I was in the middle of a lifting session sweating my ass off yesterday when she text regarding a walking session she had just done…
I might have put my foot in my mouth.
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You must have forgotten the theme of “Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus.”
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Just because the sentence ended with a question mark doesn’t mean they were looking for an answer.
Once I figured that out, it was like that scene in the Matrix when Neo learned how to stop the bullets.
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Yeah im old enough i should have known better.
This is why I hate texting. No longer a quick way to communicate and instead a time suck for attention and drama. I get it, women want connection. But if I’m doing things, these messages piss me off.
It’s tough when a quick message turns into a whole emotional landmine. But yeah, for a lot of women (and honestly some men too), it’s less about info and more about feeling heard or connected. Doesn’t make it any less frustrating when you’re mid-task and getting hit with a wall of texts though. Balance is tricky.
I’ve concluded its in everyone’s best interest when she ask. That i basically lie about my rate of progress.
Im curious if anyone else on here has a " partner" that is also heavily into… lifting or general fitness ?
I question if that would be a good or bad thing on my end.
Of course it would be nice to be able to talk about a lifting session and have that person get it. Just saying.
In what way would that be good?
In what way would that be bad?
Most importantly, why are you asking?
I disagree with this conclusion.
If someone is with me, they’re getting the real me. I may not share everything I’m going through, but I’m not going to lie to save her feelings.
Are her feelings more important than your honor?
Stop feeding her comfort every time she asks for it; you’re sabotaging your relationship, your honor, and her health every time you do so.
Just my opinion.
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Good points.
I guess im curious on who have partners who share their passion and how they view it.
My wife works out almost as much as I. She’s not nearly as vain but lives a fit lifestyle like myself. I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone that didn’t.
Ive never had that .
I mean if you’re ok with it that’s what’s important. For me, I want to admire my partner and respect their lifestyle.
Regarding her… i just want her to be healthy.
On the other hand… on occasion i just wish i could talk shop with her.
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Shop talk is for the boys.
Edit:
If your partner is only getting fit because of your efforts, expect that to be the norm for the entirety of your relationship. You’ll likely get the bare minimim effort you’re willing to accept.
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Guess ill save it for my son.
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Ok i admit… since i dont want to be overbearing regarding her helping herself. Im finding im having a hard time when she says … im tired didnt feel like getting my steps in today.
When presented with that, I agree with them “Today was an exhausting day”
Well… i response is normally" well ok" in a non judgemental tone. Since I do remind myself that i cant hold the same expectations on her that I expect out of myself .