I think those are some good points. It can definitely become unnecessarily obsessive and because of that I’ve kind of made a rule to myself that if the event or whatever is something I would do if I didn’t care about bodybuilding at all then I would make myself do it even if it wasn’t necessarily something I wanted to do at that moment. I’ve learned that most regrets come from things one has failed to do, not things they have done. This is very true for going out because a lot of the time I think to myself “ugh I really don’t want to bring 2+ meals and worry about it then be tired tomorrow when I have to workout, etc…” but that definitely happened in high school and even with all the obsessiveness my results in high school sucked for the most part . I would say I allowed myself cheat meals but then avoided parties and stuff knowing the complications and what not. Bad choices…now I just follow the rule above.
Even for New Years I almost considered not going out when I got a last minute invite from a friend (I don’t know if this is a bodybuilding thing or just me but I hate when things spring up at the last minute and I’m not “prepared”) but I made myself go. Brought food with the intention of going home later but ended up drinking and hooking up with his girlfriends friend and had way more fun than if I decided to not drink and go home that night. Even if gaining size is your primary goal, which it currently is for me, sometimes we tend to forget that we do this to make life more enjoyable…not a miserable journey to some goal you eventually won’t care as much about.