That is great, by tweaks I mean there are lots of ways to skin a cat.
There are so many templates to do, when you feel you need a change just ask and I can find something fun to do.
Still within Jims boundaries, start light progress slowly.
Thank you for all your help 
I really do appreciate it!
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Great job on the 245!
Nice PRās littlelee!!
I dont want kids lol
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Kids are greatā¦ look at you Young Duke.
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Aww thanks mort 
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Thank You!
In a week and a bit, I turn 41. I thought 40 was hard. I have been thinking a lot about aging lately. Even though I often get mistaken for being in my 20ās (thank you dad for the youthful genes), I am terrified of getting old.
Firstly, I am a very vain person, I will admit it. I wonāt allow myself to be an older, overweight, 40+ just because we live in a culture where that is expected. However, there is a big part of me that will struggle when I become invisible (this happens to older women). I hope I gain the maturity and wisdom to deal with this
when it happens. Itās not fair cause men get better looking as they age, if they take care of themselves, womenā¦not so much.
Secondly, I have a fear of lack of accomplishment. I hear all the time about life regrets, (at the hospice) it is pretty much all you think about when you die. I fear a mediocore life, and not doing the things I really want to do.
Lastly, my own mother passed away at 43. I think
about this often. If suddenly I was ripped away from this life would I really care how I looked? If I still was attractive? Nope, I would be sad that I didnāt even get to the stage where I looked old.
I have just been very reflective of aging lately, mostly because I am almost a year older, and on the downhill slope now.
I know, I know, stop overthinking and just enjoy life! You never know when it is your time to go, and what I should really be thinking about is wringing every good happy moment out of life, and appreciate the fact that I can.
Thanks for listening to my rant. Hope I am not the only one who thinks about getting old.
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That was another awesome post. Iām not going to highjack your post but thanks for sharing cuz Iām about to be 39 and am really self-reflecting, too. Youāre so not alone in that.
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I freak out on and off about aging too. Itās not like constant, but it hits all of a sudden and Iām like ahh shit ! Nononoon. I think for me personally I always feel rushed. Like rushed to go places Iām not even late for. Same with life. I feel rushed to accomplish things even if I donāt even know what they are yet, lol ! Iām supposed to be married or have a mortgage or something by now so I want time to stop so I can catch up to where I āshouldā be.
But when you think about vanity just remember how well we take care of ourselves and how far that can go. Look at people like Jennifer Aniston or hell even Helen Mirin (sp). You can look incredible at any age with a healthy lifestyle
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Vanna White.
@girlgotguns - glad I am not the only one
@Spock81 - you are quite a bit younger then me? I donāt remember worrying about this stuff until I hit 40, but I understand where you are coming from. Being married, having kids, seems to be some cultural goal. While I love my family a lot, I canāt say itās the end all and be all of my own personal self achievement in life. I am proud to be a mom and wife, and my kids are definitely the most important thing, but in the end they have their own life to lead, and when they are out of the house living their own lives I hope I have enough stuff for myself to not feel a big gaping hole from their absence.
Plus saying I have an 18 year old makes me feel the oldest!
@Frank_C - really?
Nights tonight, off to try and have a nap PR.
Vanna White is 61 and she is not invisible. Sheās still beautiful. Iām sure sheās not ānattyā beautiful since sheās in Hollywood, but it still counts. The things that take away from beauty are lifestyle choices. Diet, exercise, hygiene, exposure to the sun. You can control all of those.
Iāve been told that your skin gets thinner as you age. For those of us that lift I think that could be an awesome side effect of aging. Thinner skin means more definition, right?
I was watching Wheel of Fortune last night right before I saw your post LOL
I get you. Turning 42 this summer, and rethinking this way of life. Injury did help. I am changing for a new job and see how thing will go.
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@Frank_C- did you have Vanna dreams? She is def not natty!
@donnerschweer - what new job are you training for?
5 hour 15 minute nap! Not bad!
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PR?
Youāre my idol.
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Your doing a great job , keep it up mate.
Donāt stress about the age thing, itās just a number.
I know how you feel though, I turned 40 this year and my dad died at 40 which has freaked me out a bit, but also good motivation to push a little harder.
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Forty? Really? To quote Rhonda Jarrar, āFuck outta hereā (Google it).
FWIW, I teach High School so I am surrounded by nubile girls wearing close to nothing in the warm weather. It does nothing for me.
Of course, being the father of a fourteen year old girl might have something to do with it.
I just got out of a relationship with a 55 year old (Iām 54), not my choice, and she was the most beautiful woman I have ever been with.
I think women get more beautiful in their forties. Theyāre done having kids and start doing stuff for themselves and step into their greatness. They get over dudes and become their own person, enforcing boundaries and advocating for themselves, and that makes them strong.
Of course, these are generalizations and could subject me to accusations of misogyny, but Iāll risk that.
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@The_Myth - I think it may have been a napping PR. Technically, I am splitting up my nights sleep, half before my shift,and I will sleep about 4 hours when I get home.
Thank you for your thoughtful insights on aging. I appreciate the make perspective. I am more confident, less worrisome, and generally āmore myselfā as I age. I would not want to go back to the worries of being 20. It is really too bad you canāt have the mindset and wisdom of your 40ās+ with the body of your 20ās!!! Sorry to hear of your break-up with the beautiful woman!
@I_Luc - Thanks for stopping in. I guess with a poor genetic history it is a good thing to stay active and fit, and not stress about it. I guess given my job I think about death a lot more then the average person, and with the upcoming birthday, just been on my mind!
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Totally agree about women in their 40s. Iāve always loved women 35-55 age range. They are so much more āpowerful, assertive, and less flakyā. Young women are just fluff. Like cotton candy sweet and no substance.
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