2025: New Year, New You! 🤮

[Alrightmiami19c]

@ChickenLittle

This year has been very difficult. Dealing with my mom’s health issues and eventual passing just before Thanksgiving has left me in “survival mode”.

Main goal for the new year is to find the OLD me. The disciplined me. The me that would go knock the ice off the barbell and put the work in. I feel if I can get that back the other goals will fall into place.

Very relatable. My mother was hospitalized 2 days before Christmas and may be having her second bypass surgery this week.

More discipline is also what im after in 2025.

[ChickenLittle]

Sorry to read this. We will send healing thoughts for a successful surgery and a speedy recovery.

[PowPowPunishment]

My condolences and positive thoughts as well. I lost my father this year and it’s been very hard.

On another topic, some great metal choices in this topic. Morbid Angel kicks ass.

My resolution is to be more organized with life things. Documents, appointments, confirming events well ahead of time, etc. I’ve been so busy this year with juggling work, boxing, and weightlifting, while still trying to have a social life, that it’s been all too easy to neglect the more mundane aspects of living until the last minute when I need whatever it is.

[marine77]

Morbid Angel… Domination is the best training album

[welshphil]

I’m determined to be as disciplined with recovery as I am with training.

[marine77]

That’s huge… we all love training so much we forget recovery is far more important

[supabeast]

Spend less time online. Especially reddit. Reddit isn’t a cancer like some social media outlets, but most subs are circle jerks of bot posts. I’ve already cut back on YouTube because it’s also turned into a circle jerk of people redoing their old videos or knocking off someone else’s.

Lift more. I took time off twice in the last decade and never got back into it the right way. Since June I’ve been doing full body three times a week, now I’m going up to four times a week. I’ve been at a plateau on some lifts for a while so if I don’t start making real progress I’m going to talk to a doctor about TRT. I’d love to get on real gear but I have bipolar disorder so I’m not fucking with anything that could put me in a psych ward.

Get back to playing bass. This year I bought two of them, and a new amp, and I don’t play them. I have literally never plugged one of them in to see if it works.

Read more. I have piles of unread books sitting around the house. There’s a shipment of 20 books arriving via UPS on Thursday. And finish cataloging what I have; I have dozens of books that need to be entered into three different catalogs.

Write more. I want to start writing one short story a month. Maybe in a few years I’ll have something a scrappy little weird fiction anthology will publish.

[Brant_Drake]

@supabeast

piles of unread books sitting around the house.

I am also guilty of Tsundoku.

@supabeast

scrappy little weird fiction anthology

Maybe start a writers thread for people to bounce ideas around? I’d like to see your ideas.

[j4gga2]

Break my porn addiction. Finish my master’s degree. Start a PhD

[tlgains]

I’d like to find a mentor for commercial real estate. Specifically someone who is an entrepreneur/doing deals with other investors, preferably in the area I live in/the northeast.

It will be a matter of finding who, contacting them, and then offering to buy them lunch or something lol.

[dchris]

• Incline bench 315
• OHP 225
• Improve vertical, measured by dunking ability (can dunk now, but can’t really slam it like when younger)
• Make my 150lb med ball my bitch, like my 100lb ball is
• Compete five times in BJJ
• Change roles at work to get my work/life balance back
• Run five miles like it’s nothing

Should all be achievable, especially if second to last is accomplished.

[marine77]

You’re really a porn addict? Serious question.

[Njord]

@tlgains

I’d like to find a mentor for commercial real estate. Specifically someone who is an entrepreneur/doing deals with other investors, preferably in the area I live in/the northeast.

It will be a matter of finding who, contacting them, and then offering to buy them lunch or something lol.

Go to local, general networking groups. You’ll find people from overlapping professions but real estate is often represented. You’ll have to do a little research and membership is typically limited to prevent an overwhelming number of competitors but let them know your ambition and you’ll probably crack a door.

Also, if it’s a real interest, invest in yourself.

Go to the following conference. You won’t come away an investor but you’ll know more than you did and where to start looking. People will probably offer to let you reach out if you put yourself out there too.

Commercial Real Estate Technology & Innovation Conference

[Well_Swung]

1. Get weight under 220 pounds (100 kilos)
2. Reduce time spent online. Tried going cold turkey in the past but would slip up - this year I plan to LINEAR PERIODIZATION that will allow an hour during the week and 2 hours on the weekend then over time reduce to 1/2 hour during the week and 1 hour on the weekend.
3. Reconnect with old friends, relatives - long work hours and COVID have lead to some isolation
4. Build an Adirondack chair

Career wise I plan to stay at current job the next 2 years, max out retirement contributions and pay off debt (car, student loans)

, then look for a role with better work life balance. Hoping saving aggressively and paying off debt will give me some leeway on the “life” side of things in case I need to take a pay cut.

[j4gga2]

Yes, it’s been an issue since before I was a teenager

[Brant_Drake]

Again, seriously curious, how did it start and develop (especially with the pre-teenagaer comment), what caused you to decide it is an addiction, have there been negative consequences, and what do you plan/hope to do going forward?

@j4gga2

This is a great start to New Year - a bunch of us are rallying around you.

[marine77]

It’s powerful… gorgeous women… big tits… nasty… zero effort… zero attachment… truly evil stuff

[tlgains]

Thank you for this Njord, I appreciate this a lot. I agree, going to local networking events should be a priority as well as attending conferences to educate myself.

During my senior year of college, I’ve attended a property rehab tour, networking group, and wholesale workshop at a local REIA group (all residential real estate). LOL when talking to people I could definitely tell that some didn’t respect me because I didn’t take action of any sort. Also, I was going in blind with little research.

It was a nice life lesson though. No one likes the “handout” mentality and I need to offer something if I want something from someone, even if it’s simply being a good listener or being likable, skills, etc. doesn’t have to be money, but obviously that helps.

I should have a better experience networking since I now have a house near a university and I am currently working on renting out the bedrooms (I’ve been getting a lot of traction with this since advertising 2 Saturdays ago. Commercial is an entirely different game than residential, but now I have something to talk about…and I’m confident a potential mentor will take me seriously because I took some sort of action.

[Njord]

@tlgains

LOL when talking to people I could definitely tell that some didn’t respect me because I didn’t take action of any sort. Also, I was going in blind with little research.

It was a nice life lesson though. No one likes the “handout” mentality and I need to offer something if I want something from someone

You’re going to find successful people like to mentor. But they aren’t going to waste time on bullshit.

Forget the stereotypes. Most millionaires aren’t trust fund babies, even if many did grow up comfortably with built in mentors.

They’re looking for someone who can take the knowledge they’re able to share and run with it. Wasting time on failures to launch, for whatever reason, doesn’t compute.

Even if you don’t have something to offer per se, an earnest interest in learning and growing, with a can-do attitude that shows you’ll run the ball, will go far. Don’t show up to networking groups like a peer right now. Show up your honest self; curious and looking for a foothold.

It’s partially altruistic, but the return they get is almost a legacy of sorts. They’ve passed a torch.

So don’t look like a dead fuse.

You’re going to be fine. The curiosity is there. Match it with optimism and a move forward attitude.

Edit: you will encounter some sharks. Use your spidey senses to decipher between mentorship and abusive manipulation. But don’t confuse your spidey senses with pessimism. You’ll figure it out.

[j4gga2]

@Brant_Drake

how did it start and develop (especially with the pre-teenagaer comment)

When I was 10-11, my best friend was 12-13. Naturally, he “knew” a lot more about that sort of stuff than I otherwise should/have come across. He was the one who introduced me to it.

When you’re that young, I had no concept of whether or not porn was damaging. Hence, I saw no reason not to consume it far too much from a very young age.

Then, through my teens I think porn (over)use is far too normalised. All my friends watched and talked about porn, so again, I didn’t see anything wrong with my use.

My usage definitely escalated in high school. It also led me to some very seedy places, like adult sex chat rooms when I was only 14/15.

@Brant_Drake

what caused you to decide it is an addiction

I’ve known it was a problem for me for at least the last 4 years.

@Brant_Drake

have there been negative consequences

My issues with porn (and it’s “side effects”) was the primary reason for my previous long term relationship to break down.

Recently, it led me to nearly lose my current partner as well. Without going into excessive detail, I had an escalation of the problem a few days back. I told my partner about it immediately, and came clean about the extent of the issue. I nearly lost her that day, but I’m extremely grateful that she’s supporting me to break the addiction.

Apart from this, porn has been extremely damaging to my ability to focus/study, manage tasks, my personal self-esteem and my sexual function. It also lead to something awfully close to sex addiction when I was last single.

@Brant_Drake

and what do you plan/hope to do going forward?

I’m currently seeking out addiction therapy, but it’s expensive and in high demand. My partner is helping keep me accountable, and I’m being mindful of avoiding triggers