[quote]flipcollar wrote:
You get zero feedback in terms of what actually works and what doesn’t. Strippers will laugh at your shitty jokes, pretend to pay attention when you talk about yourself too much, etc.[/quote]
You’re right about that feedback; it’s certainly skewed.
But that’s not really the objective.
Initially, she’s pretending to pay attention, or laughing at your jokes, or whatever form of feigning interest, because she thinks it will translate into cash. It’s a business, and time is money. Any time she spends with you could be spent trying to earn money elsewhere.
So, if all you’re doing is talking about yourself too much and telling shitty jokes, as soon as she realizes you’re not going to spend any money, she’s gone.
But, if you’re able to engage her in a way where she actually enjoys herself around you – not pretend enjoy, but genuinely enjoys herself – then you’re doing something right. And that’s actually pretty straightforward feedback. If she’s choosing to spend time with you on your own merit, and not because you’re paying her to, then you’re figuring some things out. If she’s willing to forego other options because she’d rather be in your company, then you’re getting the right kind of feedback.
Essentially, she’s offering a physical experience for money, and instead, you offer her an emotional experience in exchange for her time. It’s not like some girl you meet on the street who might indulge you because she’s bored and she thinks you’re kind of cute or whatever; in this case she actually has something else (better?) to do with her time.
And honestly, most of that is simply “being fun to be around”, and the rest is just learning to read someone, pick up on emotional cues and direct a conversation. It’s learning how to pass through a facade and provide a compelling experience for the real person underneath.
It’s really nothing special when you figure it out… you just hang out with some girl, flirt with her, laugh together, enjoy each other’s company. Once it becomes natural, it’s really not a big deal. Yeah, she could be trying to make money off other guys, but why would she, she’s having fun hanging out with you. Sometimes having fun is more important.
Of course you can go through the normal “meet a girl; screw up; repeat” cycle, constantly improving on it, along with the time/money/heartbreak and slowly figure this stuff out. This is just one way to accelerate the learning process, without the kind of expectations and hurt that comes with a series of “real” relationships.
That’s basically the gist of what I’m trying to get to. Same knowledge, just a different way to acquire it.
That said, once you’ve actually begun a relationship, there’s a long list of new things that need to be figured out. Strip clubs won’t help with any of that. But he’s nowhere near that point now.
My cousin who is a mechanic has built a large business, with contracts to maintain fleet vehicles/trucks for large companies. He’s doing great.