Pu**y Whipped Guys

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[quote]Apoklyps wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

So your philosophy is hoes before bros, SkyzykS?[/quote]

Not entirely. I’m probably a lot more like you with balance and spending time with friends. Since there isn’t any room in my life for booze & whatnot, a different strategy had to be employed with friends and family.

Take my brother, for example. He needed a sidewalk torn out from around his house. Knowing that I’ve busted up tons of concrete, he asked me to give him a hand. So we got together and tore it up. In the mean time we were goofing off, catching up, having a few laughs, then graded it with topsoil and planted some grass. Finished up with a steaks on the grill and a good time was had by all.

Skip to my new house. He comes over and notices that the hose bib is leaking. A couple of days later he stops by on his way home from work and replaces it with a new one (he’s a plumber), so now I don’t have to worry about the line bursting in the winter or a big ice patch on the sidewalk. We have a cup of coffee and shoot the shit about what has been happening lately, and a good time is had by all.

It seems like those mutually beneficial activities and relationships are much stronger that the ones based on being Bros and “being there”, what ever the hell that means.

Sounds like a lot of these dudes talking about pussy whipped and what ever are just afraid that their boyfriends won’t be there to hold their hair when they’re lurching their guts out at three in the morning after a long night of friendship.

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  1. Pussywhipped dude wouldnt be allowed to help anyone but the woman he is strung out by.

  2. I dont drink and have a shaved head.

Admit you have no point and jumped the gun.

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Rock is right here. Sky, Do you truly fail to see that we are all advocating the same thing here (i.e. “balance”, as you yourself have said)? I don’t think anybody here disagrees that a serious partner should come before a friend. The way I’ve always seen it, “bros before hoes” means exactly that, i.e. going for some strange isn’t worth losing a friendship over. A girlfriend/wife does not constitute a “ho”.

Also, read the title of the thread and the first post. The point of the thread isn’t to create a bitchfest about friends that we don’t get to see enough of because of their lifestyle choices. A pussy whipped guy is one who would like the maintain that friendship, but is powerless to do so because his woman won’t LET him. I’m not saying that the woman’s intentions are necessarily wrong: a guy’s buddies aren’t always good influences. Personally, however, I feel that it is wrong in most cases because respecting your partner’s autonomy (within reason, of course) shows a great deal more respect than controlling him/her does.[/quote]

How does anybody know the terms of the relationship that the OP is griping about, other than to take it at face value that what he is saying is a fact?

Call it what you will, but in my experience when someone starts crying about so and so being pussy whipped, or multiple people being pussy whipped, it is not the other peoples problem.

Why don’t we get his pussy whipped brother and his pussy whipped former friends on here so that they can tell their side? Maybe they actually are. If that is the case then I will absolutely eat my words and issue a formal apology to the whole internetz.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]Apoklyps wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

So your philosophy is hoes before bros, SkyzykS?[/quote]

Not entirely. I’m probably a lot more like you with balance and spending time with friends. Since there isn’t any room in my life for booze & whatnot, a different strategy had to be employed with friends and family.

Take my brother, for example. He needed a sidewalk torn out from around his house. Knowing that I’ve busted up tons of concrete, he asked me to give him a hand. So we got together and tore it up. In the mean time we were goofing off, catching up, having a few laughs, then graded it with topsoil and planted some grass. Finished up with a steaks on the grill and a good time was had by all.

Skip to my new house. He comes over and notices that the hose bib is leaking. A couple of days later he stops by on his way home from work and replaces it with a new one (he’s a plumber), so now I don’t have to worry about the line bursting in the winter or a big ice patch on the sidewalk. We have a cup of coffee and shoot the shit about what has been happening lately, and a good time is had by all.

It seems like those mutually beneficial activities and relationships are much stronger that the ones based on being Bros and “being there”, what ever the hell that means.

Sounds like a lot of these dudes talking about pussy whipped and what ever are just afraid that their boyfriends won’t be there to hold their hair when they’re lurching their guts out at three in the morning after a long night of friendship.

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  1. Pussywhipped dude wouldnt be allowed to help anyone but the woman he is strung out by.

  2. I dont drink and have a shaved head.

Admit you have no point and jumped the gun.

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Rock is right here. Sky, Do you truly fail to see that we are all advocating the same thing here (i.e. “balance”, as you yourself have said)? I don’t think anybody here disagrees that a serious partner should come before a friend. The way I’ve always seen it, “bros before hoes” means exactly that, i.e. going for some strange isn’t worth losing a friendship over. A girlfriend/wife does not constitute a “ho”.

Also, read the title of the thread and the first post. The point of the thread isn’t to create a bitchfest about friends that we don’t get to see enough of because of their lifestyle choices. A pussy whipped guy is one who would like the maintain that friendship, but is powerless to do so because his woman won’t LET him. I’m not saying that the woman’s intentions are necessarily wrong: a guy’s buddies aren’t always good influences. Personally, however, I feel that it is wrong in most cases because respecting your partner’s autonomy (within reason, of course) shows a great deal more respect than controlling him/her does.[/quote]

How does anybody know the terms of the relationship that the OP is griping about, other than to take it at face value that what he is saying is a fact?

Call it what you will, but in my experience when someone starts crying about so and so being pussy whipped, or multiple people being pussy whipped, it is not the other peoples problem.

Why don’t we get his pussy whipped brother and his pussy whipped former friends on here so that they can tell their side? Maybe they actually are. If that is the case then I will absolutely eat my words and issue a formal apology to the whole internetz.

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There’s a difference between someone that would rather hang with their girl then to go get drunk and to grab a beer to catch up. I get people grow up and that’s life and that’s not what bothers me, it’s the fact that someone your close with just changes drastically for no reason why. They never have time and everytime they either flake or have a bs excuse anyone can agree that’s pretty shitty. I have my own life and work a ton so I don’t expect them to always wanna get “drunk and goof off”.

I have friends that are married and have kids and they have no problem spending time to catch up and I understand when someone has a family their priorities change that’s not the issue.Being controlled by their women and them being so blinded they can’t see it is the issue. Where their every action is dictated by her and what she wants. If there are guys that are ok with being that guy it’s pathetic and sad.

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@BUDs,

We all change when we’re in a relationship (even if we don’t realize it), but I think some guys DO actually like that. Those cases are pretty pathetic, but it’s not our place to tell them how to live their lives. Undoubtedly, they would justify their actions and those of their partner anyway, though not necessarily openly. I think that being controlling (whether overtly or subvertly) is a highly disrespectful way to treat one’s partner, but it’s kind of like the women who keep running back to husbands that hit them. The individual has to be the one to realize that he/she is not satisfied with the way things are, and be willing to take action.

On a side note, I really don’t get the shitstorm this thread generated. No one once advocated putting your friends before any of the priorities in your life, and I doubt that many here are heavy drinkers, either. I think the gist of the thread is more along the lines of, “would it absolutely kill you to spend some time with your friends, when you have some free time, once in a blue moon?”

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Cheap drinks,easy girls,mayhem,her I come ;))

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You call this a shitstorm, seriously?

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

Why don’t we get his pussy whipped brother and his pussy whipped former friends on here so that they can tell their side? Maybe they actually are. If that is the case then I will absolutely eat my words and issue a formal apology to the whole internetz.

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Funny!

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Eh, “I’ve got to check with the wife” normally equals “I don’t really feel like doing that and here is a very convenient excuse” … at least for me.

I guess I just feel like going to the bars is kinda a waste of money 99% of the time. That 1% is good times, but I’ve found it almost always happens in a quiet bar with a small group of old friends. And, normally, hanging out at someone’s place (often with the kids running around), tends to be more fun. “Hey, let’s go to the range Saturday morning” sounds a lot better than “hey let’s get plastered Friday night.”

That said, there are some guys who get hooked by the wrong woman.

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[quote]Gambit_Lost wrote:
Eh, “I’ve got to check with the wife” normally equals “I don’t really feel like doing that and here is a very convenient excuse” … at least for me.

I guess I just feel like going to the bars is kinda a waste of money 99% of the time. That 1% is good times, but I’ve found it almost always happens in a quiet bar with a small group of old friends. And, normally, hanging out at someone’s place (often with the kids running around), tends to be more fun. “Hey, let’s go to the range Saturday morning” sounds a lot better than “hey let’s get plastered Friday night.”

That said, there are some guys who get hooked by the wrong woman. [/quote]

Do you prefer your wife be there with you when you’re with the small group of old friends, or is it better without her?

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[quote]Apoklyps wrote:

On a side note, I really don’t get the shitstorm this thread generated.[/quote]

This isn’t a shitstorm. I’m just having a little fun kicking the sacred cow of 20 somethings. You may have noticed a distinctly different response from people of distinctly different age groups.

Not that I’m captain maturity either. In fact the majority of the time the opposite is true, but it seems pretty clear that as peoples lives change so do their priorities. Some a little earlier, some a little later.

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[quote]therajraj wrote:
Why is getting married the only way to “grow up?”

Perhaps I simply don’t want to spend my life working like a dog for a woman who increasingly looks like a dog.

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I have to agree.

Most of the guys I know who are married aren’t “grown up”. They just get better at hiding the dirt they do.

Marriage today does NOT mean “grown up”. It means “legally and financially bound for life”.

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You find out who you’re friends really are when you need help getting your car out of a snow bank at 2:00 am on a work night.

It sucks but you do it.

Being pussy whipped for a time at the start of a relationship is normal I’d say, it’s better than being stiff and dry but after a time that shits got to stop.

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[quote]bond james bond wrote:
You find out who you’re friends really are when you need help getting your car out of a snow bank at 2:00 am on a work night.
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Totally agree here. You can tell the guys who haven’t experienced that “life or death” best friend test because they claim they have like 20 real friends.

There are friends…and there are associates. Most of the people you ever hang with will be the latter.

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]bond james bond wrote:
You find out who you’re friends really are when you need help getting your car out of a snow bank at 2:00 am on a work night.
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Totally agree here. You can tell the guys who haven’t experienced that “life or death” best friend test because they claim they have like 20 real friends.

There are friends…and there are associates. Most of the people you ever hang with will be the latter.[/quote]

Couldn’t agree more. I was explaining this to people recently and some got offended, the truth hurts I guess.

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you’ll find out who your friends are when you need help burying a body.

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[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
An innocent thread where a dude is venting about missing his friend is about to turn into this bullshit again?

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Yes

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I’m gonna pop some tags…only got 20 dollars in my pocket…i-i-i’m hunting lookin’ for a come up…this is fucking awesome…

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]bond james bond wrote:
You find out who you’re friends really are when you need help getting your car out of a snow bank at 2:00 am on a work night.
[/quote]

Totally agree here. You can tell the guys who haven’t experienced that “life or death” best friend test because they claim they have like 20 real friends.

There are friends…and there are associates. Most of the people you ever hang with will be the latter.[/quote]

This is why the question of whether or not a straight guy can have platonic female friends always gets answered incorrectly. People use the word “friend” way too liberally. I blame facebook.

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
An innocent thread where a dude is venting about missing his friend is about to turn into this bullshit again?

[/quote]
Yes[/quote]

LOL

I knew it would happen. Theyre all so serious over simple shit.

Now its turning into “you dont know who your friends are.”

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[quote]Steel Nation wrote:

[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]bond james bond wrote:
You find out who you’re friends really are when you need help getting your car out of a snow bank at 2:00 am on a work night.
[/quote]

Totally agree here. You can tell the guys who haven’t experienced that “life or death” best friend test because they claim they have like 20 real friends.

There are friends…and there are associates. Most of the people you ever hang with will be the latter.[/quote]

This is why the question of whether or not a straight guy can have platonic female friends always gets answered incorrectly. People use the word “friend” way too liberally. I blame facebook.[/quote]

Since it bothers you…why not call them allies?

It shouldnt matter what you call them. Dont you know the depth of your relationship without needing a label?

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[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]Steel Nation wrote:

[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]bond james bond wrote:
You find out who you’re friends really are when you need help getting your car out of a snow bank at 2:00 am on a work night.
[/quote]

Totally agree here. You can tell the guys who haven’t experienced that “life or death” best friend test because they claim they have like 20 real friends.

There are friends…and there are associates. Most of the people you ever hang with will be the latter.[/quote]

This is why the question of whether or not a straight guy can have platonic female friends always gets answered incorrectly. People use the word “friend” way too liberally. I blame facebook.[/quote]

Since it bothers you…why not call them allies?

It shouldnt matter what you call them. Dont you know the depth of your relationship without needing a label?[/quote]

Actually no, you dont, unless they stood by you when shit got real.

You count your friends when you lie in the mud.