lbs
1x1- 165 lbs
1x1- 175 lbs
1x1- 185 lbs
So I got the 1.5x Bodyweight squat, even if it wasnt for reps. Another dirty lift, and my weakness is def core strength with the heavier weights. But, my squat is getting stronger too
OHP
1x3-45 lbs
1x1-65 lbs
1x1- 70 lbs
1x1- 75 lbs
meh, used to be able to get a quite bit more over my head, but it wasn’t happening today
Ok, so I decided to go for maxes on all the lifts in one day, primarily just to see what I can do, but also I don’t want to waste a whole week going in 3 seperate times for one lift. This way on Wednesday, I start my deload week (boring), and can get back into another cycle of 5/3/1 quicker.
Got 10 hours sleep last night, feel great today.
Really happy about how quickly my strength is coming back
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Everything is looking strong! Congrats!
Very strong! 
This thread has proven very insightful for me, lots o wisdom here. Also, ladies, Im 23yo and in desperate need of a sugar Mama.
Well done LL
The slight decrease in OHP could be because you’ve just benched and squatted. It’s very taxing to lift maximal weights.
But 1.5 times BW that is awesome congrats.
Thank you!!!
@theonecamko - I do enjoy the insightfulness happening in here…not a dating log…
good luck finding a suger mama though!
@mortdk- Thanks. That is why I left ohp until last, to me it’s my least important lift out of the three and had a feeling I would run out of juice by then.
Oh…and now that I feel where my weaknesses are in my lifts, I would like to put in more accessory work in that focuses on improving areas of weakness (instead of random shit)
Squat weakness = good morning it up when weight gets heavy…used to be out of the hole but that wasn’t the issue at all today
Bench weakness- about an inch off the chest
Dead weakness- from the floor
*** any opinions on what accessory work I can put in to improve my weaknesses would be greatly appreciated***
I am just a guy who really likes the philosophy of Jims work.
Accessory for weakness is not really for me to point out.
But I can’t help myself.
Squat: Front squat is what I believe would be good. It should be really good for deadlift too.
Bench I’ve just learned what spoto press is, it’s a paused bench around were your weakness is.
And for bench putting on a lot of bodyweight, but I guess that’t not an option
I’ll lean back and hear what others have to offer.
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Fair enough and thank you, Ill let you know how my journey turns out. Ill start a new log about it maybe.
@mortdk- I appreciate your feed back, both excercises sound like good options, but there is no way I am getting much bigger to bench more 
… girls got her priorities…
@theonecamko - I suggest just rolling it all into one log. May I suggest “ Camko’s Strongman and Sugarmama Search Log?”
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I understand that you are doing 5/3/1 but if you read on into this. It may help with what assistance exercises may help.
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