Did I miss the part where you said how you reacted to her throwing out your things? It read as if you just gave up and started eating crap and not doing things anymore.
Fella… I think this is more about you than her. You teach people how to treat you. Did you marry a mommy type?
You need to grow a pair and be your own best friend.
Like B rock said, you don’t need supplements to get results.
Eat right and work hard. That part of it is simple.
Your hard part is figuring out why you have let someone dictate your life and you seem to be okay with that.
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I agree 100% with you OG. I would never allow that to happen. If it did for some unforeseeable reason, I would make her give me all the money back that she just threw away. And I damn sure wouldn’t let her get me into unhealthy habits again.
No, you are NOT taking too many supplements, not by a long shot. That’s very modest and healthy.
3 g of Vitamin C in one serving is a bit much, but it won’t do anything bad to you. Probably just excrete what you don’t use when you go to the bathroom. I’d really only go up to about 1.5 grams vit. C. Generally I take .5 g vit C 2-3 times a day with different meals, just to keep a constant stream of it.
Thank you for your responses. Especially Octobergirl, JehovasFitness an the Professor. I have a lot to think about.
I agree I am generally lacking in testicular fortitude and have a lot of changing that needs doing.
I have gone to the gym a few times w/ her and go on very very slow walks (so slow the walks can be very aggravating even wearing an extra 60lbs). She pretty much hates going to the gym, too many people, she is very self concious and self-centered too boot.
As to How I married her, I was fat too. And as to why I haven’t posted sonner, I slept 12 hours and had to work.
On a more serious note,you aren’t in control at all. In any relationship, a boundary must be set and things must be identified as important and thus respected. This is YOUR decision for YOU. In turn, of course, she will have hers that you would have to respect. Once it’s identified and established, then it can be defended. Obviously it’s out in the open, so defend it. You’re wanting to better yourself. Anyone who is standing in your way is not giving a shit about your well-being. YOUR well-being! Defend yourself and your positive choice.
I would strap them onto a little remote car and after a minute and a half she would collapse in agony and die… then you wouldnt have to worry about it. Im a fat ass…I cant imagine being 280lbs at 5’8
Seriously though… tell her to leave your stuff alone or you will start getting on her case all the time about how much she eats… throw away her junk food especially
“I don’t think it is right to toss things like supplements. But, I’ve tossed out cigarettes when the hubby started smoking again. It wasn’t something I would tolerate.” ciggarettes-whey and mutivits… not really the same thing. i’d throw away a friends ciggs if they started smoking again after promising to quit. man, i hate ciggs
No, I’m not kidding. That is incredibly disrespectful and she obviously has:
Boundary issues
Issues with you getting in shape
Do you really need that kind of grief? Imagine the shit you’d be getting if you threw away her tampons - you have no end of flaming coming at you.
I can’t shake the feeling that this was never about the supplements, but rather the fact she feels threatened by your efforts to get in shape. If you’re in shape… where does that leave her?
[quote]caveman101 wrote:
“I don’t think it is right to toss things like supplements. But, I’ve tossed out cigarettes when the hubby started smoking again. It wasn’t something I would tolerate.” ciggarettes-whey and mutivits… not really the same thing. i’d throw away a friends ciggs if they started smoking again after promising to quit. man, i hate ciggs[/quote]
Yeah, um, perhaps I wasn’t clear enough (happens on teh interwebz), but I was trying to point out that perhaps she is ignorant and thinks what he is doing is as unhealthy and dangerous as smoking.
[quote]caveman101 wrote:
“I don’t think it is right to toss things like supplements. But, I’ve tossed out cigarettes when the hubby started smoking again. It wasn’t something I would tolerate.” ciggarettes-whey and mutivits… not really the same thing. i’d throw away a friends ciggs if they started smoking again after promising to quit. man, i hate ciggs[/quote]
It is relateable in that it is something you indulge in for yourself.
PushMePullMe might have been relating an instance when it would be more acceptable to throw away a habit/hobby of your partner.
I am… . some guys are actually relating this to throwing away a woman’s tampons. Now that is stupid. Fellas,… they aren’t an indulgence, it is a health and sanitary issue unless you want your wife to go sit on all your stuff during that time. Don’t be silly.
A better equation is as someone else said, throwing away her junk food.
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
caveman101 wrote:
“I don’t think it is right to toss things like supplements. But, I’ve tossed out cigarettes when the hubby started smoking again. It wasn’t something I would tolerate.” ciggarettes-whey and mutivits… not really the same thing. i’d throw away a friends ciggs if they started smoking again after promising to quit. man, i hate ciggs
Yeah, um, perhaps I wasn’t clear enough (happens on teh interwebz), but I was trying to point out that perhaps she is ignorant and thinks what he is doing is as unhealthy and dangerous as smoking.[/quote]
There are tons of people who think this way. They think there is something wrong if you are drinking a protein shake…but if I were to tell them it was milk-shake, they wouldn’t think anything of it.
You can’t even blame the media for that. Some people are just stupid…and the rest believe things to comfort their own short comings.
They don’t have to lose that extra 150lbs if they make themselves believe that lifting weights is bad as well as the food.
Ok OP, You got some work cut out for you depending what your perfect outcome is. What you don’t have one? well thats step one. Get some goals. They don’t have to be all about fitness either, they can be relationship goals. One nice goal would be for example, Earn enough respect from my wife that she would never in 1000 years ever throw anything of mine away. Then go about achieving your goals.
I could tell you to go talk to a professional, but honestly, most of them are retarded. They got a degree from a school where all they had to do was attend class and not party TOO much. This is a very good place for relationship advice. Know why? Cause there are a lot of real men here, men who get respect everywhere they go because they command it. Go back into the archives and read every Atomic Dog article from the Beginning.
When you need a quick boost of motivation and T, head over to sex and the male animal and indulge for a while, you will pick up what you need. If you need situational advice like, my wife just tossed my supplements, what do I do? You are in the right place. Keep active here, mingle with the locals and do the best you can. If ANYONE stands in your way, including your wife, deal with it the best you can. Can be anywhere from sitting down and talking, to kicking the dumbass to the curb. One of the things you have hinted at is that you are trying to become a different person as far as lifestyle and goals, than you were when you married your wife. So keep in mind that this new lifestyle choice you make may be something she can adapt to or it may not, you have to be ready to make tough decisions.
[quote]Christine wrote:
KBCThird wrote:
i WISH i were 280 lbs … and im 6’1"
this needs to be discussed, and a resolution arrived at
Talk to Bauer.
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yes, i understand that, however it was more a commentary on the fact that 280 is pretty big for a male of above-average height, let alone a female (albeit admittedly one who is of above-average height as well)