It makes me wonder though, why do so many men cheat with girls half their age? I guess women too…
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No idea…most men struggle to get their head out of their dicks.
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Sounds painful.
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. It was. But good women help…
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Hey LL don’t panic. I’m 53 turning 54 in a month, the missus just turned 50.
One adwise is to stay in contact with other people and not turning into a hermit.
We try to stay in touch with 3 - 4 couples our own ages and seeing them regularly.
Keeping in shape being able to take care of grandchildren if and when they arrive is a must for me. I want to be able to play with my grandchildren for as long as possible.
I do not like being old either, but it’s one of lifes little mysteries or gifts or maybe the opposite.
About men or women cheating with youngsters, I think it’s pathetic but a sign of the world we have made, were turning old is not something to look forward to. We tend to think we’re only 25 and thus we want to be with someone that age.
I’ve lived with my wife for over 30 years, we’ve grown together and we’ve become soulmates, I couldn’t think of living with another person.
But I just think we are the last crusaders of a lost course, it’s just not in the time to stick together.
It’s a use and throw away culture and I don’t get it. Yeah you don’t get the same thrill as when you we’re in love the first couple of years.
But you get something so much deeper and finer.
I’ll stop the rant here.
As Elvis said TCB - Taking Care of Business - that’s what it’s all about.
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Honestly, my husband was talking about this 23 year old fresh outta college and what she was wearing, how Smart and funny she is…and always has a cameltoe…I felt a siren going off in my head yesterday. And then he brought up the fact that we don’t have kids. I bitch slapped him hard last night verbally because he says he’s content in his life and now is enjoying looking at a girl almost 20 years younger. Sad part is that he’s sleeping like a baby and I’m awake wanting to punch meat like Rocky
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Yup I’m gonna workout this anxiety as soon as my breakfast settles. I know it’ll help
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Omg, well this is one of the sweetest things I have read in awhile 
soulmates…not wanting to live with someone else…tearing up
My hubby and I celebrate 16 years married on Friday, and I feel that way about him. Things have not always been easy, but he gets me, and I get him, and I wouldnt wanna do all this craziness with someone else. I hope he feels the same.
I hope you tell your wife these things. I know I would be over the moon if my hubby said them to me!!!
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Men look, if he didn’t tell you about her that’s when you need to worry.
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I really don’t tell her that. I’m a man and we assume you girls know it.
WAY back I said something about we can’t be head over heels in love forever or something stupid like that. I think what I meant was that it had turned into deep love or something like that, I didn’t tell her.
The other day she told me that she still remembered it and she couldn’t understand it. One day I’ll try to tell her… but not today.
There are ups and downs in every relationship it’s part of life.
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We don’t know that. We need and like to be told that. I guarantee if you told her, like you wrote it here, well she would definitely NOT forget, and it would proberly make you both very happy.
Nothing is more romantic or sweet then being told by someone you have been with forever, that they wouldn’t change it for anything.
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I promise I’ll tell her that
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I just worked out my anxiety. Fo sure, if I had anything to worry about, he wouldn’t have told me!!!thanks, that is so true. I just got insecure dang it. He’s my best friend, and of course he probably didn’t realize I’d feel threatened. Besides, he might be feeling threatened himself since I’m getting a lot of attention from guys now that I’m healthy. He may be feeling insecure,too. Im really lucky to have him for over 10 years. I AM really hard on myself…thanks for helping me chill out. If he was gonna bail, he would’ve done it a long time ago. 
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You helped me also help another on a different thread, ty. This site is so cool. Bet you are a great mom!
This is a quote from law and order with regards to men cheating and who they cheat with: something like “it’s typically a problem with the man lacking something, not the woman they’re cheating on”
Makes sense. A messed up man could have a remarkable woman by his side and he cheats with a 20 something, it wouldn’t be the woman’s faults as the reason
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That is the biggest thing for me. My wife and I 22 years, have gone through so much growing up with each other. I know things she will do and say often before she does and that works vice versa. To stop and start that over with someone else? Or if my wife passed away? To have to connect with someone else as deeply as we are… no thanks it just would never be fair to the other person. My wifey is the love of my life no room for anyone else. Hell I have a mid 20s girl hot to trot for me right now, and she is so cute. But I realized that anything this younger girl finds attractive in me is something my wife developed or I developed in relating to my wife. I texted her that the other day just to say thanks for putting up with my dumb ass when I was younger and had much less of a clue.
As far as looking…I have always told my wife. “Babe I’ve been looking all day to find someone more beautiful, and today there was no one more beautiful than you.”
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We live in a God-less world where everything but good ol’ fashion values is acceptable…and encouraged.
Falling in lust is easy. Having sex a for a few months with a smoking hot college girl is easy. Spending copious amount of time with the same girl, dealing with her lack of intelligence, her yoga pants, Ugg boots, Starbucks, #&*# I’m getting irritated just describing them!
Marriage is NOT easy. It actually requires you to put effort into the relationship. It requires you to think about what the other person wants/needs and then to actually do your best to provide that for them. If you’re selfish and only worry about yourself then the relationship will ultimately fail. But when you’re thinking about those who cheat or those who never settle down, they’re being selfish.
We’ve all experienced that infatuation stage. We love talking to each other for hours. We love sitting next to each other on the couch watching stupid TV or movies. We love going places together. Eventually we get to a point where we’ve gone everywhere, and talked about everything. We’re all caught up on the stories of our past and now all that’s left is the present. We’re used to each other physically (because no one waits til marriage to have sex so there’s nothing left to look forward to). This is the moment it gets difficult and starts to require unselfish effort. Sadly, most people don’t learn how to deal with this stage. They make excuses for why the relationship is failing and try to justify a break up or worse, cheating.
It seems that we’re encourage to be selfish and only worry about our needs. “My wife wasn’t giving me what I needed. That’s why I cheated. It’s not my fault.” BULLSHIT! I’d ask these people, “What are you giving your wife?”
June will be my 10 year anniversary with my wife. We went to pre-marital counseling and returned to counseling after my daughter was born around our five year mark. It definitely helped us and any time we have a rough patch I think back to what I learned from that.
For us, we learned that we’re on different pages. We did The Five Love Languages test. I want physical contact. My wife wants words of affirmation and encouragement. Guess what was least important to me? Words of affirmation and encouragement. My wife’s lowest score? Physical contact. That could have been a problem for us. But we both decided to put effort into the relationship. I try to encourage her and tell her she’s doing a great job at work or at being a mother and wife. It’s not natural to me. It’s difficult. But she’s worth it.
Boy, I’m chatty this morning…
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Or if you are single, you don’t have to worry about ANY of this shit! And can be happy and do what you want! Problem solved!
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This is so true Big J.
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Agreed. If you aren’t interested in putting in the work for the other person the answer is really that simple.
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