I am a young and horny guy, much like the rest of you I suspect.
I have been with a girl for 3 years now and I am really happy with the relationship (we are not married or anything like that). The sex is great and we both love each other.
The problem for me is that I am so horny. Every time I see another sexy girl I feel the need to knob her (and every other sexy woman on the planet). When I see a young babe in a crop top and hot pants - I am overwhelmed with sexual desire and because I can’t have it - that desire turns to regret, which leads to brooding - and that is unfair on my girfriend, becuase its not her fault at all that I am a horny bastard.
I feel bad becuase I know that if I cheated on her my girfriend and she found out - she would be really hurt. Similarly, if she were to cheat on me - I would be very hurt.
My girlfriend’s is really great and I couldn’t ask for a better girl - it’s just that when I think about how short life is I become sad because I feel as if I haven’t had sex with enough DIFFERENT women.
What do I do?
p.s. I dont want any comments like “you don’t really love her because if you did - you wouldn’t cheat on her”.
I assure you that I do love her and I don’t want another girfriend. I just want to fuck lots of women. It’t not emotional - only physical.
don’t know what to tell you except for you to find the “right” girl. and no I’m not saying when you do you won’t want to bone other girls, what I mean is either you won’t or your girl will understand, 3yrs. ago my girl got me an escort for my B-day, now yea it was fun and I can’t say we have not done anything similar since, but the desire by me to “taste all the flavors” is way down. now when she brings a “friend” home I’m “up” for it but I don’t NEED it. I know this may seem crazy but you would be suprised what women (or men) will think is not that important if he/she KNOWS that you love them, ya’ just gotta find the ONE for you, maybe she is, maybe she is not, but she DOES deserve your honesty, if only for health reasons (but also for other reasons)
Give up your stupid Christian morality and fuck as many girls as you want…but encourage her to fuck as many guys as she wants. It will improve your relationship with her 1,000%.
Look, you’re a guy. Every guy wants to fuck lots of women. He usually wants to fuck as many as he can at the same time. Do you honestly think you’re the only one with this problem? You want to fuck lots of women. Good for you, that’s natural. The problem is lots of women don’t want to fuck you. The truth hurts doesn’t it? I was in your situation two years ago. I followed my dick. I wish I hadn’t.
Son - have you come to the right place. First off, nice use of the word knobbing. I get laughs using it to girls past tense eg “that last time I knobbed you”. That and admitting to the offence of bonin too hard ;). If this girl is genuinely “the one”, and you can say that honestly from past experience and current observations (rather than as an easy way out), stay tight (as timbo would say) and never cheat on her. It will pay back tenfold. As far as the grass being greener on the other side, a forum member who may wish to chime in and I had a discussion the other day that basically the more girls you knob the more knob issues you end up with and the more doubts. Its possible that the perfect girl for you is the best knob which will leave you unhappy. I say this cause Ive nobbed em all from the pussy lovers quote in cheech and chong and then some and feel that Ive gotten nowhere by it, and maybe gone backwards by getting jaded or something. Sure there are innies and outies and different colors and flavours and hair variations and all but so what. In terms of sexual enjoyment, tightness, boobs and butt to tastes, proper bonin postures, and most importantly LOVE, are the only real knobbing issues. Quantity etc are red herrings. And I have cheated on every girl Ive been with had to date which once went back to back over 12 years (except the one of 5 days but it will be a loooooong weekend) and am 30 and not married so be ready for that and your fair share of nights alone if you decide to knob around cause everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, comes at a price.
Tough call… but most of us T-Men have had to face. Well, social rules dictate that you can either stay with her, or lose her and become a playa to max out your ‘action’ potential. Or if you’re REAL lucky, she’ll admit to being bisexual and then you’re one of the luckiest men on earth!
Its all about making that “decision” as to which way to go. You know right from wrong so I won’t even go there. Being on the fence and looking in both directions is what is driving you crazy. Making that “decision” will give you your freedom back and that desire you are feeling won’t have you down for the count. I know that desire can become a heavy weight for some of us. Enjoying my women moving, undulating, to the passions we would share together; or trying out others versions of the act. You also know the cost of trying others out. So make that “Decision” now and you won’t be screwed up bout wondering. I have had many sex-capades and just the memories turn me on. I still get offers, willing participants, who are wild like I like. I am free because I decided to have it one way. Not both. So every time I feel that desire coming on strong I have to decide all over again. I don’t stay in the middle and wonder about both choices. I make one(choice). What else can you do, get exercised of these “Wicked desires”? Oh, and you can learn from any mistakes along the way. Be well and keep building that character!
It sounds like you have a really great girl right now. So why screw that up? We all have those sexual thoughts and urges. It’s a natural part of being a T-man. Now it’s just a matter of whether you actually cheat on her and start boning these other women. But remember, just because you are attracted to all these other women, it doesn’t mean any of them want to have sex with you! So you could find yourself wanting it, but not getting it! I personally don’t believe in cheating on people. If you want to have sex with someone else, then either break up with your current mate or discuss the idea of having a more open relationship.
I’m currently seeing someone who is totally open about having a threesome with another girl. And she said that I can have sex with someone else if I want to. Just as long as I don’t hide it from her. So I have the best of both worlds. I’m having awesome sex and have someone who is open to many things.
Listen to DRE brother, I’m with him on this. Quantity is good, but from experience, Quality rules all. Keep in mind though, if your not gonna marry her, maybe sticking is counter productive to sewing your T-filled oats. If you think you might, are undecided or want to marry her, stick. Remember one thing, when you’re single, sex rarely comes knocking for most guys, hence why you need a game. And it takes a lot of time being single to develop your game. Expect a drought if you bolt.
Ok dude. I’ve been married twice. First marriage lasted 5 years before my wife cheated on me. When that happened I thought back on all the pussy that I had turned down in that time ('cause I was loyal). It really made me sick. I also remembered all the freaky girls that I dated over the years that wanted to bring in a 2nd girl for fun. I declined every time 'cause I thought it would hurt the relationship (how stupid). Biggest mistake (aside from the 2 marriages) I ever made. I’ve turned down 10x more 'tang than I’ve ever taken 'cause I had some weird ideal about whatever relationship I was in. In hindsight its been the wrong thing to do.
Wow Dre, you just suprised me. I had you figured for a guy that just wanted “bonin” and didn’t care for love. Everyone, man or woman, on the pure physical level wants to screw a lot of people. But when you factor in all the baggage and heart wrentching pain that comes with that lifestyle, it’s just not worth it. It’s easy to find yourself hardened and unable to truly love - since true love requires vulnerability. This has happened to almost all the girls I grew up with - breaks my heart to see their regrets. They tell me now that all they really want is what Joe and I have, but they are afraid they can’t get a good guy now that they have fallen into the perceived “slut” catagory. Every lifestyle does come with a price, my price being that I will only sleep with one man my entire life. Is that price worth the trust and complete fulfillment in our relationship? Oh yeah. I don’t see many people with the kind of understanding and acceptance that Joe and I have for eachother. I feel like I got the deal of the century. BTW - incase you are wondering, sex doesn’t have to get boring when you are married, if both people keep it creative it can be mind blowing, earth shattering, breath taking and toe curling - especially once the person knows you so well they instinctivly know what you want at any given time. Knowing how good it is at 5 years of marriage, I can’t wait for 20.
“This king who took another man’s wife already had a harem full of women. The simple fact is that the passion of sex is not satisfied by a full harem of women; it is increased. Having many women does not reduce a man’s libido, it excites it . . . it stimulates it.”
I am glad I am single because this is not an issue.
I was telling one of my friends who is married and expecting a child in the fall the difference between him being married and me being single.
I meet/ pick up and get laid by a different women 3-4 times a month, and him as a married man gets laid about the same amount of times haha.
Then at the end of the day he gets told what to do(he is whipped big time) and I do whatever the hell I want.
Already been down that road not married but common law which is the same thing no matter what the hell anyone says today. Now I will enjoy life and not have to make stupid decisions like this until I choose to have another realtionship, which at that time, yes I will still look at other woman, but no I dont cheat.
Get what I am saying here.
Be single or be attached, either way you choose follow the proper etiquitte ie dont cheat on your woman.
I don’t think anyone is offering this idiot advice. Sure, it’d be great if your woman was into threesomes, but until you ask, you won’t know. If she is not, then decide which is more important: being with the woman that you love and feel deeply for, or bonin chicks. If it’s bonin, then stop being a whiny, little dick, dump your girlfriend like the weak willed punk you are, and go ahead and plow away. Don’t come on here, bullshitting and complaining that your horny and want some vindication for cheating on your girl. That’s all you really want anyway. So decide which is more important to you, being a man or a weak willed horny punk.
You could always die tommorow while crossing the street to get your mail or something trivial. Die Happy and do what you can to die happy, if it means cheating on her at least do it right. #1 never and I mean never go somewhere public in which you could be sen and recognized. #2 Never ever ever ever take a girl out on a date, that is by all means technically cheating! meet her in a bar, a strip joint, a house party and make it a ONE NIGHT STAND! and leave it at that! #3 If you do cheat on her never ever ever ever ever ever tell her! it would definitely mean the end of your relationship. #4 remember you could always die tommorow, so live for today, but also remember you could always live to be 103 years old and hell has no fury like that of a woman scorned. #5 If you choose to cheat on her, rationalize it with “at least your cheating on her before she gets a chance to cheat on you!”, I truly think that in all relationships with time infidelity will occur, and it definitely hurts more if they do it to you first.