46 Male and Have No Friends

i have many acquaintances but no close friends at all…noone to hang with etc. is this normal???me and wife arent very close either so im effed…curious if its unusual.wife and i have strange relationship but its fine… i get along with people easy but noone sticks…yeah it bugs me.

[quote]phatphit wrote:
i have many acquaintances but no close friends at all…noone to hang with etc. is this normal???me and wife arent very close either so im effed…curious if its unusual.[/quote]

Why aren’t you close to your wife?

What is normal?

I have loads of aqquaintances, but nobody I’d say who is close to me apart from family.
This is mainly cause I tend to do my own thing, but get along well with most people I meet.

I’d say its only a problem if it bothers you.

I am 25F and all my friends are just cyber people from T-Nation…

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]phatphit wrote:
i have many acquaintances but no close friends at all…noone to hang with etc. is this normal???me and wife arent very close either so im effed…curious if its unusual.[/quote]

Why aren’t you close to your wife?[/quote]

X 2

and yes that is unusual.

If you are over 35 and have even 2 real friends you call “family” I am sure you are doing better than 98% of the other people on the planet.

People let their true colors show the longer you know them.

They aren’t always pretty.

That may not answer your question…but I am not sure it is rare for a person in their 40’s to be in a situation like that unless they stayed real close to those people all their lives.

I have had friends cut off contact with everybody once they got married. Guys like that will be fucked if they ever need those friends back.

I have a core group of people I grew up with or knew from college. These are people I trust. I would find it odd to make it through life and meet no one at all like that unless you aren’t a good friend yourself.

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]phatphit wrote:
i have many acquaintances but no close friends at all…noone to hang with etc. is this normal???me and wife arent very close either so im effed…curious if its unusual.[/quote]

Why aren’t you close to your wife?[/quote]

X 2

and yes that is unusual. [/quote]

^^^^

What DJ said.

LOL like divorces or “near divorces” are so strange today.

[quote]Professor X wrote:
LOL like divorces or “near divorces” are so strange today.[/quote]

No, but IH, Joe and I are happily married and actually enjoy hanging with our wife. So we find it weird, I know we are the exception now and not the rule. So our question is more of “How does that happen” type of curious.

[quote]Professor X wrote:
LOL like divorces or “near divorces” are so strange today.[/quote]

Lol, I was thinking probably 1 out of 3 people who on here asking this guy why he isn’t close to his wife have a wife on another site paring about how their not close to their husbands.

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]Professor X wrote:
LOL like divorces or “near divorces” are so strange today.[/quote]

No, but IH, Joe and I are happily married and actually enjoy hanging with our wife. So we find it weird, I know we are the exception now and not the rule. So our question is more of “How does that happen” type of curious. [/quote]

Yeah, but you’ve had divorces too.

It’s too common today to act as if this is so strange.

I find it more strange he is staying with her…but then…maybe he doesn’t want to lose all his shit.

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]Professor X wrote:
LOL like divorces or “near divorces” are so strange today.[/quote]

No, but IH, Joe and I are happily married and actually enjoy hanging with our wife. So we find it weird, I know we are the exception now and not the rule. So our question is more of “How does that happen” type of curious. [/quote]

Exactly.

If Greeny and I weren’t best friends, then I wouldn’t feel the desire to be married to her.

The wife one seems odd, but lack of close friends doesn’t surprise me. I fucking hate most people and am perfectly content with a great family, video games and atlas stones. I could care less that someone feels the need to post on FB that their kid fell down and had to be rushed to the ER for rug burn. I was at the grocery store today and some bitch just stopped dead in her tracks at the self serve checkout after she was all done paying, just to show off her baby to anyone who would pay attention. She could’ve moved 5 steps forward so others could checkout, but no, miss mother fucking oblivious to the fact that others exist on the same planet decided to clog the aisle and show off her little fucking tax credit. A little off tangent there, but common sense and civility are foreign to most of the population. I like people who squat, bench and deadlift more than me. Maybe that counts.

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]Professor X wrote:
LOL like divorces or “near divorces” are so strange today.[/quote]

No, but IH, Joe and I are happily married and actually enjoy hanging with our wife. So we find it weird, I know we are the exception now and not the rule. So our question is more of “How does that happen” type of curious. [/quote]

Exactly.

If Greeny and I weren’t best friends, then I wouldn’t feel the desire to be married to her.[/quote]

Read above. I know of people who stay married just so they don’t go bankrupt.

[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]Professor X wrote:
LOL like divorces or “near divorces” are so strange today.[/quote]

No, but IH, Joe and I are happily married and actually enjoy hanging with our wife. So we find it weird, I know we are the exception now and not the rule. So our question is more of “How does that happen” type of curious. [/quote]

Yeah, but you’ve had divorces too.

It’s too common today to act as if this is so strange.

I find it more strange he is staying with her…but then…maybe he doesn’t want to lose all his shit.[/quote]

True I guess strange is not how I was looking at that part, more curious.

I have two guys that I could call to bury a body or would be beside me in jail. I have a lot of other friends that I have made that are pretty close. And I am an asshole in general who would rather stay at the house and play on my PS3.

I find it strange he has not made any “real” bonds with anyone in his life, that is strange.

I’m 49 and have no friends to hang out with either. Like X said, as my friends got married, I barely see them. The one friend I had I haven’t seen in years… even though he lives 20 minutes away. He ONLY calls when he needs some professional advice - which I selflessly give.

But I’m okay with this. My world is small, my wife is truly my best friend, and I really love hanging out with her and her sisters and cousins.

[quote]biglifter wrote:
The wife one seems odd, but lack of close friends doesn’t surprise me. I fucking hate most people and am perfectly content with a great family, video games and atlas stones. I could care less that someone feels the need to post on FB that their kid fell down and had to be rushed to the ER for rug burn. I was at the grocery store today and some bitch just stopped dead in her tracks at the self serve checkout after she was all done paying, just to show off her baby to anyone who would pay attention. She could’ve moved 5 steps forward so others could checkout, but no, miss mother fucking oblivious to the fact that others exist on the same planet decided to clog the aisle and show off her little fucking tax credit. A little off tangent there, but common sense and civility are foreign to most of the population. I like people who squat, bench and deadlift more than me. Maybe that counts.
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Good post. I also cringe at the “taking up too much space in the aisle because you forgot other people exist as you and your 500lbs kin can stand next to each other like bellowing plump cattle” people.

I get the feeling some people do things like that so they feel…significant. It’s cool to be proud of your kid. It’s fucked up to hold people hostage so they notice your kid.

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
I’m 49 and have no friends to hang out with either. Like X said, as my friends got married, I barely see them. The one friend I had I haven’t seen in years… even though he lives 20 minutes away. He ONLY calls when he needs some professional advice - which I selflessly give.

But I’m okay with this. My world is small, my wife is truly my best friend, and I really love hanging out with her and her sisters and cousins.[/quote]

Kind of my point ID, while you may not have friends outside your wife and family you DO have that bond. Which I would consider pretty normal.

[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]Professor X wrote:
LOL like divorces or “near divorces” are so strange today.[/quote]

No, but IH, Joe and I are happily married and actually enjoy hanging with our wife. So we find it weird, I know we are the exception now and not the rule. So our question is more of “How does that happen” type of curious. [/quote]

Exactly.

If Greeny and I weren’t best friends, then I wouldn’t feel the desire to be married to her.[/quote]

Read above. I know of people who stay married just so they don’t go bankrupt.[/quote]

Understood.

Read above.

Derek echoes my sentiments to the ‘T’.

[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]biglifter wrote:
The wife one seems odd, but lack of close friends doesn’t surprise me. I fucking hate most people and am perfectly content with a great family, video games and atlas stones. I could care less that someone feels the need to post on FB that their kid fell down and had to be rushed to the ER for rug burn. I was at the grocery store today and some bitch just stopped dead in her tracks at the self serve checkout after she was all done paying, just to show off her baby to anyone who would pay attention. She could’ve moved 5 steps forward so others could checkout, but no, miss mother fucking oblivious to the fact that others exist on the same planet decided to clog the aisle and show off her little fucking tax credit. A little off tangent there, but common sense and civility are foreign to most of the population. I like people who squat, bench and deadlift more than me. Maybe that counts.
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Good post. I also cringe at the “taking up too much space in the aisle because you forgot other people exist as you and your 500lbs kin can stand next to each other like bellowing plump cattle” people.

I get the feeling some people do things like that so they feel…significant. It’s cool to be proud of your kid. It’s fucked up to hold people hostage so they notice your kid.
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Maybe she was looking for the Daddy?