I’ve lived my whole eighteen years of my life getting taken advantage of by other people and not defending myself. I never like fighting back and probably never will. I have always been the center of jokes, blamed for everything, and taken advantage of. I’ve lost count as to how many people hit me on a regular basis because they know I won’t do anything back to them.
I’ve been anti-violent my whole life and only now am I thinking its time to change. I’ve only recently read the “turn the other cheek” protocal in the bible and to “love thy enemy” but I’m thinking otherwise. I guess its true that nice guys finish last. However at the same time, my mind and heart are telling me to have patience and the second I give in to them, they win.
What are your opinions about this? Shall I let them hit me and take advantage of me, or am I doing the right thing?
Yes, quit being a pussy. If someone deserves to get their ass kicked I’m all for it. Just take the fight somewhere where you don’t get arrested and don’t hurt him too bad.
If I may quote the great philosophers “Little Texas”…
“You’ve got to kick at little and cause a stir
Sometimes you got to make some noise to be heard
If anybody ever tries to hold you back
Yeah you got to kick a little and be tough
You got to let 'em know you’ve had enough
Remember that unless you want to finish last
You’ve got to kick a little”
if you expressed confidance in yourself and gave off the persona that your not to be messed with you’ll never have to fight back, also choose your friends better.
It’s not so much the violence that counts, it’s the idea that you won’t take shit and have the means to demand the respect you deserve.
Next time someone comes after you, let him have it. Just don’t be stupid about it and get arrested. Word will travel pretty quickly and people will have a new respect for you. Unless you lose of course. Then you’ll be twice the bitch.
I feel bad for guys who have lived 12+ years of their lives with never being in a fight. Then again I was the youngest of 4 boys so… I didn’t really have a choice.
I disagree Tex. If you don’t back down people gain a respect for you. Not as much as if you win of course but.
Everyone that fights has lost a fight. Lose until you win, that’s the only way.
Oh and yes. If you’re older than 12 and you’ve never been in a fight, you’re a bitch. Or just a really nice guy. The kind that doesn’t get pussy.
Heres a plus. Every time I have fought and there was a girl in the vicinity, it was pretty much the deciding factor in whether or not I got laid that night. Nothing better than beating ass and then having some nice test-charged sex.
Never fighting doesn’t make you a nice guy so stop hiding behind that ideal. Never fighting makes you a bitch. I hope your still young too because fighting when you get older has far more consequences then young.
A nice guy will punch a guy in the mouth when they need it. Once you lose the feeling of being a coward, when people joke it might not hurt your feeling so much. You will probably joke back. People don’t crack on you because your a punk, they crack on you because their people. Your just so sensative because your insecure about your ability to fight. Join a boxing gym NOW. A real one too
If you’re 18 now, the fights should stop pretty soon anyway. I’ve been in a lot of fights growing up but once I got to college everyone pretty much chilled the hell out. Men don’t go around looking to pick fights. Boys do. Hopefully you won’t be put in this situation again.
And who’s picking on you, anyway? The only thing you can do to get bullies to stop picking on you is fight back. Even if you lose, they won’t want to fight you everytime they mess with you so they’ll stop.
PS. Anyone on here that goes around looking for fights needs to grow the fuck up. After a certain point, people stop caring who’s tough and who’s not.
Unless somebody is seriously trying to hurt you or an innocent bystander, there is no need to fight. Don’t let all of these internet tough guys tell you if you aren’t getting in fights you’re a pussy.
My suggestion: If you want to prevent people from picking on you, start lifting weights! People are a lot less likely to mess with you if you have a little muscle.
If somebody still insists on hitting you, and you don’t want to fight and aren’t able to walk away, all you have to do is make them think you are just a bit crazier than they are. Yell, scream, throw things, whatever it takes to get them to back down. Note, I did this once and it worked, but obviously it could easily backfire.
Bottom line, you can stick up for yourself without violence.