[quote]BrickHead wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
With Youtube especially, there is also the element of anonymity. It seems ridiculous, but for some people it really is its own form of entertainment to get on and light somebody up about something. You could put up a video of a nun giving candy to children and somebody would have something bad to say about it.
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The sad and funny part is that it’s not always the depressed neckbeard. A lot of these people are kids. Not talking about people my age. Actual kids. Not so much in this context though. Just speaking generally.[/quote]
What happens when kids raised on that and ‘facebook friends’ have to enter the real world or work place?
In society, you learn that what you say and do has repercussions. The internet teaches the opposite.[/quote]
A lot of stuff happens to them. I’ve had to deal with them at work as apprentices. They’re weak , ignorant and largely inept- and they know it. If they don’t, they find out very quickly. Sometimes it takes a literal smack down (not my style, but I don’t shun it either). They learn what is real and appropriate by getting live feedback in real time.
Here’s a real one-A kid I was working with stepped on my lead (on purpose) as I was dragging it down the inside length of a barge. Heavy gauge lead weighs about a pound a foot and I was in a hurry humping along with about 200 feet of it. When he stepped on it it stopped dead and I got yanked hard by the shoulder, causing some tears to my pect, delt, upper trap, neck, etc. and inflammation to the main nerve that runs from spine to the shoulder. Simply put, fucked me up fast and badly. My arm went numb and kind of quit working.
I blew up on the kid and started straight for his throat. The foreman got into it and settled things down. The I had to go get iced up, report what happened and get to my doctor. He described it as a stinger that happens to QBs when they get shoulder blasted, and I should go home, rest-ice-tylenol-yadda yadda yadda. Meanwhile word spread around the crew what he did. Now he’s looking at 12 big ugly bad ass motherfuckers who circled up around him and made it really clear that he did something very wrong.
Then the supervisor sat him down for the official action, next time he’s fired, and for him to formally apologize. Along with that he still wasn’t allowed to eat lunch with us for a couple of weeks.
So he went from being a high school kid and world of warcraft warrior to learning about what happens in real life when you screw up, with real consequence and he changed. Last I checked he was actually doing pretty well. Some of them can’t take that type of feedback and challenge to their self image. They recede back into their comfort zone, go somewhere else, do something else, what ever.
I had the same things growing up on a wrestling team too. Run at the mouth, horse around or slack in practice and the coach would literally kick your ass back into line. If he didn’t your opponent in the next match would. Some of us stuck with it, some didn’t.
I don’t see it a whole lot differently with weight lifting either. If a kid acts like a douche in the gym when he’s supposed to be spotting someone they’re both going to find out and learn some lessons real quick.
A good question now is- who is going to be there to put them back in line?[/quote]
This is a good post. I have literally worked with people who felt the duties of the job were optional and usually they were younger than 30 years old. [/quote]
Thanks, kind of a mega post by my standards.
Aside from working with them, I’ve been one. The coach tuned me up a coupe of times. The older guys at work have straightened me out on a couple of occasions, and some bigger guys in the gym have reigned me in on talking smack.
We all start somewhere, not often at the top either.