Sorry for this being a being another “breaking up” post. Just have to tell someone. Havent even told my friends yet, I just have to let this out somewhere!
Thing is, my girl of 2yrs has reached “that age”. Why is it that when girls hit 18, they wanna “experience other things” and “not have any regrets” in the future on what they’ve missed out in life?
Even though I was the one that broke it off in the first place, i know im gonna regret this in the future as shes the best looking and most fun girl i’ve ever known. I go to uni with her and thank god im a year above and dont have to see her getting chummy with all the guys shes recently started hanging out with. DAMN COMPUTING DEGREES……have too many guys competing for the few girls in them!!! I shouldn’t have encouraged her to do the course! My fault! I hate seeing her with other guys!
My main problem was with her going out with unknown “friends”, without me and never asking me to come. She’d always get drunk, and even last week called me from a fucking TOILET FLOOR of a club asking me to come get her! Believe me, I don’t want to be the insecure type, but I know how girls are when they have a bit of alcohol and are in clubs alone at that age!
She says she wishes never met me til she was “over it”(meaning picking up guys and sowing her wild oats) and still wants get back with me FUCKING AFTER shes through with whatever the fuck she wants to do. THERES NO FUCKING WAY im going to wait for her to do the rounds with everyone! Shes even going on a 1 mth trip all over Europe and planning on “experiencing things”. YEAH FUCK THAT!
Man this is a long post, so im sorry if I’ve pissed ppl off with my bullshit, but I goddam I had to get this off my chest…. PLUS I really enjoy the advice and shit of this forum! Thanks for bearing with me and getting this far into my post!
Forget about her. Find yourself other women, and let her know that you have them. if she comes back, treat her like shit without any respect, and don’t waste your time with her anymore.
One thing is now that she has lost me, shes always calling me and comming over crying and shit asking for hugs and all that crap saying shes so sad and blah blah.
I hate seeing girls cry, it make me feel like i’ve done something wrong. What i want to know is shes so upset when she was going to just see other people aswell. She cant have it both ways. Chicks are so strange! :s
Here’s what you do. When ever she calls and asks you do come pick her up or any other thing that requires you to go somewhere, just say, “sure, I’ll be right there, baby!” And then just don’t go. When she gets pissed and calls you back, say, “oh, crap, baby, I forgot. The Brady Bunch just came on and Bobby was just so upset with Cindy that I completely forgot about you. I’ll be right there!” It might take awhile for her to get the idea but unless she’s a moron, she’ll quit taking advantage of you. So, now, when she comes over and complains that you aren’t very considerate, just agree with her and keep trying to get her to have sex. She’ll think that you dont’ care about her for nothing but a fuck toy. Make sure you use a condom, as you mentioned she’s turned into a slut…er, I mean “sewing her oats.”
I’m not trying to dawg you, dude, but I’m guessing that you’re pretty young yourself and don’t really have a clue as to what love really is. Sure, this puppy love shit is a bitch, but don’t let if get you so fucked up that you let some whore lead you around by the nose with her pussy.
Anyway. Good luck and slap that bitch up.
All jokes aside, I have to confess that when I was in college, my girlfriend at the time pulled the same crap…and…I was dumb enough to get back together with her after her little ‘phase.’ By god I wish someone slapped me silly as soon as I considered the notion. I can’t blame anyone, my friends DID say I was a moron, but the next almost full year after we were together was marred by the continuous thoughts of everything that happened, both things I knew plus all the gruesome images your imagination supplies. Even though there were happy moments, everything was tainted by my disrespect for her, and probably, most importantly, my disrespect for myself for getting back together with her. Needless to say the relationship ended, but that second half of the relationship I look at as almost a waste of my life. Put it this way…if a girl that hot wanted to be with you to begin with, and might really want to get back together with you later, you are going to have no problem finding a cute girl who WON’T put you through shit, either.
Give yourself some time to be a little bumbed out. Then realize that she is 18 and will change more in the next five years than in the last eighteen. Be happy you learned a lot in that relationship and use that to have an even better relationship with whoever is really meant for you. And possibly most important…Don’t be a dick to her when you see her in public. KILL HER WITH KINDNESS. Tell her she looks great no matter what, tell her you have found memories, but don’t ever schlep back into bed with her…Use that to get in all her friends pants if you want but don’t let her even think she has a chance. Just be overwhelmingly nice to her in public and don’t call or talk to her any other time. This strategey will ensure you will be in the drivers seat from here on out. Five years from now you will be happy you handle this properly. Trust me bro, you gotta go through this shit a couple of times before you know what you are doing and how to pick them, then you still gotta be really lucky. You will know when it is time to drop that pain like a sack of bricks. But in the mean time kill her with kindness.
It seem you still have feeling for this girl. Hey, that is okay, but how do you feel when she is calling you to drag her ass out of the toilet? Used? She may be going through a phase, but that is where she wants to be. You don’t want to follow her there, because you will end up feeling used and hurt. Right not you are in denial, next you will become angry, then you will negotiate (Be her step and fetch-it) and finally you will accept it.
Try and save yourself a lot of grief. Walk away. I had too once. Yeah, I hurt for a while. But years later when I ran into her again we were able to be friends. Only friends because during her wild phase she got a couple of diseases that I don’t want.
Watch out for yourself kiddo.
I know exactly what you’re talking about, yet my situation is with a wife of 9 years and two kids later. After starting work after bing at home with the kids she started going our regulary with her new friends, most of whom were 10 years younger. she would get drunk and then drive home every Thursday, otherwise known as ladies night. She would tell be about the male strippers, yet note that I was better looking. The last time she did this she returned the following morning. She explained she got extremely drunk and was afraid to come home so she kept on driving and ended up passing out behind a restuarant. she then called me the next morning threatening to commit suicide. After talking her back into coming home she assumed everything was fine. Two days later I told her to move out. We tried to work things out after a few weeks but then she told me she was going out again and I told her to not come back home then.
Consider yourself fortunate that you know now instead of having her as a wife and mother of your kids tellign you she got married too soon as she prepares to go to Las Vegas with her friends on a weekend the two of you had already planned to get away. She did you a favor buddy!
Remember that stoner girl who freaked out on me? She’s touring Europe on her back as we speak. (well I’d bet any money she is) She’s a harcore party girl & she went by herself & she’ll be gone for another 6 weeks or so.
Sounds like she has ‘Party girl syndrome’, Hate to tell you this, but it is a common condition that girls rarely ever fully recover from. Guys get ‘Party guy syndrome’ just as severe. If you are the type that needs a monogomous relationship, just let her go. DO NOT continue to drag her out of bar toilets, or let her come over to whine about her life. Be nice, but be up front with her. If she tries to get back with you after, tell her she lost her opportunity, be polite. Trust me, once a girl or guy gets on this syndrome, they tend to have relapses no matter how many times they promise they won’t. It will make you a jealous wreck, life’s too short, go find yourself a good girl, let the diseased people rot together. Don’t let her drag you down with her. A normal well balanced person is aware of the fact that ‘Experiencing life’ is best done with a loving faithfull partner and doesn’t involve drunken orgies. Unless your a freak, and that’s your kind of thing. Aw crap! I just got all preachy on you, sorry man.
This is one of the reasons I haven’t dated in college. Don’t get me wrong, I have no problem with a little experimenting and having fun. People are entitled to a few mistakes. I refuse, however, to buy into that game.
I dated a girl the summer after my freshman year that was beautiful, talented, and really wonderful to be around. She broke up with me because she wanted “time for herself.” This basically meant screwing with my head for five months and making out with me randomly (I kept thinking we were going to get back together, as she said we would), until she finally got a job over the summer at a theme park and ran through most of the male employees. The height of the bullshit was when she asked me to take her to a party, and it turned out she’d gone there to meet some guy. Young women are nothing but trouble, let me tell you.
At the same time, you will eventually get over it. Just try not to be around her. It took me forever to get over my last gf, because I basically live with her family, so I was constantly having the wound ripped open again.
Okay, I’m a probably a rareity in this, but it does remind me of my first year at college. My girl was a mess. She fooled around on my and even slept with a sucked this guy off. She had this completely psyco friend that was only adding ot the problem. I was a stupid freshman and put up with it all. Well, when the psyco girl died, I found out about everything. I actually called her while she was helping make funeral plans and told her to come back at which point I called her out on it all. I went out and had a month of two of fun. She kept calling me and and I would treat her like shit (calling her all kinds of names and making her feel horrible for what she did). After a couple of months, she really pushed to get me back. I laid down the law, said I didn’t trust her, that she could never see that guy again, and that I would NEVER put up with any of that shit again. Over 4 years later, I’m in her bedroom writing this post. Point is, lay down the law, she either takes it or not. If not, toss her aside, you can get everything she gave you minus all of the headaches somewhere else.
Im starting to think that this has happened to almost all guys at one point in their lives. It doesnt feel like im the only one.
Do you guys every stop thinking about “the one” that strayed? I think i should just forget about her looks and see the REAL her, which basically shines through her newly found slutty personality.
When my gf first broke up with me, I talked to a guy I knew that was married and had a child. He had dated a young girl years and years ago (I think she was 16) and fell in love with her, and she broke his heart. He told me that eventually it doesn’t get to you as much. He is in love with his wife, but every once in awhile he’ll still think of that girl and cry. I still miss my ex sometimes, but it doesn’t hurt nearly as bad. And you know what they say… the best cure for an old love is a new one!
Hey loner,
I look back on my psycho ex (years ago now - she cheated I took her back etc etc), and think thank Fxxk I had such a shitty relationship early on, cause now i know what i definitely wont put up with. Yeah it hurts at the time, but live and learn brother, most of us have been there and are stronger for it! And if she keeps calling you and stuff, just tell her you’ve got a date that night and cant see her, make her jealous, have some fun with it.
