Hello everyone. I just asked my girlfriend about her past. At first I thought knowing about her past will not bother me. After she told me that she has had sex before I was devastated . The thoughts of her having sex with her ex keeps bothering me all the time. We love each other very much and we see future with each other. But these thoughts makes me feel miserable. I just can’t take the pictures of her with another guy out of my head. I keep thinking about it all the time. What should I do guys please help me out, I feel helpless 
Leave her if you can’t get over it, thambi. Seriously. This will not end well.
Next time you see a hot chick repeat this to yourself:
“There’s no vay she’s a wirgin.”
[quote]dt79 wrote:
Leave her if you can’t get over it, thambi. Seriously. This will not end well.
Next time you see a hot chick repeat this to yourself:
“There’s no vay she’s a wirgin.”
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I don’t want to leave her because of this reason . I love her a lot . Have you ever been in a situation like this ? How do you tackle such kind of issues ?
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
[quote]dt79 wrote:
Leave her if you can’t get over it, thambi. Seriously. This will not end well.
Next time you see a hot chick repeat this to yourself:
“There’s no vay she’s a wirgin.”
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I don’t want to leave her because of this reason . I love her a lot . Have you ever been in a situation like this ? How do you tackle such kind of issues ?[/quote]
So then don’t. Understand that she had a life before you, just like every other person you’ve ever met, and move on.
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
[quote]dt79 wrote:
Leave her if you can’t get over it, thambi. Seriously. This will not end well.
Next time you see a hot chick repeat this to yourself:
“There’s no vay she’s a wirgin.”
[/quote]
I don’t want to leave her because of this reason . I love her a lot . Have you ever been in a situation like this ? How do you tackle such kind of issues ?[/quote]
No, because I don’t give a fuck. But from growing up with guys that do give a fuck, I can tell you that this rarely ends well in the long run.
[quote]dt79 wrote:
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
[quote]dt79 wrote:
Leave her if you can’t get over it, thambi. Seriously. This will not end well.
Next time you see a hot chick repeat this to yourself:
“There’s no vay she’s a wirgin.”
[/quote]
I don’t want to leave her because of this reason . I love her a lot . Have you ever been in a situation like this ? How do you tackle such kind of issues ?[/quote]
No, because I don’t give a fuck. But from growing up with guys that do give a fuck, I can tell you that this rarely ends well in the long run.[/quote]
Thanks for the advice man . Do you ask questions about your gf’s past ? or you just don’t bother to ask about past ?
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
[quote]dt79 wrote:
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
[quote]dt79 wrote:
Leave her if you can’t get over it, thambi. Seriously. This will not end well.
Next time you see a hot chick repeat this to yourself:
“There’s no vay she’s a wirgin.”
[/quote]
I don’t want to leave her because of this reason . I love her a lot . Have you ever been in a situation like this ? How do you tackle such kind of issues ?[/quote]
No, because I don’t give a fuck. But from growing up with guys that do give a fuck, I can tell you that this rarely ends well in the long run.[/quote]
Thanks for the advice man . Do you ask questions about your gf’s past ? or you just don’t bother to ask about past ? [/quote]
Of course you need to know your gf’s past if you want to develope a longterm relationship. The question is, can you accept it?
That being said, it’s going to be 2016 in a couple of days. If you’re looking for a WIFE, you may have to find one from a more conservative part of your country.
No man I want to be like you. Because even if I break up with her and find a new girl she would be having a past as well. Everyone has a past. So can you please tell me how to be like you. As you said you don’t give a fuck. How can I develop a mindset like that ?
You have to understand that the person that you view as “my girlfriend” is in fact another human being rather than a person that fulfills some portion of need you possess. This will mean that they will have their own past, thoughts, desires, hopes, dreams, philosophies, thoughts, etc etc. They continue existing even when you are not present.
Instead of focusing on the things occurring with/to “your girlfriend”, worry more about if you co-exist with this other human being.
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
No man I want to be like you. Because even if I break up with her and find a new girl she would be having a past as well. Everyone has a past. So can you please tell me how to be like you. As you said you don’t give a fuck. How can I develop a mindset like that ?[/quote]
Look, you have to come to terms with the basic fact that, no matter how good you are at something, someone, somewhere is better than you at it. And, the off chance you’re a one of a kind, there is someone out there coming for your title.
There is a dude out there with a bigger Johnson than you, a better lover than you, who fucks better than you. And, it’s possible who your chick used to bang is all three.
But, none of that matters, at all. She isn’t fucking him anymore, she’s with you. This is her choice and she made it of her own free will and accord. So do your best to love her, and give it your all, and let the chips fall where they may. She’s not with him anymore for a reason, and choose you for a reason. That’s what matters.
You can’t change the past, and this past isn’t your cross to bear, it’s hers.
Focus on what matters.
what country are you from?
I’m asking because the chances of meeting an adult virgin in the UK (or I would assume anywhere in the Western World) are pretty much zero.
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
Hello everyone. I just asked my girlfriend about her past. At first I thought knowing about her past will not bother me. After she told me that she has had sex before I was devastated . The thoughts of her having sex with her ex keeps bothering me all the time. We love each other very much and we see future with each other. But these thoughts makes me feel miserable. I just can’t take the pictures of her with another guy out of my head. I keep thinking about it all the time. What should I do guys please help me out, I feel helpless :([/quote]
Why are you living in the past? < No sarcasm.
Besides, lets say you bang her and ya’ll move on… guess what? You’re that guy someone else is thinking of.
Damn unless she was blowing guys in an alley for money you got to let that shit go. Sorry but I would take someone who knows HOW to fuck over a virgin any day.
[quote]Yogi wrote:
what country are you from?
I’m asking because the chances of meeting an adult virgin in the UK (or I would assume anywhere in the Western World) are pretty much zero.[/quote]
He’s from India.
[quote]dt79 wrote:
[quote]Yogi wrote:
what country are you from?
I’m asking because the chances of meeting an adult virgin in the UK (or I would assume anywhere in the Western World) are pretty much zero.[/quote]
He’s from India.[/quote]
Does anyone know why this site is so popular in India? I feel like it gets an inordinate amount of traffic.
I know you guys are trying to help me and I am feeling good by reading all your posts . I understand everyone has a past , even I have banged a couple of chicks. Past doesn’t matter at all. But tell me one thing how do I get rid of the thoughts of her being fucked by her ex . How do you guys manage to do that in your relationships?
[quote]Yogi wrote:
what country are you from?
I’m asking because the chances of meeting an adult virgin in the UK (or I would assume anywhere in the Western World) are pretty much zero.[/quote]
I am from India . And even here its not easy to find a virgin . I am not looking for a virgin in particular . All I want is to get rid of the thoughts I am having. How do you guys manage to do that ?
[quote]T3hPwnisher wrote:
[quote]dt79 wrote:
[quote]Yogi wrote:
what country are you from?
I’m asking because the chances of meeting an adult virgin in the UK (or I would assume anywhere in the Western World) are pretty much zero.[/quote]
He’s from India.[/quote]
Does anyone know why this site is so popular in India? I feel like it gets an inordinate amount of traffic.
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Because there are a lot of juicers/bodybuilders in India 
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
I know you guys are trying to help me and I am feeling good by reading all your posts . I understand everyone has a past , even I have banged a couple of chicks. Past doesn’t matter at all. But tell me one thing how do I get rid of the thoughts of her being fucked by her ex . How do you guys manage to do that in your relationships? [/quote]
Honestly it just may be a cultural thing that most of us won’t be able to relate to. In the West, we EXPECT girls/women to have had previous sexual relationships (unless we’re very young). In fact, there is quite a bit of a stigma towards virgins/sexually inactive people. Just accept it.
EDIT: this obviously excludes the very small morally conservative segments of society.
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
I know you guys are trying to help me and I am feeling good by reading all your posts . I understand everyone has a past , even I have banged a couple of chicks. Past doesn’t matter at all. But tell me one thing how do I get rid of the thoughts of her being fucked by her ex . How do you guys manage to do that in your relationships? [/quote]
I read a lot of Nietzsche myself. Gives me something else to think about.