According to a book called A Passion for More: Wives Reveal the Affairs that Make or Break their Marriages, 90% of women who commit infidelity declare never feeling any remorse.
Moral of the story: Next time youre about to are to be more than just friends with some married hottie, dont make a case of conscience over her marriage if she opens to the door to you…you have 90% of chances she doesn`t give a damn either.
Nice to have some figures to back up what everybody already knew deep down inside themselves.
Machine: If you “don’t believe in the once a cheater always a cheater mentality”, then how can you say “that if she cheated on her man with you then she’ll definitely cheat on you with another man. Thinking she won’t is a mistake.”
If she’ll “definitely cheat on you” then she will definitely cheat on the guy after you…and the guy after him, and so on and so on and so on.
You contradicted your point about people changing in the very next statement.
Just remember that Men and Women cheat for different reasons.
Reminds me the old chemistry joke, stating that at the adeaquate conditions (temperature, humidity, etc.) the human psyche will damn do what it wants.
Same thing with relationships, I guess. And the only way to know if an ex-cheater has or not changed is to befriend them for a good amount of time (or be there when dangerous situations happen). Its like the bunch of buddies that hang out together all the time, you know each others profiles, but outsiders know rarely but a fraction of it. But almost nobody has that luxury before falling in love with someone.
Whats even worse is that some pardon` cheating. No, no, no. First of all, by not being black-or-white about it, it is an open invitation to the other to do it and still have his/her old faithful still available after the discovery. Some people have also told me that time heals the wound, too.
In my little world, its like a nuke button. Talk about it all you want before using it, negotiate before using it, work on the couple before using it, but once the other has decided to press the button, and I should know of it, there aint no turning back (i.e. ciao baby). I just could not trust the other as before.
“Once a cheater, always a cheater” implies people don’t change. For example, say a man cheats on his woman with some girl. They break up and later on he meets a NEW girl. The above statement implies he will cheat again on this NEW girl. This is where I disagree. People learn from relationships and change.
Now if the man had opted to leave his woman for the girl, then there is reason to suspect that he will cheat on her with another girl. Also, I should not have used the word definitely as there are exceptions with everything.
These are two different things in my opinion. Now do you understand what I mean?
Just because she does not “make a case of concience” over her marriage, that does not give you the right not to!
You have a duty not to get involved with a married person. Who is to say that, that very night she may see the light and get along with her husband for the next 50 years. If you look the other way and respect her marriage, this could occur.
Placing your own lusts ahead of someones marriage is selfish and usually not ultimately rewarding.
I have zero tolerance for infidelity. I have never done it, I have never considered it, and I have never wanted to do it.
That 90% of cheating women show no remorse after having cheated just shows you that 90% of cheating women are even worse bitches than the 10% that feel remorse.
Indeed. The one who draws the line is the one with the most higher standards.
But if you dont give a fuck, youve got 90% odds that the other who opens the door doesn`t even either. So, in a sense, it reminds us all that misery loves company, so to say.
The best one was from a real bitch I kned (the kind that smiled when you called her that way). She said if the married guy says yes, it`s absolutely all his fault, never hers.
Its bad enough that the numbers are on her side, statistically, shes representative. Must be the female equivalent of a guy willing to do anything to fuck a girl, consequence wise.
And, anyway, if you are in the 10% who could feel remorse, I sincerely hope one in this category would think before doing it, rather than feeling remore after, eh? Sure, remorse is one good thing if you will never do the bad deed again, but never doing it at start is even better.
Lets face it, you dont land your dick in some pussy by accident either. Things led there. It takes courage to face the reality of imperfect relationships, granted. Just bad that the number who take the easy route is so high. I would have expected 50%, not 90%. Gives even more fuel to the look at what they do, not what they say wisdom.
I think men are more likely to feel remorse because they’re more likely to cheat because they’re horny at the time, when nothing else is wrong with the relationship. Women are more likely to only cheat if they feel the relationship is already kaputt. . .therefore they feel like they’ve done nothing wrong. Of course that’s faulty reasoning and heartless.
If some woman wants to fuck up her relationship, or fuck it up further, by cheating, she’ll probably do it, whether it’s with you or with someone else. But I’m not gonna be the one she cheats with; I don’t want that on my conscience. There are plenty of nonmarried women if you want sex, or you can always go back to that old classic, beating off.
On the kaputt thing, right on. When youre happy in a relationship, you dont look somewhere else, you don`t even have the desire to fill-up something else somewhere.
Unless you are one of these types where normal is never enough and/or extras are always welcome. Then you`ve got another set of problems, IMHO.
I always try to keep in mind the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.
I know it’s not cool, or in your face,but I think it’s the best way to live. Less pain involved. When I say less pain I am referring to another old sang that I live by: “What comes around goes around”.