Been a while since my last post…
Been a while since i trained seriously too…
Not proud of it but in my defence i have been very busy with a 60-70hr working week.
My challenge is getting motivated to go back and train to fight. I had my first amateur match in aug last year against the girl who is now the australian champ. she won on points, but as it was my first fight i think i have to potential to go further.
My partner who is really good to me would prefer if i didnt fight for the reasons he doesnt like walking down the street with a girl who has a black eye.
I have friends who share this opinion also.
My mother is totally against boxing, my dad was a boxer and they are now divorced. She lost it when she found out id had a fight in the first place.
Going back to uni this week and missing how good i looked and felt when i was training.
I have a million reasons why not to train but i really only need one good reason why i should go back. For me.
Not in the interest of my studies(dual degree) or job (3days/week), cashflow for food and training, or even my relationships with family and friends.
Just wanted to put my dillema out there, hoping to get a little feedback from you guys.
Go back and fight. I am also a boxer and I have had one amateur fight. I am also a lawyer and having black eyes in court isn’t the best idea. But I loved it, enjoyed it, and I realized I only live once, so why not? How many people can actually say they stepped in a ring and went toe to toe with someone else? Not many, and when you can say that its a great feeling.
Sure, my family, friends, and co-workers worried about me breaking teeth or breaking my nose (which I did do), but when I look back on my life I know I am the only one responsible for what I did or did not do.
pretty simple in my opinion. maybe thats selfish, but that’s my take on it.
wanting to fight/box etc is not that major, if people / family refuse to talk / associate to you and stuff like that, then they are the one with the problem.
it’s not like you’re going to get a black eye every week. if you do, then you need some defense
Its an issue that a lot of people have to deal with. Is called being in a shitty environment, which sometimes can be really draining. I had to go through something similar so I have an idea of what ur talking about.
Now my suggestion:
1-) Find new friends! Ur in college so it should not be that hard. A good bet would be to check out student clubs about boxing, or other fighting and strength sports. But really just talk to the people u come across, and soon you will find people who share ur interests and/or understands u.
2-) Talk to ur boyfriend about not liking to walk with a girl who has black eye. If he doesn’t get it then start looking elsewhere. (Nothing wrong with looking to see whats on the other side of the fence)
3-) as for ur family… well there is nothing you can do there. U can’t change it, u can’t get a new one, so ur gonna have to roll with what you have. Eventually ur mom will change her mind… eventually.
Chris Shugart has a couple of good articles about dealing with shitty environments. Although he talks about bodybuilding, the idea is the same. I suggest you read them.
My mom told me verbatim that she’d rather me be gay than fight. Im basically disowned by my mother at the moment.
I plan to start taking professional Muay thai bouts by 2009
if you want it nothing will stop you.
you’re not the only one doing school + work + family + hiding the fact that you fight.
only person who really supports me is my gf, and my dad is proud of me but he has to live with my BPD mom so he doesn’t say much.
hell my mom doesn’t want me to try out for american gladiators.
im not doing it for anyone’s approval.
I’m not doing it because “chicks dig fighters”
i spend every moment of my life wanting to be the best, and i KNOW that i am… I just have to make it happen. So im not going to let anyone stand in my way whether or not i came from her womb.
