i know its pathetic to reach out through a computer but here i am, reaching out…
ive been sick the last two weeks and havent been able to train. my chest is sore from coughing so i fear returning to training early will make it worse.
before i got sick, i was trying to cut weight. i got from 58kg to 55.9 i want to make 54 to fight. i dont know what weight i am at the moment, dont want to. im feeling bloated and am probably back to 58 kgs.
thing is my mother is against me fighting, and whislt i was really really sick she made me eat alot.
so the diet is screwed, and im loosing fitness and muscle.
im so frustrated, i feel im fighting an uphill battle being the only girl training with guys, under a male coach. when i dont get support from my mother either, and now my body is failing me too…
Matt Kroczaleski once told me that 99% of the training a high-level competitive athlete goes through is futile. You’ll get injured, you’ll have setbacks and you’ll fail in an important competition. A true champion is willing to struggle through all of that shit for the 1% when they will make progress, break a personal record or succeed when it matters most.
I am not that old but have been involved and continue to be involved in my fair share of high-level competition. I have certainly failed plenty of times, yet, when I think back upon my athletic career the failures don’t stand out nearly as much as the successes and that makes it all worthwhile.
It sounds like you are well-entrenched in the 99% right now. Find something to keep you going because eventually that 1% is going to come along.
[quote]boxingash wrote:
i know its pathetic to reach out through a computer but here i am, reaching out…
ive been sick the last two weeks and havent been able to train. my chest is sore from coughing so i fear returning to training early will make it worse.
before i got sick, i was trying to cut weight. i got from 58kg to 55.9 i want to make 54 to fight. i dont know what weight i am at the moment, dont want to. im feeling bloated and am probably back to 58 kgs.
thing is my mother is against me fighting, and whislt i was really really sick she made me eat alot.
so the diet is screwed, and im loosing fitness and muscle.
im so frustrated, i feel im fighting an uphill battle being the only girl training with guys, under a male coach. when i dont get support from my mother either, and now my body is failing me too…[/quote]
Remember, negative thoughts breed negative feelings/moods/behaviors. Don’t let the haters (including family) get in the way of YOUR goals. If this is something you really, really want to do, find the inner-strength to get it done. Does it suck that your mom isn’t behind you 100%? Yes, but don’t let that stop you from reaching your goal.
Have you been to a doctor yet? Find out what exactly it is that you have, then make sure to get plenty of rest, eat right and start training when you begin to feel better.
Hang in there…everyone goes through periods of self-doubt and negative thoughts. You have to be able to fight through those and keep going.
im frustrated becuase my body is whats holding me back and now even if i want to i cant train.
ive stressed muscles around my chest from coughing so i cant even go for a run.
but as you guys said. its only a period of time before i go back. and i will be back.
One thing that will help (in my humble experience) is to tighten up the diet. I don’t mean restrict (body needs calories to fight infection), but make fruits/veggies and protein the base for your eating. Don’t need to cut out sausage rolls and meat pies (mmmmm…meat pies) but really make everything centered around fruits and veggies.
If you aren’t training, I would cut the non-fruit and veggie carbs down as low as possible. Cut bread, pasta etc OUT (possible exception of oatmeal at breakfast). That’ll really help get rid of that bloat; all the bread carbs and sodium that you’re probably getting from mum’s home cooking is promoting water retention. Also tons of water intake; that’ll help to flush the sodium out as well.
Easy for me to say this stuff not knowing your situation and it def sucks having a non-supportive mom. I had a non-supportive girlfriend for 3.5 years so I kind of know what you’re goin through! Just push the fruits and veggies thing hard in the interest of nutrients to get well faster instead of “cutting weight for the fight”. Really I think you’ll be surprised at the weight that’ll come off naturally if you just cut out all the sugary and starchy non-fruit and veggie carbs. Plus you’ll get well faster! Hell sneak some carrots and celery the way fatties sneak cupcakes and ding dongs!
[quote]boxingash wrote:
i know its pathetic to reach out through a computer but here i am, reaching out…
ive been sick the last two weeks and havent been able to train. my chest is sore from coughing so i fear returning to training early will make it worse.
before i got sick, i was trying to cut weight. i got from 58kg to 55.9 i want to make 54 to fight. i dont know what weight i am at the moment, dont want to. im feeling bloated and am probably back to 58 kgs.
thing is my mother is against me fighting, and whislt i was really really sick she made me eat alot.
so the diet is screwed, and im loosing fitness and muscle.
im so frustrated, i feel im fighting an uphill battle being the only girl training with guys, under a male coach. when i dont get support from my mother either, and now my body is failing me too…
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Chin up love.
Set backs are a b!tch. Keep your chin up and weather the storm. Just take it easy, do some light training but if your ill your ill. Get over that and get back on the training road.
Tighten up the diet. Berardi’s Precision Nutrition will work well. Or read his “7 Habits…” article. Lots of fruits and vegetables. Lean protien with each feeding.
To get past any sinus/chest congestion, eat and orange. Throw the peel in a pot of water. Boil water. Head over the pot. Towel draped over head and shoulders. Breath in the steam. Orange peel just makes smell nice and refreshing.
Don’t fret about exercise until you’re better. Be fully recovered before heading back to the gym. The muscle, endurance, and technique doesn’t just vanish into smoke because you were out for a couple weeks. You’ll bounce back.
[quote]boxingash wrote:
i know its pathetic to reach out through a computer but here i am, reaching out…
ive been sick the last two weeks and havent been able to train. my chest is sore from coughing so i fear returning to training early will make it worse.
before i got sick, i was trying to cut weight. i got from 58kg to 55.9 i want to make 54 to fight. i dont know what weight i am at the moment, dont want to. im feeling bloated and am probably back to 58 kgs.
thing is my mother is against me fighting, and whislt i was really really sick she made me eat alot.
so the diet is screwed, and im loosing fitness and muscle.
im so frustrated, i feel im fighting an uphill battle being the only girl training with guys, under a male coach. when i dont get support from my mother either, and now my body is failing me too…
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Ash,
I’m sorry you’re going through such a tough time. Just keep in mind that though your body may be failing you, YOU determine how strong your mind and your willpower is.
Ultimately, it is tests and setbacks like this that make us stronger and better people. Just look at this as a test of your will, and resolve to fight through it. You’re not alone and can make it through if you choose to fight on. I wish you best of luck and a speedy recovery.
“The law of worthy life is fundamentally the law of strife. It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage that we move on to better things.” -Theodore Roosevelt
I’m right there with you. I do wrestling, judo, and boxing; I’m a girl, and no one I know really approves. But if you’re like me, you do it because you love being on the mat or in the ring, and nothing else is worth it like winning a fight.
Take the time you need to get better. Sometimes that “forced recovery” is just what your body needs to make a big step forward. Get back in the ring with a new intensity, and you’ll feel like a new fighter.
lolol Set backs are necessary?
Only a period of time before you come back? Not with that attitude.
Fighting sick is one thing, your adrenaline can get you through it. Training sick is another it’s normally a sign you’ve over trained, on occasion it can be random.
PURELY OPINION: In general trying to cut weight by eating less while training harder will get you sick, which is why it should be done in small overcompensation cycles. You say sick? I’m assuming cold. If you have a cold for two weeks that keeps you from training something is Definitely wrong.
Either your immune system is totally screwed up which means your recovery from training when you get back will be slow also, or its more than a cold. Your mother is probably feeding you because she knows better what fights a cold then your training partners. My advice check the schedule of your fight, and re-evaluate your training, and NUTRITION and SUPPLEMENTATION program.
For the cough, you could try this strange home remedy.
Before bed, cover the bottoms of your feet with vaporub (or some kind of mentholated ointment) then put on a pair of heavy socks.
Sounds really weird, but it works.
Growing up, everytime I had a bad hacking cough my Gramma used to do this for me and I’ve done it since.
can i first say thank you sooooo much for the advice and encouraging words
i cant beleive how many people replied…so really thanks to everyone
i went back to training tonight, went for a light run yesty.
fight is september is only a maybe now but coach promised me a fight by the endof the year…
really guys thanks alot, youll never know how much what you said has helped me put things in perspective.
Glad to hear you’re back in the game. Before you know it, you’ll be back to 100%…and it sounds like you’ll have more time to train and make up for the weeks missed being sick as your fight won’t be till later this year.
I’m glad you’re feeling better. I am usually paired with our female athletes due to my size, so I know how awesome you guys are in combat sports.
Don’t listen to the detractors in your life all they can do is bring you down. As I recall you got down to close to 55 kg which is where you wanted to fight in a fairly short amount of time. I would actually not worry about cutting again until two to three weeks from your fight. Get enough nutrients to recover from the intense training you need.
I’ll offer advice from a mental perspective, since I am NOT one to offer dietary advice
The road you’ve started on is a long one, so long that setbacks of a few weeks, or even a few months are nothing more than a bump in that road. The longer I’m in this game the easier it is for me to accept temporary setbacks and keep a positive mindset with regards to my training. Don’t underestimate the importance of that mindset.
You’re out of the gym for a few weeks due to factors outside your control, not because you’re a sissy. That’s not a good thing, it’s not a bad thing, it’s just how it is right now. You aren’t where you want to be, but you WILL be. Have confidence in that. For a competitive athlete who cares if you have the crappiest beginning to a training cycle ever, as long as you peak at the right time and PERFORM on gameday.
[quote]boxingash wrote:
im so frustrated, i feel im fighting an uphill battle being the only girl training with guys, under a male coach.
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I have spent my whole life as the only female in the company of men, from being raised by my father and older brother, to being the only girl in my rock band to playing rugby. (A gentleman’s sport, yes, but I play on a woman’s club team)
Never let gender stand in the way of your goals. Never let gender become a battle, either, or you will develop a “victim mentality”.
Read “Embracing Your Potential” by Terry Orlick
He is a sports psychologist, and can help you strengthen your mental game. Drive for excellence in your sport/goal is the only motivation you should need. Diet and training are useless without it.
