Supercardrives - One More Attempt

Oh man, guidance is different from being an asshole.
It really really is.

Please refer to my post above where I quoted all the asshole-related-stuff that asshole said and if you still feel it wasn’t him being an asshole then I don’t know what to say.
I have been raised in a very educated and professional family, we don’t have a habit of throwing shade, throwing insults, mocking people.

I’m sorry, but once again, if that is something you enjoy doing, please do not talk to me (anyone for that matter).

Supercar dude I don’t see it as being an asshole, I see it as being blunt/direct. You should hear him out though.

I’m sorry, but once again, if you think saying this when someone is already down and has come for advice to a group of strangers:

Look at the total results at the end of your 7 years and wonder if maybe starting your day off with cool whip isn’t a great idea.

Isn’t being an asshole, then I’m not interested in this conversation.

I’ll reiterate, I have been raised in a highly educated family, we don’t ever say anything remotely as passive-aggressive/shade/whatever.

I’m not used to it, and I consider it highly disrespectful. Talk to people with manners.

Come on, man. You’re being a bit sensitive. Perhaps that’s how you like to be spoken to, but that doesn’t make it universal.

Let’s look at the inverse: what would we call someone that repeatedly asks for advice from the top participants in a field, and then argues and dismisses said advice when he receives it?

I’m not coming to your log to pick a fight with you, and lifting weights is just a silly hobby we like so who cares, but I think maybe we’re finding ways to get offended about nothing.

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This still doesn’t mean you can be an asshole.

Come on, man. You’re being a bit sensitive. Perhaps that’s how you like to be spoken to, but that doesn’t make it universal.

Am I? Please read this:

Look at the total results at the end of your 7 years and wonder if maybe starting your day off with cool whip isn’t a great idea.

Dude, this:

Contradicts this:

What exactly is the contradiction? And where have you seen me invoke an insult first?

Supercar I want you to think of the people here as coaches, not bullies. A coach will directly tell you what you’re doing wrong and what you need to improve on.

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Saying “my family is better than yours” to set up the baseline is pretty passive-aggressive.

I may be looking at this the wrong way: did you grow up playing sports? There’s likely just ways many of us are used to receiving coaching that you aren’t. That can create gap here.

I am fine with coaches, but bullying is bullying.
I have always treated people, strangers, anyone with respect, why can’t people just do the same?

You know I didn’t mean something like that, I am just giving you context, in my family, we never grew up with slurs, insults, we were “educated,” to not say things like this. I don’t see this as me saying “my family is better.” In school they should at least teach you to treat people with respect no matter who they are, what they are.

No I didn’t, but I haven’t heard of a coach who shits on his clients you know.

You may not have liked how this was said yet you stopped eating cool whip for breakfast correct?

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Then this is a fair example of miscommunication. Your intent was not what I interpreted. Could that be possible above?

Nah that mf has done it repeatedly, again and again and again.
And he said it pretty damn directly.
It’s no miscommunication. He is an asshole, I don’t want to talk to him.

It’s a popular and successful tactic for some people. Plenty of people have achieved great things by being told they couldn’t do it.

Regardless, I don’t think this is a bridge that needs to be rebuilt.

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I did yes, but still man, there is a better way to talk to people.
This is basic human interaction for fuck’s sake.

Like they teach this stuff in school. What am I missing here?

Like I said again, I really don’t think I have ever started off like that asshole.

It’s only after I got pissed after multiple times.

Does telling people what they want to hear all the time get them to the best results?

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It was effective though. Of all the direct advice given to you, this was the one that stuck.

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