Didn’t Jack Dublin start the T-mag pics? Why can’t I find his pic?
Good question. Maybe he’ll answer it for us.
If we were going to fight, I’m afraid I’d want it to be boxing, as that’s all I’ve ever done and have any interest in doing. While I do have respect for UFC style fighting, and of course the Gracies (who, as a rule of thumb, kick ass), there’s just not the money in it to attract me.
By January, I'll be around 260 or so, and I'm 6'4". Yeah, I have some size on you, but I don't think it's that much. If we ever have the opportunity to fight, I'd be perfectly happy with a one-on-one thing just for fun.
I could tell your posts were in good humor. While we have some differing opinions, you're an intelligent man, and I try not to count intelligent men as enemies.
Going to Cooley? A friend of mine in a firm I worked for went there. Best of luck in Law, and if you ever do find your way near Dallas, let me know. If I can't find us a ring, I'm sure I can find us a bar. :)
I'll be more than happy to post a pic, and will do so this week. If I haven't done so by Friday, call me on it. One rule though: No one who doesn't have a pic posted has the right to rip on someone who does. Speaking of which, I've got almost 500 members and not much more than a dozen have posted pics...
Actually, I’ll be going to MSU (formerly known as Detroit College of Law). You and I’s posts are getting rather extended, so I’ll end it with this one. 80 fucking lbs, huh? I’d say that’s a fairly significant weight difference. However, as long as you’d be willing to do a No Holds Barred fight, I’m down and I would consider that fair. I figure as long as I can keep my distance by kicking and having the ability to take you to the ground (where my main strengths and experience lie), that should make up for the weight difference. Anyway, you’re right about the money thing. A couple of guys at my boxing/Muy Thai school are starting to box in addition to their NHB fights. Shit, even the top heavy weights in Pride only make about $250,000 per fight, which is dick compared to the $10,000,000 Tyson just got. I’ll let you know if I ever make it through Dallas.
Hey, if you guys are actually going to do this fight I want to come watch. I live in the Detroit area. So tell me where its at and what time and I’ll come watch.
It’s perfectly o.k. to WANT to beat the crap out of somebody. It is not o.k. to actually go out and do it. Beating people up just to settle grudges is petty and childish, such behaviour shows a pitiful lack of self control. It really does take a bigger man to walk away from a bad situation, trust me. Some of the hardest decisions I have ever made have been walking away from situations where I REALLY wanted to beat the shit out of somebody. Jack, you would well to learn some self control.
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I have never, repeat N E V E R, thrown the first punch in a fight.
If you're saying self-control means not starting a fight by throwing the first punch, then I agree entirely. It's illegal, and unwise.
If you're saying self-control means walking away when someone punches you in the mouth, well, sorry, I'm not Ghandi.
I didn’t say not to defend yourself against an attack . If someone attacks me I will do my best to whip the shit out of them. It isn’t acceptable to provoke someone into hitting you first and then beat the shit out of them, that is no different than throwing the first punch(which you stated you have done before). Fighting raises cortisol levels 
Sorry, Blake, I guess the guys took over your post. Anyway, give us an update on how you are doing as well as your aunt.
People, you dissapoint me sometimes. Why would you be mad at the guy? He isnt the one that lied to you, betrayed you, and snuck around behind your back. The girl did. Hell, he may not have even known that she was in a serious relationship. Or she could have lied to him about the seriousness. Even if he did know, he is not the one that betrayed you. She is. All this anger aimed in the wrong direction is what gets ppl in trouble. Place blame where it needs to be placed, on the woman that lied to you and hurt you. She is the pos in this situation, not so much the other guy. I have been the other guy, and I am sure some others here have as well, and when I found out I was the other guy it came as quite a shock to me. I had no clue. But for some reason dude was ticked at me and not her. I just dont understand that, she is the one that screwed you over!
To blake-- Listen to the more level headed ones here, friends and family are important in times like these. Though revenge is fun, just make sure it is on the correct person if you do anything. This is lame sounding and what not, but it is times like these that build true strength in person. You will make it through, and you will be stronger for it.
Get drunk and fuck somebody you don’t know.
Allright, settle down kids! Haha, j/k. Look, both conflicting parties have brought up some good points. Our hyper-aggressive T-freak of a friend Jack has made some valid points about revenge. A T-man shouldn’t take it in the ass and then just shrug it off. However, T and DA MAN made some valid points about a T-man having superhuman self-control. The trick is to try to find a good balance of the two. I have struggled with this countless times over the years. I have actually gone out of my way to provoke a man into attacking me in order to have the legal right to make him choke on his own teeth. He was definitely asking for it, he was insulting me, and my lady for absolutely no reason. He came over and hit on my girl when I was grabbing us some drinks, she shot him down but he wouldn’t take no for an answer. When I came back I told him to take a hike. His mouth got out of control, so I talked him into hitting me and then fixed his mouth for him. I know, not very civilized of me, but he was definitely the aggressor and I felt justified. Not to mention, I am certain I would have lost any and all respect from everyone present if I had just meekly allowed him to verbally harass us to that extreme. Fighting raises cortizol, but losing face and obsessing about what you should have done but didn’t do in that situation for months, maybe even years will add much more to your lifelong cortizol levels trust me. Not to mention that winning a justifiable fight raises T to an unbelievably high level for at least a week. The amount of additional hero sex you will get as a result of winning the fight will also raise T levels significantly. Just remember, be able to justify it in a court of law, and I don’t even need to tell you to make sure you win the fight. Another situation was at the movies where some guys wouldn’t shut up and kept kicking our seats from behind. When I politely asked them to be quiet, they threw popcorn and spewed profanities at me. Once again I lost my composure, I had to leave the movie early, but only to avoid being arrested (I don’t know if that fight was actually justifiable). I was actually applauded on my way out the door. Now, you are probably wondering where I am going with these rambling stories. I guess what I am trying to say is that some times, Jack is right, you have to beat some ass to retain your dignity and keep the miscreants in the world in line. However, T and DA MAN are right in the aspect that the real enemy in this situation is your girlfriend. Since T-men do not beat up on women, you can use some less violent tactics to get a little revenge. You can call her new boyfriend up and ask him how he likes your sloppy seconds. Be a pal and warn him that she is a scandalous whore, tell him that you would really hate for him to find out the hard way like you did. The next time she talks to you end every sentence with the word “Whore”. If anybody thinks that is too childish or not becoming of a T-man, I beg to differ; T-men tell it like it is. If she lied to you and played around on you, well then she is a whore. Good luck Blake, I hope the T-GOD in the sky smiles down on you and sends a few good days your way. Like I said before, go rent some T-movies get pissed, pumped up and hit the weights like a madman on crack! You will start to feel better really soon. Aggression is perfectly good emotion or drive, just make sure you channel it correctly and life will be a whole lot easier. Keep your chin up bro.
Forrester - that was an amazing T vs. Cortisol analyses of possible reactions to the situation. I think you raise a good point - sometimes you do need to stick up for yourself, but at the same time, we all need to know exactly where that point is. Yes, we shouldn’t get walked over… but not being able to take the taste of the old shit sandwich every now and then is just as lame as saying “i can’t give up my soda (or bread, or coco puffs, or potato chips…)” or throwing a fit every time the other team beats yours.
Oh I agree that a real T-man should have excellent, or even super-human self control. However, the most difficult decisions I have faced in life are the ones that require you to make a quick decision about what action or inaction I should take. One of the best skills I have ever developed was the ability to take a quick mental snap-shot of the whole picture and then make an instant analysis of the necessary reaction that I believe will most define me as the man I like to think I am. To support the wisdom over mayhem line of thinking there have been countless times in my life where I shrugged off a confrontation and still felt good about it. A T-man is proud, but not egotistical. There are allways circumstances where being the bigger man means shrugging and walking away. There are also the times when it becomes necessary to let a shithead know that he has definitely crossed the line and when you put yourself in harms way, you are an idiot if you think that nothing bad is going to happen. Maybe one of these days I will write an article on the basis for weighing the balance and taking the proper actions given the circumstances. It would have helped me to have that info when I was younger, but figuring it out on my own has been a reward in itself. Thankfully I haven’t ever spent a night in jail as a result of my actions, although I am certain that there were a few instances that warranted it. In an effort to avoid totally hijacking this thread, hey Blake, how are things going for you right now? Are you coping or crumbling, let us know if you need any more support.
I’m writin’ in for an update and possibly more advice, I completely appreciate all of the advice that has been given to me so far.
I have forgiven my ex-girlfriend for what she has done, she is not going out with this guy because he is 25 (that’s right he’s not really 22) and she is 17, not only that but she has come crawling back. By no means have i decided to take her back, however i do still love her so much that i have considered it but will not do so for a long time. The only justifiable reason that i have to kick this guys ass is that he disrespected myself and my girlfriend. I had already met this guy about a month ago and he knew very well what me and my girlfriend had as far as a relationship,(I’m sure he could tell because we were all camping with her employee’s and you know tent’s don’t provide very good insulation for the sounds made during sleeping bag sex)My best friend and training partner told this guy to back off after i found out that my girlfriend was cheating on me. He agreed to back off. She called him two days later and she swears even though she called him he was the one that asked if she wanted to come over to his house. That i don’t doubt one bit.
I have told my ex-girlfriend recently that i don’t think i could ever go out with her again. I meant what i was saying, however her response was the only thing that made me think twice. She cried and cried and cried, and cried and swore and whatever and all that crap about how she could never do this to me again and that she doesn’t want to lose me…bla…bla…bla…at any rate i gave in and said well i’m not saying i will never go out with you ever again but give me some time alone to think, because when i’m with her my emotional attachement to her does not allow me to think properly.
AT any rate this guy works the night shift at a place called canadian tire and he gets off at 5am… me my training partner and two other friends(one who got fired by this guy) are going to park my car out of sight and wait patiently for this fucker to come out. I am going to try and envoke a consensual fight (meaning that i’m gonna try and get this mother fucker to hit me) that way i can hit him into tommorow and it will hopefully completely scare the shit out of him to even initiate contact with Amanda… Other than that boys I have another girls phone number and ima call her ass up and go partying with her this weekend…l8r thanx…
shit, that was a fast turn around. As much as you think you want/need her, dont do it. you are 17, you havent even begun life yet. You will be at (if you arent already) college soon, and i tell you, there is no better tail than on a college campus. But that isnt the point. The point is trust. W/o trust there can be no love. And w/o honesty there can be no trust. And she has demonstrated on multiple occasions that she is fully capable of lying to your face. She cried the first time she said she would not talk to this guy again, didnt she? Those were fake, how can you be sure these arent? I have said it before and I will say it again, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. She has set a precident for her lying to you. When I was 17 I had a very similar situation happen to me. My ‘first love’ pretty much tore my heart out and tap danced on it, and then rubbed it in. Then she came crawling back, and I took her back. Then she did it again. Only this time it hurt 1000 times more because I had only myself to blame for it happening again. What I am about to say is not meant to be an insult, but if you have a brain in your head you wont take her back. EVER. Move on, she is not the answer to your problems, she is the source of them. Good luck, and I wish you the best.
Blake, I really feel sorry for you. But you are young, fighting is not the way to go. You should dump the B@tch. Once a cheater, always a cheater. She is just as much to blame as he is. It is not worth the time, energy or even the assault charges for some young girl. From one Tman to another, let it go…
Dude, i was in a similar situation and it hurts really bad. I was in a serious relationship and I just now realized that I wasted 4 years of my time. But you know what, it was actually a good learning experience for me. If someone treats you like shit, than they will always treat u like shit…therefore, hint hint you dont need bullshit drama like that! Beating people up isnt gonna solve anything, it will just put more salt on the wound…relax and ignore em…at least thats what I do. I know its easier said than done but getting the bad people out of your life and TIME is the only remedy. Your a youngin and you have your whole life ahead of you. Go to college and have fun, as you get older you will keep re-evaluating what you want in a relationship and what you dont want. The best kind of a relationship is a best friend.
Well, sometimes you just have to fuck up to learn about life. Get ready to learn, Blake.
BLAKE, seriously bro, you have got to listen to these people. Just about everyone goes through this at one time or another, and just about everyone makes the same mistakes. Just remember this, if she shit on you once, she’ll shit on you again. Peace.