[quote]theoak wrote:
It’s tough- but you have to realize that you lack the faith in yourself to keep her attention. I believe the above quote to be the most important to remember- if she didn’t have romantic feelings about you, she would be with someone else. Believe in that, and the rest will follow. i hope that helps a bit
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“Get your hands,
off the girl,
Can’t you see that she belongs to me?
And I don’t appreciate this
Excess company.
Tho’ I can’t satisfy
All the needs she has
and so she starts to wander…
Can you blame her?”
[quote]X-Factor wrote:
TigerFighter wrote:
Sounds like your in love. Have you told her yet?
What a stupid statement to throw around. Quite honestly it does’nt sound like he’s in love if all he cares about is himself right now and his problems. In my opinion it takes 2 to be in love and the way this guy is thinking it’s a one way boulevard to love town, which is merely a layover to divorce court. Fuckin typical north american bullshit. No doubt he loves her. But it takes 2 to be in love.
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Yea man, and based on your responses to this so far, you are in fact the supreme authority on matters of the heart.
WaHAhahahaha!
If I had to guess, you must be accustomed to some sort of failure from the past. I dont know what that means exactly, more specifically in what form. Maybe you’ve had a haunting growing up where your relationships never last. Were you a loner growing up? Abuse programs? A distant or far removed father? My bet is on this last one…
[quote]X-Factor wrote:
TigerFighter wrote:
Sounds like your in love. Have you told her yet?
What a stupid statement to throw around. Quite honestly it does’nt sound like he’s in love if all he cares about is himself right now and his problems. In my opinion it takes 2 to be in love and the way this guy is thinking it’s a one way boulevard to love town, which is merely a layover to divorce court. Fuckin typical north american bullshit. No doubt he loves her. But it takes 2 to be in love.
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What exactly are you arguing?
There sure are a shitload of psychologists on this board.
Thats it! I’ll make up a new name for this new disease I’ve been coming up with,then I’ll say you have the disease,then put you on a bunch of pills!!!
Good old America.
Always looking for ways to label a new disease.
You’re just a jealous person,thats it.
Quit acting like a little kid and grow up.
Learn to trust your girl…unless she has a history of being unfaithful???
I was a bit insecure with every single girl I ever dated / loved / spent years with.
Except my wife. Who I was never insecure with, ever, since the time I met her and every day / year since.
All previous relationships were pretty strong and could have made workable marriages but there would have been fights / doubts, I am sure, possibly even homicides with some of them, even though there was a lot of strong feelings both ways.
So maybe it is just a bit of a personality clash, or something.
Apart from that it could just be that you are being insecure. Which is just a bad habit of thinking, and needs to be nailed down so you can stop doing it. Whenever you start thinking it, you need to start thinking something else, for example, if you see her ogling some guy realise that despite the fact she is attracted to that guy she is with YOU, so really it is a sign that your relationship is stronger than you thought, not weaker.
Also let it be known that if she cheats you will dump her sorry ass. You don’t have to tell her that, but you do have to believe it yourself, and act thusly. Which she will pick up on. You must accept nothing less. And she must accept nothing less of you, too.
It sounds an awful lot like you have a legitamate psychological condition called, “Abandonment Anxiety”. My Father, also a very good looking man, well paid, in great physical condition (a surfer), incredibly intelligent, but some similar symptoms.
I’d really advise you seek some professional counselling about this - if anything, it’ll be good to have someone to sit down and talk to about it. Lots of people will probably flame me for this, but hey, mental health is as important to maintain as physical health, if not more so. I’m not ashamed to say that I’ve seen a psychiatrist before, just like I’m not ashamed to say I’ve seen a Chiropractor, or been to the emergency room.
take care of yourself dude, you won’t be sorry, and I’m sure your girl won’t be either.[/quote]
Go to your psych book and look up borderline personality disorder. This can make the life of the other person in the relationship a living hell.
Just think that if she is checking out other guys you can rest assured that she still has some sexual energy and you can really capitalize on that. I would. Just think of the days you were checking out hotties in the gym and when you got home to your girlfriend you made her scream like there was no tomorrow. Think of it as reaping benefits on another guys hard work. Hey, if she is checking out a muscular dude and you hit it that night, guess what, you still hit it. Her thinking about him could increase her sex drive. This is a wonderful thing if you are giving it to her enough. So keep hitting it.
[quote]X-Factor wrote:
For starters don’t EVER let her know you’re insecure, can you say, turn-off? Girls hate that shit. You’ll like a needy fuck head. Whenever this bitch thinks that you are “insecure” or needy or anything, she is gonna cluster-fuck the next group of guys she sees. As for you, you’re being a whiny bitch, if you are good looking, well built, have everything going for etc. Then why do you even GIVE A SHIT if she dumps you. Her loss. Fuck she should be worried about you leaving her ass in that case. If I were you I would get some female friends and start hanging around with them. That’ll put her mind on trying to keep you rather than not letting you know she’s fucking your brother. AND if she is cheating then you have a support network of vaginas with interwoven labias ready to catch you and lubricate your broken little heart with a beautifully pheromoned liquid ecstasy. Does’nt that sound nice. Now shut up and stop fuckin crying. You know thereis nothing to worry about you just want us to tell you that.[/quote]
[quote]X-Factor wrote:
For starters don’t EVER let her know you’re insecure, can you say, turn-off? Girls hate that shit. You’ll like a needy fuck head. Whenever this bitch thinks that you are “insecure” or needy or anything, she is gonna cluster-fuck the next group of guys she sees. As for you, you’re being a whiny bitch, if you are good looking, well built, have everything going for etc. Then why do you even GIVE A SHIT if she dumps you. Her loss. Fuck she should be worried about you leaving her ass in that case. If I were you I would get some female friends and start hanging around with them. That’ll put her mind on trying to keep you rather than not letting you know she’s fucking your brother. AND if she is cheating then you have a support network of vaginas with interwoven labias ready to catch you and lubricate your broken little heart with a beautifully pheromoned liquid ecstasy. Does’nt that sound nice. Now shut up and stop fuckin crying. You know thereis nothing to worry about you just want us to tell you that.[/quote]
Bro, date another girl. Your article pains me. You are the man. Just the fact that you are thinking that she might be getting a text from another guy shows that your mind is in the wrong place.
[quote]chewie wrote:
X-Factor wrote:
For starters don’t EVER let her know you’re insecure, can you say, turn-off? Girls hate that shit. You’ll like a needy fuck head. Whenever this bitch thinks that you are “insecure” or needy or anything, she is gonna cluster-fuck the next group of guys she sees. As for you, you’re being a whiny bitch, if you are good looking, well built, have everything going for etc. Then why do you even GIVE A SHIT if she dumps you. Her loss. Fuck she should be worried about you leaving her ass in that case. If I were you I would get some female friends and start hanging around with them. That’ll put her mind on trying to keep you rather than not letting you know she’s fucking your brother. AND if she is cheating then you have a support network of vaginas with interwoven labias ready to catch you and lubricate your broken little heart with a beautifully pheromoned liquid ecstasy. Does’nt that sound nice. Now shut up and stop fuckin crying. You know thereis nothing to worry about you just want us to tell you that.
Absolute genius. [/quote]
Any Chewie, BEFORE you start writing like that, why don’t you tell the readers a little bit about yourself. Why you might be the expert, have the answers, etc (i.e. credibility). For all we know, you could be unhappily married to a bitch of a woman who tells you to sit down when you pee, or perhaps you haven’t had a date in 5 years, or maybe you are the man and a total player.
I must tell you your suspicions are correct. That text message you speak of was actually a picture of me after hours at the gym doin naked curls(brace yourself) in the squat rack. And when she goes out clubbing with members from her office. Well it’s actually my member she has on her mind. Your not insecure but the previous poster hit it on the head. Your penis was just way too small. Sorry for the upset stomach.
“Get your hands,
off the girl,
Can’t you see that she belongs to me?
And I don’t appreciate this
Excess company.
Tho’ I can’t satisfy
All the needs she has
and so she starts to wander…
Can you blame her?”[/quote]
Like quoting Rivers is going to help this guy…
Actually nothing on this site and no posts from anyone are going to help this guy. If someone is insecure about themselves they’re damn sure not going to solve their problem by asking guys on this website.
No offense to anyone here, I think all the advice is good…I’m just saying being insecure is a deep, internal condition that won’t be solved easily and not on here.
“Get your hands,
off the girl,
Can’t you see that she belongs to me?
And I don’t appreciate this
Excess company.
Tho’ I can’t satisfy
All the needs she has
and so she starts to wander…
Can you blame her?”
Like quoting Rivers is going to help this guy…
Actually nothing on this site and no posts from anyone are going to help this guy. If someone is insecure about themselves they’re damn sure not going to solve their problem by asking guys on this website.
No offense to anyone here, I think all the advice is good…I’m just saying being insecure is a deep, internal condition that won’t be solved easily and not on here. [/quote]
“Get your hands,
off the girl,
Can’t you see that she belongs to me?
And I don’t appreciate this
Excess company.
Tho’ I can’t satisfy
All the needs she has
and so she starts to wander…
Can you blame her?”[/quote]
[quote]Professor X wrote:
X-Factor wrote:
TigerFighter wrote:
Sounds like your in love. Have you told her yet?
What a stupid statement to throw around. Quite honestly it does’nt sound like he’s in love if all he cares about is himself right now and his problems. In my opinion it takes 2 to be in love and the way this guy is thinking it’s a one way boulevard to love town, which is merely a layover to divorce court. Fuckin typical north american bullshit. No doubt he loves her. But it takes 2 to be in love.
What exactly are you arguing?
There sure are a shitload of psychologists on this board. [/quote]
Hate to say it prof, but I’ve gotten more from $10 in late fees at my library and highschool library than most university bachelors in psychology. Although I did get the sarcasm.
I just think people throw “love” around too easily it explains alot of divorces these days. Maybe courting is a lost art.
[quote]X-Factor wrote:
Professor X wrote:
X-Factor wrote:
TigerFighter wrote:
Sounds like your in love. Have you told her yet?
What a stupid statement to throw around. Quite honestly it does’nt sound like he’s in love if all he cares about is himself right now and his problems. In my opinion it takes 2 to be in love and the way this guy is thinking it’s a one way boulevard to love town, which is merely a layover to divorce court. Fuckin typical north american bullshit. No doubt he loves her. But it takes 2 to be in love.
What exactly are you arguing?
There sure are a shitload of psychologists on this board.
Hate to say it prof, but I’ve gotten more from $10 in late fees at my library and highschool library than most university bachelors in psychology. Although I did get the sarcasm.
I just think people throw “love” around too easily it explains alot of divorces these days. Maybe courting is a lost art.
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and youve also watched good will hunting. how original
[quote]X-Factor wrote:
TigerFighter wrote:
Sounds like your in love. Have you told her yet?
What a stupid statement to throw around. Quite honestly it does’nt sound like he’s in love if all he cares about is himself right now and his problems. In my opinion it takes 2 to be in love and the way this guy is thinking it’s a one way boulevard to love town, which is merely a layover to divorce court. Fuckin typical north american bullshit. No doubt he loves her. But it takes 2 to be in love.
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I’m not going to mention the fact that your a North American yourself, if your really from Canada, but if I may,
According to you, if a guy and a woman are in love, and she dies, since he is now alone, he is no longer in love with her? And you called me an idiot.
One person can be in love with another, without the other reciprocating.
He doesn’t sound like he is worried about only himself. It sounds like he is worried about losing her. For him to be feeling that way, he may love her, hence why I asked.