[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
Don’t get it twisted, I’m not ugly by any means. I’m 6’3 215lb and have been with my fair share of women. I’ve never had to “try” with women, so when a better looking guy enters the fray I just naturally prefer to go to the next one where I don’t need to try as hard. Does that make sense?
However, I really like this girl. I really appreciate the replies so far. I think the tough love has motivated me to go for it. I’d say the only thing holding me back now is the fear of rejection. If I swing and miss I fear our entire friendship will collapse. Maybe I should just send subtle hints, judge her reactions and wait for her to move?
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if you care about your friendship then I would strongly suggest that you avoid making any advances…
romance is the greatest way to destroy friendships
[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
Don’t get it twisted, I’m not ugly by any means. I’m 6’3 215lb and have been with my fair share of women. I’ve never had to “try” with women, so when a better looking guy enters the fray I just naturally prefer to go to the next one where I don’t need to try as hard. Does that make sense?
However, I really like this girl. I really appreciate the replies so far. I think the tough love has motivated me to go for it. I’d say the only thing holding me back now is the fear of rejection. If I swing and miss I fear our entire friendship will collapse. Maybe I should just send subtle hints, judge her reactions and wait for her to move?
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How about instead you just casually say to her “Hey, ya wanna go Go-Cart racing with me tomorrow?” and see where it goes from there.
I’ve been turned down so many times in my life it’s stupid…but I go for girls out of my league and once in a while I catch one…go for her if she turns you down, who cares. No piece of ass is worth being insecure about.
[quote]chobbs wrote:
I’ve been turned down so many times in my life it’s stupid…but I go for girls out of my league and once in a while I catch one…go for her if she turns you down, who cares. No piece of ass is worth being insecure about.[/quote]
Must of missed the part where is friends with her and might not want to trash the friendship
[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
Don’t get it twisted, I’m not ugly by any means. I’m 6’3 215lb and have been with my fair share of women. I’ve never had to “try” with women, so when a better looking guy enters the fray I just naturally prefer to go to the next one where I don’t need to try as hard. Does that make sense?
However, I really like this girl. I really appreciate the replies so far. I think the tough love has motivated me to go for it. I’d say the only thing holding me back now is the fear of rejection. If I swing and miss I fear our entire friendship will collapse. Maybe I should just send subtle hints, judge her reactions and wait for her to move?
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if you care about your friendship then I would strongly suggest that you avoid making any advances…
romance is the greatest way to destroy friendships[/quote]
[quote]chobbs wrote:
I’ve been turned down so many times in my life it’s stupid…but I go for girls out of my league and once in a while I catch one…go for her if she turns you down, who cares. No piece of ass is worth being insecure about.[/quote]
[quote]anonym wrote:
I don’t care what anyone in this thread says, you should try and do the whole “good looking” thing ASAP.
Makes life just so much easier.[/quote]
this, however, since we are talking about attracting women in this thread… my advice to OP would be to do the following:
-quit your job
-drop out of school
-drink heavily and do drugs
-treat females like shit… be blunt and brutal. call them “bitches, whores, c*nts” etc. be very controlling and demeaning… consider physical abuse
-consider contracting std’s, they give you an element of “uniqueness”
you will have more pussy than you will know what to do with. [/quote]
Hahaha, even though he catches shit for this it is so true of women around my age group. I am 21 btw. Now when women reach the ages of like 25 or so, this probably changes.[/quote]
Seems like you need to elevate the women you hang around if that’s what they are into
[quote]chobbs wrote:
I’ve been turned down so many times in my life it’s stupid…but I go for girls out of my league and once in a while I catch one…go for her if she turns you down, who cares. No piece of ass is worth being insecure about.[/quote]
Do you even read, brah?
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Damn Ryan lol[/quote]
Part of the reason for me starting up this thread was because I thought many guys here have been in similar situations where they’ve had to compete for a girl’s affection. It would be interesting to hear some stories instead of pages of anecdotes (which have definitely helped me start changing my belief system).
[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
Don’t get it twisted, I’m not ugly by any means. I’m 6’3 215lb and have been with my fair share of women. I’ve never had to “try” with women, so when a better looking guy enters the fray I just naturally prefer to go to the next one where I don’t need to try as hard. Does that make sense?
However, I really like this girl. I really appreciate the replies so far. I think the tough love has motivated me to go for it. I’d say the only thing holding me back now is the fear of rejection. If I swing and miss I fear our entire friendship will collapse. Maybe I should just send subtle hints, judge her reactions and wait for her to move?
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if you care about your friendship then I would strongly suggest that you avoid making any advances…
romance is the greatest way to destroy friendships[/quote]
For once I can agree
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It definitely can, but it won’t always. It really depends. Friendships with latent infatuation only last so long though. It comes down to what dissolves first.
[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
Part of the reason for me starting up this thread was because I thought many guys here have been in similar situations where they’ve had to compete for a girl’s affection. It would be interesting to hear some stories instead of pages of anecdotes (which have definitely helped me start changing my belief system).[/quote]
I do, but you don’t need to hear it. It won’t help you lol. Trust me when I say finalized decisions and taking risks are critical.
[quote]anonym wrote:
I don’t care what anyone in this thread says, you should try and do the whole “good looking” thing ASAP.
Makes life just so much easier.[/quote]
this, however, since we are talking about attracting women in this thread… my advice to OP would be to do the following:
-quit your job
-drop out of school
-drink heavily and do drugs
-treat females like shit… be blunt and brutal. call them “bitches, whores, c*nts” etc. be very controlling and demeaning… consider physical abuse
-consider contracting std’s, they give you an element of “uniqueness”
you will have more pussy than you will know what to do with. [/quote]
Hahaha, even though he catches shit for this it is so true of women around my age group. I am 21 btw. Now when women reach the ages of like 25 or so, this probably changes.[/quote]
Seems like you need to elevate the women you hang around if that’s what they are into
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perhaps… but Stephan128 agreed with me so I know it’s not just the girls I know…
[quote]Waittz wrote:
Can’t help, I’m always the other guy.
Make more money then him, it’s your only hope seeing how you have no confidence. A Porsche can fix that. [/quote]
You are in la-la land and you pick a PORSCHE? Don’t get me wrong, the car is beautiful and I admire it, but every porsche I see is driven by exactly the type of people who are 100% see-through in their choices.
I’m old as fuck, fucked up hairline and wrinkles, lemme get a Porsche because “it can fix that”.
m3 is where it’s at(if we are talking less than… you know 80k cars). [/quote]
Because I drive a Porsche. I’m under 30 and have a full head of hair so fuck your assumptions.
[quote]anonym wrote:
I don’t care what anyone in this thread says, you should try and do the whole “good looking” thing ASAP.
Makes life just so much easier.[/quote]
this, however, since we are talking about attracting women in this thread… my advice to OP would be to do the following:
-quit your job
-drop out of school
-drink heavily and do drugs
-treat females like shit… be blunt and brutal. call them “bitches, whores, c*nts” etc. be very controlling and demeaning… consider physical abuse
-consider contracting std’s, they give you an element of “uniqueness”
you will have more pussy than you will know what to do with. [/quote]
Hahaha, even though he catches shit for this it is so true of women around my age group. I am 21 btw. Now when women reach the ages of like 25 or so, this probably changes.[/quote]
Seems like you need to elevate the women you hang around if that’s what they are into
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Haha, I never said I hang around them. I just know of people from my old high school and the college I am currently attending that date these “losers.”