Sorry I missed this before, next time you’re in the area you should come to BJJ. PM me and I’ll send you the link.
I went to Michigan, I’ll have to kick your ass if you do come.
Either I have super powers, or it could be right below your user name when you post.
A little BJJ girl bitching, things that suck:
Nails, I have to keep my nails really short. I like a nice french manicure, but any sort of nail hurts whoever I’m rolling with. Even worse is when the get bent back, owww.
Pedicures don’t last. I painted my toe nails a lovely hot pink and then went to BJJ. Afterwards, ruined because they get scraped on the mat.
Shaving. It’s winter, I feel no need to shave everyday, but with BJJ there are hands all over my legs. Can I be the girl that doesn’t shave? Everyone hates stubble. Speaking of stubble, the guys don’t shave for me. I don’t get to hook up, yet still get stubble burn all over.
Hair, mines at an awkward length, it gets pulled a lot. I hate tapping to hair pulling. Also all of the rolling around makes it frizzy, eewww.
Man sweat. I have to deal with boy sweat all over me with none of the benefits. Sometimes the biggest motivation to not be on bottom is not wanting sweat dripping onto you. The smell lingers, so if I want to make any stops on the way home, I have to deal with smelling like stinky boy.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
A little BJJ girl bitching, things that suck:
Nails, I have to keep my nails really short. I like a nice french manicure, but any sort of nail hurts whoever I’m rolling with. Even worse is when the get bent back, owww.
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Bad enough to have fingers and thumbs bent back - ouch.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
Pedicures don’t last. I painted my toe nails a lovely hot pink and then went to BJJ. Afterwards, ruined because they get scraped on the mat.
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Nothing to say to that. Sorry.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
Shaving. It’s winter, I feel no need to shave everyday, but with BJJ there are hands all over my legs. Can I be the girl that doesn’t shave? Everyone hates stubble. Speaking of stubble, the guys don’t shave for me. I don’t get to hook up, yet still get stubble burn all over.
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Do it. What is good for the gander is good for the goose. If they complain, then you can ask them to shave or if you should grow it out to be soft. Although, if you want to use prickliness as a grip or lock deterrent, then you want some stubble so don’t let it grow too much. Being passive aggressive is okay if it keeps you from being discouraged.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
Man sweat. I have to deal with boy sweat all over me with none of the benefits. Sometimes the biggest motivation to not be on bottom is not wanting sweat dripping onto you. The smell lingers, so if I want to make any stops on the way home, I have to deal with smelling like stinky boy. [/quote]
Some other’s sweat on me due to training is not my favorite thing either. I have thought about bribing sensei to not pair me up with the excessive sweaters. Wintertime is best for that as the center never gets hot and it serves as prevention for sweating. But summertime, man, it is is like a sauna.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
A little BJJ girl bitching, things that suck:
Nails, I have to keep my nails really short. I like a nice french manicure, but any sort of nail hurts whoever I’m rolling with. Even worse is when the get bent back, owww.
Pedicures don’t last. I painted my toe nails a lovely hot pink and then went to BJJ. Afterwards, ruined because they get scraped on the mat.
Shaving. It’s winter, I feel no need to shave everyday, but with BJJ there are hands all over my legs. Can I be the girl that doesn’t shave? Everyone hates stubble. Speaking of stubble, the guys don’t shave for me. I don’t get to hook up, yet still get stubble burn all over.
Hair, mines at an awkward length, it gets pulled a lot. I hate tapping to hair pulling. Also all of the rolling around makes it frizzy, eewww.
Man sweat. I have to deal with boy sweat all over me with none of the benefits. Sometimes the biggest motivation to not be on bottom is not wanting sweat dripping onto you. The smell lingers, so if I want to make any stops on the way home, I have to deal with smelling like stinky boy. [/quote]
nagger, please. You’re scaring skyel.
[quote]downwardog wrote:
nagger, please. You’re scaring skyel.
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She does MT, a few broken nails aren’t going to scare her that easily. They’re just little things no one warned me about, now she knows what to expect. Learning the nail lesson the hard way, sucks.
Anyway, she’s already made up her mind to go, and now there’s no turning back. Right?
I did nothing physical between Tuesday and Sunday. Well, unless fighting with my brother counts. I managed to gullitione him in the laundry room, got a RNC while he was watching the games, and we did a lot of random grip fighting. I usually just get owned, ie picked up and sat on, so it was nice to be able to hold my own. He won’t tap though, so I just chocked until he coughed and left it.
Do any of you listen to radiolab on NPR Radiolab: Podcasts | WNYC Studios | Podcasts ? There was a show about choice the other day, and it had some interesting and relevant information in it. They talked about Baba Shiv’s work with choice http://www.gsb.stanford.edu/NEWS/bmag/sbsm0802/feature-babashiv.html . Basically he found that when the analytical part of your brain is occupied, you make your choices based on more primitive visceral impulses. He asked people to memorize numbers, and then offered them fruit or cake. The more numbers they were asked to learn the more likely they were to choose cake.
I spend all of my time with the analytical part of my brain occupied. It reinforced the point that I need to be aware of taking the time to cook and not let myself make food choices when I’m hungry. I haven’t been that aware lately and have been picking the cake a little too often.
I rolled last night; a week off the mats and it felt a little rusty for the rolling at 25% warm up. There were a lot of new kids (actual high school kids) so they took up the blue belts.
I ended drilling with Steve. He’s the 210 white belt I rolled with and told I would always be on top. He was the only comfortable option. Smaller guys showed up later, but only after we had paired up. We drilled a sweep from closed guard, but I was having a flightly girl day and didn’t retain much. Also, Steve kept doing all the work.
When rolling time came once again I had cooties. I stood there looking around and no one made eye contact, ugh. I made people roll a few rounds with me, and learned I need to work on sweeping from half guard and defending the x-choke.
I rolled with John (who made me cry) and he started off by saying I made him cry the whole way home. I told him we’d be rolling at my 100% and his 25%. He rolled like a little puppy, and I just took his back and loop choked him over and over. It was nice.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
I rolled with John (who made me cry) and he started off by saying I made him cry the whole way home. I told him we’d be rolling at my 100% and his 25%. He rolled like a little puppy, and I just took his back and loop choked him over and over. It was nice. [/quote]
Poor guy you’ve ruined him.
Hes going to flinch every time he is physical with a woman, every time he has sex he will flash back to when he made you cry and it will make him go fetal.
His future wife will curse you.
No but seriously, see what I mean about him going “too easy” from now on out of fear ?
[quote]Westclock wrote:
Poor guy you’ve ruined him.
Hes going to flinch every time he is physical with a woman, every time he has sex he will flash back to when he made you cry and it will make him go fetal.
His future wife will curse you.
No but seriously, see what I mean about him going “too easy” from now on out of fear ?
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Uh, he’s had many an interaction with women, and actually since he was going 25% he just flirted and made dirty jokes as we rolled. And he’s already married. I have not had any long term affects on the man.
He’s past the developmental point of me being able to mold his life views on anything outside of the immediate situation. He may never go 100% with a woman during BJJ, but he’s a large athletic male, he doesn’t ever need to.
EDIT: You realise, he hurt me, right? I wouldn’t have had a long term effect on him, his actions would have. I’m pretty sure had I been an average girl, my reaction would have been much worse, and he probably would have actually physically hurt me. He could have ruined me.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
Westclock wrote:
Poor guy you’ve ruined him.
Hes going to flinch every time he is physical with a woman, every time he has sex he will flash back to when he made you cry and it will make him go fetal.
His future wife will curse you.
No but seriously, see what I mean about him going “too easy” from now on out of fear ?
Uh, he’s had many an interaction with women, and actually since he was going 25% he just flirted and made dirty jokes as we rolled. And he’s already married. I have not had any long term affects on the man.
He’s past the developmental point of me being able to mold his life views on anything outside of the immediate situation. He may never go 100% with a woman during BJJ, but he’s a large athletic male, he doesn’t ever need to.
EDIT: You realise, he hurt me, right? I wouldn’t have had a long term effect on him, his actions would have. I’m pretty sure had I been an average girl, my reaction would have been much worse, and he probably would have actually physically hurt me. He could have ruined me. [/quote]
That was my attempt at sarcasm actually, it doesn’t seem to come across well over the internet.
Next time I shall use a variety of emoticons such as “;)” and “:P” to clarify.
lol.
[quote]Westclock wrote:
That was my attempt at sarcasm actually, it doesn’t seem to come across well over the internet.
Next time I shall use a variety of emoticons such as “;)” and “:P” to clarify.
lol.
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Well, at the time it worried me a little. I started to cry, and he looked so scared. Eh, it’s all over now so we’re not going to dwell.
I think the emoticons are a great idea! 
[quote]pch2 wrote:
downwardog wrote:
nagger, please. You’re scaring skyel.
She does MT, a few broken nails aren’t going to scare her that easily. They’re just little things no one warned me about, now she knows what to expect. Learning the nail lesson the hard way, sucks.
Anyway, she’s already made up her mind to go, and now there’s no turning back. Right?[/quote]
Hehehe!!! You guys crack me up.
This week was pretty much a flighty girl BJJ week. He’d show us what we were to drill, and I’d pay attention, but then when drill time actually came around nothing stuck.
Wends we did self defense. He started class out by saying, it’s great that you all know sport BJJ, but if you get the shit beat out of you in the bar wearing one of my shirts, I won’t be happy. So, we did what to do if he rushes you, which is exactly what Steve showed us, guillotine to guard. Then if he tries to punch you - get close and hip toss to arm bar.
I haven’t really been taking self defense seriously. I usually go to it when I’m trying to sell someone on BJJ, but honestly the whole idea of actually using any of this in real life (other than playing) seems a bit ridiculous. You’re going to arm bar a stranger? They’re not going to tap, and if they do, you just let them go? Won’t it all start over? Also, in what situations are you supposed to initiate violence? I understand the extremes, but most of life is not the extremes. I frequently encounter random guys that don’t understand personal space, I’m not initiating violence with them.
I went out the other day, and while waiting outside, some drunk guy bear hugged me from behind. At the time I thought, huh t-postion, grab pants toss to ground, but all I did was swat at him and tell him to let go. When do you know if it’s toss or stern voice? Isn’t the point to make the toss a reflex? But then, being impaled on the the cement (the chances of a random guy knowing how to break fall is low) is way too harsh of a punishment for being drunk and touchy. Is it just something you know, and I’ve yet to encounter it?
David Adiv’s here next weekend, from the stories I’ve heard it should be great times.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
…I haven’t really been taking self defense seriously. I usually go to it when I’m trying to sell someone on BJJ, but honestly the whole idea of actually using any of this in real life (other than playing) seems a bit ridiculous. You’re going to arm bar a stranger? They’re not going to tap, and if they do, you just let them go? Won’t it all start over? Also, in what situations are you supposed to initiate violence? I understand the extremes, but most of life is not the extremes. I frequently encounter random guys that don’t understand personal space, I’m not initiating violence with them.
I went out the other day, and while waiting outside, some drunk guy bear hugged me from behind. At the time I thought, huh t-postion, grab pants toss to ground, but all I did was swat at him and tell him to let go. When do you know if it’s toss or stern voice? Isn’t the point to make the toss a reflex? But then, being impaled on the the cement (the chances of a random guy knowing how to break fall is low) is way too harsh of a punishment for being drunk and touchy. Is it just something you know, and I’ve yet to encounter it? [/quote]
I think you have the right attitude: you’re not afraid of men nor do you see them as some danger. I get very uncomfortable in the women’s self-defense lessons because I think it not only promotes an unhealthy paranoia but feeds the illusion that there is this threat all around us at all times and that men are suspect.
Worse, this stuff will only ATTRACT that which the women claim to fear so much. I mean, it’s a farking rehearsal! What do you think the next logical step is for the mind? To CREATE the situation!
I despise it. I despise pantomiming kicking men in the balls and I won’t do it. These scenarios aren’t going to happen to me. They don’t exist for me. I’m not nervous around men, nor are there any lurking in the shadows ready to hurt me.
I pointed this out to Steve recently and a little light bulb went off. the last time we covered basic self-defense moves with a woman I was able to see where they cross over to sport BJJ and I got a lot more out of the lesson.
In the stand up grabs, you can you the same evasion techniques in a stand-up match, for example.
[quote]pch2 wrote:
David Adiv’s here next weekend, from the stories I’ve heard it should be great times.[/quote]
Just from the looks of it - it should be.
Nothing wrong with handsome, playful men.
[quote]zororelation wrote:
Nothing wrong with handsome, playful men.[/quote]
speaking of which…college wrestling is on the tv.
i’ll be in my bunk…
Nice. Maybe I should buy a TV.
[quote]zororelation wrote:
Nice. Maybe I should buy a TV.[/quote]
Me too!
Thursday we did throws, and I ended up with a blue belt which was good, but he was having a - I don’t want to do anything sort of day. So I just worked on some foot work with him, and didn’t actually get to throw anyone. Which at the time was fine; throws are a pain. We then did a sweet sweep, which I made him drill. I managed to accidentally knee him in the face though, so the drilling came to an end quickly, because then he was content to just lay on me and not be swept.
Then we did rounds of take downs, so I got taken down over and over, until he said we could jump guard. I’d rather just jump guard all the time. Is there anything wrong with that? You can’t jump guard in the street, but I have no intention of fighting in the street.