I feel your pain Blake, but if I was on Jury duty, i’d look at it as 4 against 1, pre-meditated assault. It won’t work in your favour. Have your friends sit in the car, and ONLY if you need help, they’ll come a knockin’.
Blake. First i will give you shit, then i’ll give you some advice.
Firstly, you are such a pussy going to beat 1 guys with all your mates. Even if you get him to throw the first punch, dont you think the police will think its a tad wierd that this happened at 5am at his workplace. DONT BE A DUMB SHIT! Use your brain. All this is over a fucking slut that you know you are better off without. THIS GUY DID YOU A FAVOUR! SERIOUSLY!
About her crying man... its all bullshit. Girls can put on the water works in 2 secs flat and then be smiling a minute later. ITS ALL BULLSHIT. Ok, you've heard that EVERYONE has gone through these situations, and yet you still aren't listening to anyone. You have some other birds number now. So fucking start seeing her and play your ex g/f now. Give her a taste of her own medicine. Make her feel like shit and then tell her to fuck off. We've all regretted staying friends with our ex's and we're all telling you this and you're considering staying friends with her.
Right now you think you wont ever be happy with another girl again but i know you will be. You're 17 dude. I wish I had the advice you have now when I had the same shit. It's a mistake man, and one you'll have to learn on your own. I hope you listen to us and just cut off ties with her. It is truely the only way to go. Goodluck man.
Blake, U suck.
Get over it and stop sucking.
I 100% completely agree with DA MAN. I agree not only from his advice, but also from a very similar experience. Move on. You’ll thank us later.
Blake, have you ever stopped to consider that this guy, being eight years older, very well might kick the shit out of YOU? How do you know he doesn’t carry a knife, or a gun? Or is a trained fighter? You’re making a lot of assumptions here over some trashy bitch that you shouldn’t give two shits about.
The other guys here are right, so listen to them. Your situation may seem a lot different than all of ours, but it’s not. We’ve ALL been there and it is EXACTLY THE SAME every time. Do yourself a favor and walk away from both the whore and this guy you’re so intent on beating the crap out of. All things being fair, you should just get some fat chick to kick the crap out of your girl. That would be justice, since she’s the one who started this by fuckin’ some other dude behind your back. And if you think she’s telling you the truth if she says she hasn’t slept with him, you’re a bigger moron than I thought.
Tyler
Blake-that sounds like a real kick in the balls punch in face. I have a feeling I’m a few years older than you so you can learn from some of my bad experiences. At some point we all go through something like this, and at some point we all do this to another person. It sucks but it does, has and will continue to happen.
The best advice I was ever given about getting over someone (it’s always harder if you’ve been physically or emotionally cheated on) is this “there’s no better way to get over a girl than to get behind another one.” For the first few weeks it will feel like no other girl will compare but rest assured that shitty feeling fades. Remeber this, you didn’t do anything to cause this, these are her issues that she and that wack-off have to deal with now. Also, never under any circumstance have left over residue sex with this girl. That foolish mistake will drag this ordeal out forever and make you think you feel things for her that your mind was getting over. Good luck
Blake
I don’t want to insult your girl, or disrespect your relationship, but you need to dump this chick like a hot potato. She is going to be nothing but trouble for you, and she has already made this abundantly clear. Dude, what if you actually married this girl, and she pulled this crap? You are lucky you found out she can’t be trusted, before things progressed that far. You need to cut this chick off completely, and get her out of your head. Hey, some people want their lives to be a soap opera. If you don’t, though, you need to find a more responsible and stable girlfriend, who you can depend on!
As far as beating up this guy, don’t even go there! Even though it would make you feel better, remember this always: a hookup between 2 people is ALWAYS THE WOMAN’S CHOICE. (Unless this guy took advantage of her when she was unconcious or that type of thing!). Read that again…IT IS ALWAYS THE WOMAN’S CHOICE. This guy was only going where he was being led. ANY NORMAL GUY MIGHT DO THE SAME THING AS HE DID, in a moment of weakness. Your anger is misdirected here.
Do yourself a favor, and FORGET this stupid little girl!
I am in full agreement with ozE. Blake, don’t be stupid! You can’t let yourself be friends with your ex, that is weak. You can’t go blaming the guy and jumping him with 4 of your friends, that’s what pussy’s do. Take all of the anger that you have for this other guy, and transfer it over to your ex. Because she is the one that fucked you over, not him. No normal single man turns down good young pussy when it is available. She went to his house, she lied to you, more than once. She is playing you for her own selfish entertainment, you are a toy in her mind, to be controlled and manipulated to please her. Don’t fall into the trap. Get together with this new girl, NEVER call your ex. If she calls you and you don’t have the stones to tell her off or be a jerk, act bored and try to blow her off. She will keep using you if you let her, you have to be tough. Women that start using men as toys in thier teens are pretty much lost causes. They never truly care about a man enough to respect him in an exclusive relationship. They are too damn self-serving. I know you feel like kicking someones ass right now, use that aggression to fuel your workouts. Get pissed and go lift, that’s the best way to annhiliate your pent up aggressions. It’s time to man-up, drop-kick that whore out the door, and forget about blaming that other guy. If you cheat on your girl, it’s your fault, not the other girls right? Same dif, get over it.
Damn. This forum is full of good advice. I nearly responded a week ago when people began blaming the guy. That makes no sense to me. IT IS ALL THE FAULT OF THE GIRL. As Lumpy said, IT IS ALWAYS THE WOMANS CHOICE and she CHOSE to fuck someone else while seeing you MORE THAN ONCE DAMMIT. I was in a similiar situation last year where a girlfriend cheated on me. It was the first time it had ever happened to me and I took her back (mainly because she was one INCREDIBLE piece of ass, Playboy centerfold material all the way and that might even be an understatement). Anyway, she did the same shit AGAIN. You NEVER want to be with or end up with someone like that (fortunately I was only with my slut for about 5 months, and it was a learning experience). So listen to the advice from the people here, they (we) are speaking from experience. Also, forget about being friends. You can tell her to stick it up her ass (which will hurt her more initially) or you can cut her off, ignore her, do not return calls, etc (which will hurt her more over weeks/months).
Everyone jumped my shit for suggesting you beat the shit out of the guy. Well, since new information about the girl has popped up, I’ll repeat my previous advice:
Take her back, fuck her from behind, and jam it up her ass with no lube and no warning. Sounds like she MORE than has this coming to her. The guy's a prick cocksucker and she's a worthless cheating whore.
Ok I recently went through something similar. Thank god I knew long before it happened that I did not want to maintain it with her anyway. We’d have sex and for some reason I’d look at her and think to myself, “Oh she is definately not the one.”. I guess I was kinda using her. But she decides shes going to play the same shit as this girl. Her ex decided to get back in her life and she started lying (like she thought she needed to for some reason) and hanging out with him and being really stupid and turning off her phone while she was with him. Normally she was the one calling me all the time, then I suspected something fishy and called a couple times and she wouldn’t answer or had her phone turned off. I knew by the way she was acting that she was either having sex with him or was going to, so… I ended it before I even got an answer. Oh, and a good way to break up with a girl is to make them think it is their idea. I did get pissed still. I worked through it by realizing how important my own goals and aspirations were. And I got really angry… and pumped. I started working out even more and actually made some fantastic gains because of it. Use such opportunities to make something good of all the bad.
Well, guys I have posted a couple of replies to Blake about his situation, and guess what, my wife walked out on me a our two kids last night. She used the ole’ “I am not Happy” bull shit excuse on me. What a bunch of crap! I don’t think she has anyone else(She really doesn’t have the opportunity) But she says I am not nice enough to her. Nice enough? I can see how I can be any nicer. I am hurting and hurting bad but I am not gonna take this shit. I deserve more and so do my kids. So this gets me to this: Blake, take my advice, your girl has done this once, she’ll do it again. Don’t wait until you have invested more into her or gotten married or had kids. I am gonna suck it up and take it like a man. I will focus on my kids, myself, and training like a madman to get through this. Please Blake, from one T-man to the other, drop the girl now and focus on taking care of yourself. Sandman.
Sorry to hear about that, man. Fucking women, eh? I mean, you’re busy busting your ass to pay the bills, feed the kids, and try and hold everything together, and SHE has to go and try and get her groove back, or whatever.
If there's anything we can do, let us know. The upside is maybe now you'll be able to focus on being happy, instead of having to worry about someone else...
it really depends on your philosophy of love and life, but for many people you’d simply need to resurvey the situation and realize that she simply wasnt ‘the one’
Jack, thanks for the support. As the day go on, I am getting more and more angry about the whole situation. I am counting the minutes until I leave work to go train. Thankfully it is back day and I am gonna tear it up with some deadlifts…Anyways, and Blake, pay attention, my wife calls me and tells me how she stills loves me and she just wants time apart. She said she wants to go see a conselor. I am all for saving my marriage and working towards our future. But fuck all this shit!!! If she feels this way then she should not leave at all. All this is doing is confusing my kids and me! They are staying with her at her parents tonight, yeah they are young but don’t you think they will wonder where their daddy is and why they are at Nana’s? If my wife really wants to save our marriage don’t you think she would try by coming home? I am beginning to feel that she is gonna try to play with my mind through this. But, it won’t work. Like my dad said today, “she is young (24) and has not been concerned with our home or me and the kids for a while, so watch out son, something else is going on.” Blake, watch it, don’t stay with this girl and end up like it looks I am. Sorry to ramble on and all. Sandman.
Best of luck. These things are Tough. The only thing I can say is that even if you do work this out, you’ll never trust her the same again, and the relationship will be permanently changed.
Sounds like a good time to sit down and figure out what you really want from life. When something similar happened to me, I looked at it as a chance to be reborn and be who I wanted instead of who I was.
Deadlifts are a great cureall, aren't they?
Yo!!Blake it’s Roy take this Jake guys advice man and stick it in her ass with no lub and then ditche the bitch man!!!And for the other Oze that called him a pussy for bring his friends we stayed in the car and let Blake take care of it himself until the pussy locked himself behind some glass doors like the cunt that he is!Blake I know that you patched things up with this guy but I’m still going to fucking break his neck just for that dumb fuckin smile he had on his face!!!
Later Bro!!
And what ever you decided you know I’ll support it 100%
Blake,
Hang in there brother.
I think Henry Rollins and Yukio Mishima both were quoted (nearly) as saying “no matter what happens in life 200lbs is still 200lbs” when they were asked why they love bodybuilding. Think about that a little.
Whenever your thoughts drift to her, train or work on your diet or your next training program. Study anabolics or radical supplements. At least then this fucked up situation will have, despite her best efforts, made you stronger rather than weaker. Your emotional pain for her will pass but your body will still be stronger.
Keep your chin up brother.
Blake, I know you already have more advice than you could probably handle, but go with the last thought on your last post: ring the other chick. It is amazing how having a new piece of class a tail lying in your arms and marvelling over the size of your biceps can put all other things into perspective. Before you know it, your rage will fade, and you will realize that a bruise to your ego is best healed by a new t-vixen stroking it. (Your ego that is!)
Dude,
As a T-Man, you’ve been handed one of life’s rudest, most brutal lessons. Remember, time heals all wounds and the reverse is true as well, time wounds all heels. She’ll get hers in the end. Just suck it up and go, my friend. Peace