OK, so my gf isn’t fat or obese I’ll just say that straight off. The other day I suggested that we go to the gym together, since I go frequently, and I think it’d be fun. She starts with the whole ‘oh so you think I’m fat’ thing.
I do the whole ‘no you’re not fat’ routine. Anyway, she tells me later that heart disease, obesity, and diabetes have run in her family in the past. She thinks that because she’s a vegan these things won’t happen to her.
I tell her that she’s incorrect, and that it reduces her chances possibly, but things like exercise have a huge role in it. She also has the ‘carry weight around the hips/middle’ body type, that if I recall correctly is an indicator of increased risk for diabetes and other diseases later in life.
So she brings it up again a few days later, and starts talking about the family history again , and I said ‘well, if you’re worried about this, why not come to the gym with me, and try to lose maybe 10-15 lbs.’ Yeah that went over about as well as you’d imagine.
I covered it by saying that when you’re serious about working out you can say that without meaning someone’s fat or unattractive, and that after bulking phases in the past I’ve needed to lose more. That at least quelled her fury. I explained that my point was that if there’s this history in her family of these diseases, then she should try to get into top shape to ward off trouble down the line, extend her life, and give her a higher quality of life.
I’m not sure she’s buying it though. How do I get her to start working out? She does NOTHING physical right now. Honestly, I am attracted to her, else I wouldn’t be with her, but if she lost say 15 lbs. I’d be even more attracted to her.
tell her you think it’ll be a bonding experience if you work out together. Chicks love terms like “bonding”. Just expect your workouts to suffer as a side effect.
[quote]matsm21 wrote:
tell her you think it’ll be a bonding experience if you work out together. Chicks love terms like “bonding”. Just expect your workouts to suffer as a side effect.[/quote]
I like that actually. Well what i was going to do was put her on an elliptical or something and then go workout for an hour as usual.
Probably not. I’d probably be annoyed that
a)you thought I was stupid enough to fall for that bonding bs
b)that you attempted to manipulate me
c)now I KNOW you think I’m a fatass and thus my sex drive will completely disappear for the next 4-6 weeks
But then again you said she’s a vegan so maybe she’ll go for the bonding thing. I don’t know.
Oh come on, at least give her something productive to spend gym time on.
I usually introduce novices with a mobility and muscle balance circuit I usually do as a warm-up. Then if they’re not too messed up structural wise, I proceed to teach them to squat and call it a day after working up to sets of 5 with 95-125 lbs for men, 65-95 usually for women.
Keep the painful / embarrassing things like foam rolling and pull-ups away from the first few days. I find women like deadlifts because they can lift easily far more weight than they ever thought they would be able to. And it works everything that needs work…
[quote]Antigen wrote:
Oh come on, at least give her something productive to spend gym time on.
I usually introduce novices with a mobility and muscle balance circuit I usually do as a warm-up. Then if they’re not too messed up structural wise, I proceed to teach them to squat and call it a day after working up to sets of 5 with 95-125 lbs for men, 65-95 usually for women.
Keep the painful / embarrassing things like foam rolling and pull-ups away from the first few days. I find women like deadlifts because they can lift easily far more weight than they ever thought they would be able to. And it works everything that needs work…[/quote]
Hmm I DO like her ass. See I have to get her there first though.
I got my girlfriend going and eating right and she hated working out but liked the results so as long as you can get them to stick with it long enough for results you might find she enjoys the results as well.
don’t bother, it is no win no matter what…i tried it several times. here is the problem:
a) your gf likes working out…either train her seperatley or not at all. Having her workout with you will halt your progress.
b) she doesn’t like working out, she sees you looking bigger and more ripped and gets jealous, then tries to subconsiously halt your progress by becoming a toxic person.
Based on your past posts, I’m going to congratulate you on having a girlfriend. Also, based on your history, I’d discourage her from working out, getting really hot and dumping you.
On a serious note, don’t try and manipulate her with the bonding crappolla. If I heard that, I’d dump you because you clearly think I have the intelligence of a lap dog.
If she isn’t into it, it’s going to be tough to motivate her. I would continue with the family health angle. She really does need her own drive though.
[quote]AccipiterQ wrote:
She starts with the whole ‘oh so you think I’m fat’ thing.
she tells me later that heart disease, obesity, and diabetes have run in her family in the past.
She thinks that because she’s a vegan these things won’t happen to her.
She also has the ‘carry weight around the hips/middle’ body type
I said ‘well, if you’re worried about this, why not come to the gym with me, and try to lose maybe 10-15 lbs.’ Yeah that went over about as well as you’d imagine.
She does NOTHING physical right now.[/quote]
I’ve got to admit, I spent considerable time trying to come up with a little constructive advice. Bottom line, you’re fucked. Pack it up and move on or you’ll spend the rest of your life trying to light a fire under her fat ass. Trust me on this. Run. Run for the hills…
Pretty much after puberty, your metabolism is gradually decreasing and without working out and living a sedentary lifestyle, your body has no reason to hold on to its own muscle. Decreasing muscle mass + slower metabolism = slowly getting fatter and fatter without fail. How do you wanna look in 5 years? 10 years?
