[quote]Shire wrote:
ComixGuy wrote:
I have rolling experience with attractive women. I have not had to worry about things popping up so to speak.
Two reasons:
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I am wanting to focus on the training, not trying to find a date or a rub out fantasy. In other words, which comes first, training or helping your social structure. In my case, it is easy. Now with that being said, see number 2
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Nor do I personalize these women by trying to know them outside of class. If I become familiar with them outside of class, become associates and then friends, then that conceivably might cause some issues. If I keep them away from the front of the brain…I am better off. One time I showed some female friends what I was learning in class and that became difficult towards the end. Fortunately, for me my wife thought it was hot. I am a lucky sob.
Reasons other guys may not want to roll with women:
1)They suffer from Knight syndrome aka as prince charming and can’t function in a reality that doesn’t work that way.
2)Afraid of a weight mismatch and hurting the female; watch if they roll with guys close to your weight class.
3)Lack of maturity or socially stunted. In which case they are afraid of being ‘found’ out or losing to the lady because they were thinking of “dead puppies” during the training.
4)Afraid of getting owned by a girl - self esteem issues.
As my daughter is learning an integrated combative system, (our sensei’s way of saying mixed martial art and getting it sold to the parents), she is learning ‘some’ grappling. But as she gets older, there will be less emphasis on pound portion of her training and more ground. So reading pch’s log is an investment in trying to figure out what my daughter might be going through in the future.
WTF?
Most virile men will get a hard on when the wind blows in their direction.
It never entered my mind that i would “get owned” by a woman, that wouldn’t bother me.
In fact the lineage holder of my Silat school is a woman of 77yrs(who looks 50 but fights better than anyone i’ve seen and i’ve seen some excellent fighters!). She could easily beat me in a fight. Even her number one disciple in the UK admits(happily and proudly) that he has no chance against our teacher.
You gots to chill.[/quote]
No chillin necessary. If my writing was not clear, I am happy to take this opportunity to explain.
I said reasons ‘OTHER’ guys ‘MAY’ not want to, not me.
The first two reasons I listed are why I am able to roll with women in training without having wood issues…mainly because it is training.
The other 4 are reasons that I have heard from others as to why they won’t or don’t like to.
I have no problem getting owned by a female in my training. I am more upset at myself for getting bested than what gender does the besting. But I know other guys (usually the newer ones to training) who have problems with that. I have no ego on the mat when it comes to gender.
Regarding your lineage holder: I am happy that you have someone readily available to you of that skillset and level. And happy that you obviously value it.
As far as your virility observation…popping wood during training is to me a lack of control, not a sign of virility. For the record, I have found women appreciate a man who is in control of his unit and not the otherway around. Not trying to diss, just pointing out flipside of your comment and its repercussions.
And yes, playful wrestling with female friends does give me wood, which is the point. But that is a different focus than training…a lot different.
Sorry for the hijack, pch.
