If you have confidence problems, swallow your pride and start with the fugly girl at whole foods. You won’t all that nervous and the tolerance for mistakes or incompetence will be much higher. If you start by hitting on an 8 or 9, you will have to put up an inititial score yourself within that range- in time, maybe. Start with the higher percentage shot- pretend it’s a dare or something if you must. You only need to score a 2 or 3 yourself to get a foot in the door with the ugly chick, but you will learn a lot I would think. After that, then you can gradually move it up to the higher leagues until you max out. Move up slowly though, or else the change in standards applied will be too much to handle in one jump. Think of it like lifting or investing, take the long view.
Dude take the good advice on the board find a hobby such as swimming or rock climbing that intrests you and go check it out.
Start a conversation with something like
“Hi my name is (something other than Morg) is this a good place to learn/practice/have fun?”
Take it from there.
Also make sure that you talk to everybody, try to meet and make friends with as many people as possible. Meeting girls through friends though friends is a great way to go about things.
Just my two cents.
If I was Cupcake I’d put a witty quote here.
Good lord Cupcake and Dan “Your spelling and Grammer are enough to make me cry” Mcvicker won’t let the errors slide in that last post.
Insert funny and ribald quote here
Morg
Come to Pattaya, Thailand. I know quite a few nice ladies that will be more that happy to help you with your “problem”.
Yeh what emckee said
That is the best advice I’ve seen on this thread.
Why didn’t someone tell me this years ago?!
I started at 9’s and then worked my way down. I around a 2 now.
creed and emckee, I don’t find that to be true. Most of the time, hot girls only care about that, because that’s enough to get them by in life comfortably. If she’s just a hoe with no brain, then I have almost total confidence. I get more nervous around my girlfriend, who doesn’t look that great, but is very smart and spends her time well, etc, than I would around a porn star.
morg, your problem is not virginity, it’s that you have only 2 friends, and they’re online friends. You need to get some real, in-the-flesh type friends. Ideally, this should be a mixture of men and women, even women in which you are not interested. This works out in the long run because these new friends have other friends, and pretty soon you’re connected into a bigger and bigger network of people. Meeting people through other people is about the second most prevalent way for people to meet potential mates (college is the first).
Jeff, someone mentioned classes as a way to meet women. This is excellent advice. A few years ago, my wife and I took a beginners golf class. Out of 10 people in the class, there were 2 men and 8 women. These were all 20-something, attractive, fit women. Plus, you have something in common and an instant topic for conversation. Talk to them before or after class, arrange to meet to hit a bucket of balls, go out for a coffee later … someone mentioned climbing - this is good too. Find a climbing gym (SportRock is in Rockville, I think there’s one in Columbia too) and take a class. The place is crawling with athletic women.
Good Luck
I’m scared to think what this means!
Thanks, Jay
man, i went to eharmony.com and filled out all these godamn forms and answered questions. that took me about an hour. then, after all that, they said they couldn’t find me ANY matches! wtf?? how depressing is that?
Uhhh, morg, most people replied that you should get away from the computer to find women.
clintpatty,
yeah, i know man, i was just bored last night and i figured i’d try that.
well, i’m thinking of going to college, but just taking some night classes to start off. that would be a good one when i do that. not sure if i’m ready for that just yet.
also, i’m toying with the idea of joining a gym.
but at the very least, i’ll try talking to that chick from whole foods next time i go there.
thanks guys
Make a special trip, don’t wait. You wouldn’t be the first guy to go out of their way to meet a girl. If you don’t come off as a needy geek they think shit like that is sweet. Well, unless they think you’re a stalker and kick you in the balls.
If you are holding out for someone special be prepared to wait a long time. The only way to speed things along is to socialize as much as possible like the others have recommended. Don’t worry if you aren’t that good at it, just start hanging out with people as much as possible. College is the easiset place to accomplish this.
Whatever you do just start working on establishing a real social life, make friends, hang out alot and eventually you will meet a girl that will like you. An easy way to get people to like you is to simply listen to everything they say, people like to talk. You have two ears, listen twice as much as you talk and people will tend to like having you around.
On the other hand, if you are just looking to get laid with a non-judgemental girl to get outa the shy virgin mindset this is what you do. I’ve never had to resort to this but it’s what some of my less charming friends have done and it seems to work 80% of the time. Look around your area for a non-gay bar or club that holds male strip shows. Find out what time the strip show ends and show up then.
The place will be packed with drunk, horny women. Get a few drinks in you to loosen you up and just go around and ask girls to dance until one says yes. Do the bump and grind for awhile, wait until she turns her back to you and starts grinding her ass on your crotch (Statistics show that 99.99% of drunk, horny women will do this to you if you dance with them) then grab her around the waist and start kissing on her neck. If she responds well to this, work your way to her mouth and start playing tonsil hockey. If she doesn’t respond well, either back off and keep dancing for awhile and try it again a song or two later or finish the song, and tell her you gotta use the john and go ask another girl to dance etc.
When you get a girl that likes kissing you and you finally come up for air, ask her if she wants to go somewhere a little more private and usually you will be on your way to getting laid in the car, at your place, at her place, or at a hotel. Remember, ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM! Good luck man, you are gonna need it.
To those of you that think that drunken, casual sex is a foolish thing to do, I agree. However, from what I have seen, some shy virgin guys sometimes need to do this in order to get them over thier shyness of the opposite sex, thier feelings of inadequacy, or thier fear of trying something new that could potentially embarrass the hell out of them if they goof it up too much. Besides, being sex deprived for no good reason is a horrible way to go through life. Just look at beavis and butthead…
This can’t be legitimate.
thunder…what can’t, bro?
fORRESTER
Thats exactly what i was talking about in less nice words…you go tell him.
Morg listen to him, I have absolute faith in you man…
the Retard
I don’t think they make golf clubs short enough for Jeff Rage. 
J/K bro!
Oh, morg. I have another suggestion to add. Get a haircut. ;p