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Well hello all.

I am coming on this time with a bit of big news. (in my opinion)

After my visit home which ended this past monday morning I made a rather large and tough decision. I have decided to put off my final year of Graduate studies for now in order to go back home and help with my moms recovery. Nailing every aspect to a T, from training and nutrition, to life and love in general.

Yes things are progressing nicely for the most part, but there are some issues to work through, and I feel I simply need to be there to help out.

Just thought you all might be interested in this little bit of news. Thanks again for all your thoughts, prayers, and help in general so far and I am sure in the future.

Well I better run, have to finish with my final bit of packing and get ready to hit the road this evening.

Mom is actually flying out this morning and is going to take the road trip with me. Giving her a nice chance to get away and us some time to just chat.

So, see you all in a few days when I am relocated back to Northeast Kansas. Now dont go and change this place to much in my absence. (last time I came back to a whole new site)

See ya,

Phill

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Phill,

Putting off your last year of grad studies is a big decision, but anybody would be lucky to have a son like you.

I lost my dad in November and wish that I’d had the time to spend with him that you now have with your mom. We all wish you the best.

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Kinetix,

Thank you.

Sorry to hear about your loss as well, my best goes out to you and yours.

Well we made the trip in record time. Mom flew out and road along with me. I’ll tell you that woman can sure sleep a lot now.

Just wanted to tell you all me and TOTO are back in Kansas safe and sound. I have quite a bit of settling in to do, but after that I’ll be around. Dont let me bacome estranged around here. Keep me informed on any new happenings.

Thanks again ALL.

Phill

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OK,

First off I gotta say sorry to all of you who gave all the support and such. I feel rather guilty for not giving more regular updates.

Just kinda tough. Tough due to the fact I am here hands on with the situation. It is VERY easy to focus on the negative when it is right in your face and not take note of all the little advancements along the way. You have to detach, step back and see the situation as a whole. When I do that I can see the huge strides we have takne over the past months and the steady, yet slow improvements.

So try and keep this short mom is doing much better. Diet is getting VERY solid as opposed to before. That has helped in every other aspect. Sleep, energy, etc…

As far as training. Taking it slow. She is ever advncing in the ABBH w/o I laid out for her, and we are doing lots of trail walking and such.

She is HAPPPPPPY to be getting her hair back. :slight_smile: With the cold weather moving in it will help also.

We just got back last night from an AWESOME trip to Florida. The Tampa Bay area. Just her and I flew down for a five day fun fest. It was a BLAST. I will get a few pics up before long.

Well guess thats about it. Just wanted to update you all and say thank you for everything once again. We are still trudging along and dont plan on stopping.

You all also give me a GREAT place to interact with like minded people, and get a little break stuck out here in the sticks.:slight_smile:

Live healthy, train hard, and enjoy every damn minute you can.

Thanks,
Phill

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Good to hear, man. Can’t imagine what you’re going through, but it sounds like your mom is very lucky to have a son like you.

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hey Phill, i’m glad to hear everything is going great with your mom. She is a real t-vixen and u are a real t-man for what yall have overcome together. She is lucky to have a son like you, and you are lucky have wat seems to be the best son/mom relationship ever. I hope I never know what it is like to go through wat you have with a close one, though its to late for my mom.

I Thanks for everything you have done for this board and community. And thanks for doing this for your mom, and showing that the power of love can overcome all. Keep it up and cherish this relationship you have with her, it is something I would kill for.

It seems so unfair to me somketimes when I see kids my age ruining their relationships with their moms, but it is a bright light in my heart when I can see someone like you who loves his mom more than anything and is courageous enough to let every single person in this world to know it. Thanks Phill.

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Phill, I have not been around much at all either, my own personal issues, so thank you for the update. From time to time I think of your situation and hope everything works out for the absolute best. Remember you have friends here that you can count on, when you feel the need. Remember, my PM is always open for you!

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Well sorry all for the lack of reports here. After all the help and support you have shown.

So for a little update.

Sorry again, seems I am better at updating the Bad instead of the good.

(Short Abridged version)

Well everything was going awesome, great progress in seemingly every area. Speech, reading writing, health, mental, physical, etc…

Then I had to make the decision if I were going to stay or return back to DC for school. Well I made the decision to return and finish my last year of grad studies. This kind hit home with mom. She didnt want me to go, but knew I had to sometime . I also worked it out that she could stay with me for extended periods of time which had/has her VERY excited.

So, about this time (month and a half ago or so) Things started going south. Major regression and I just figured it was a reraction to me leaving, and the holidays and such. Kind of mental, mild depression, stress or what not. Lots of QT was being spent between my hidden preperations for leaving.

Fast forward to two days befor Xmass and 3 days befor I leave for school. She goes to the doc and seems that the problems are from the tumors in her head again. The radiation didn’t work. It had NO effect and the now were growing larger and putting pressure on her brain, causing problems with memeory and motor skills. DAMN!!! All this work and now this.

Well to make a long story short the outlook as of yet sounds positive. I had to go ahead and go forward with my plans to go back to school, but am prepared to get catch a plane ASAP.

They are going to use some new tech and do a non intensive surgery where they ZAP the Tumors with lazers. Good thing is that the tumor that was an immediate threat to her Life was the one the removed manually in the first operation and is Gone. So as long as the scan of her total body comes up clean it sounds good.

So. I am back in DC. They are going to be doing this soon. Are plan is to get her better and she has Major motivation to get well enough to get her behind here with me so we can tool around.

We were and will continue to do a hell af a job getting her better. You all pushing behind her is a major factor as well, so thanks again.

On a positive side I am back on a high speed connection and away from the sticks which makes it easier to post and such. In the sticks this thread would take damn near ten minutes to even open.

I’ll keep you posted. She as well as I am thankful for everything you all have done, and are glad to have had this past Christmas and such together.

Once again Thanks everyone for everything and I will try and have more of a presence ( like you care :slight_smile: ) on the forum again, and keep you all updated on the progress of things herein. With hopes of more good than bad.

Thanks and see you round.
Phill

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not much I can say man, I can only say that you have a whole NATION behind you and her. That is more than any one person in the entire world can say…

Take care man
Jason

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I’m glad you posted this Phill. I was wondering how she was doing. Tell your mom to hang in there and you do the same. You’re a good guy, being there for her when she needs you.

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Hey thanks guys.

Also forgot she got her first hair cut yesterday. :slight_smile: But now another surgery/shaving is likely. Damn, but not radiation.

Lateset as of this morning. Next monday, CT scan, Tuesday, MRI scan, both full body. If these come clear then Lazer surgery Wednesday. If something else shows well we wont even go there.

Thanks again.
Phill

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Well I promissed to be better with these updates so hear goes. 1 week after leaving Kansas for DC finds me right back in Kansas for a few days.

Mom goes for brain surgery again in just a matter of hours. She passed all the pre-test (MRI’s, CT scans, etc…) I will not say with flying colrs but passed. They did find one area that has “questionable activity” in her chest cavity, but not enough to warrant not going ahead with the procedure and addressing it later.

So we made it throught the first big hurdle. If other areas showed it was going to be time for a family discussion on what to do. They would have suggested a NO on this surgey.

This surgey is said to be much less intensive. They are using lazers to go in and zap the lil buggers. One of the 2 tumors is the bigger of the two in surgical worry. It is attached to the part of the brain that controls motor skills. So the doc will have to be very carefull on this one. All in all though the docs seem VERY optimistic abpout the procedure.

Mom. Well as usual she is being very tough. Does take her time to let loose with me a bit now that I am back. It was a tough week while I was away, but gave her something, as well as me, to fight for and look forward to. She said she is going to get in there, then spend her one day resting in ICU then “KICK some ass” to get ottua the hospital and be able to come to DC.

Well thats about it for now. Im gonna run up there and be with her till she goes in and be there when she comes out. I’ll let you know how all turns out.

Were shooting to break all the recoup records that she has set so far. Start of a new year with a bang. Each one of these hurdles seems like a KILLER when they arrise after so much hard work but we havent found one we backed down to yet and as long as she is willing I am right there to help her over every damn hump we find.

Later, and THANKS for everything.
Phill

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Reassuring, that not only do Waterburys programs make a person look better, but also improve someones chances of survival.
I’m going to print this out and show to my mother.

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My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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phill,

Of course we want to be kept up-to-date. I’m sure no one expected that your mom’s troubles would ever be over completely. She and you have to remember, and psyche yourselves, to be in this for the long haul.

…and we’ll be there, too.

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Phill,

Every time I read an update to this post I can’t help, but think what a good son you are. I also can’t help but be amazed at how the people in this online forum can come together to offer support.

I wish you the strength to support your mom as she gets back on her feet and kicks some ass.

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Quick reply, lil tired to wait for this slow dial up to let me read your replys so a big THANKS in advance before I crash out.

Well she did it again. In out and ready to move on. Three hours in surgery and then they were pushing her down the Hall to ICU. Her blabbing the whole way and begging for a cup of coffee.

Couldn’t get her to shut up and rest. LOL Seems like all went VERY well should be to her regular room by the AM…

Later and thanks for helping through the latest battle, sooner or later we are bound to win the WAR.:slight_smile:

Phill

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Hey Phill,

I’m glad to see this thread is still going strong. I think it’s safe to say that everyone at T-Nation - especially myself - are pulling for you and your mother. Keep up a positive attitude and the future will be bright!

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Wow, you all never ceise to amze me with all the out pouring of support thanks.

As far as me and what I am doing/did for my mother. Well there really was.is no Choice in my mind it is just something I have to do. Where as you all are stepping up and lending support to just some guy that you know through this forum no that action is a Great one. It just goes to shpw how awesome this community we have built is.

Thanks.

I will be going to vistit mom this morning for a bit once she wakes up and then it is another 1300+ mile trip for me on I-70 east, Through this damn weather again so it’ll be a few days but will keep you up to date as I get new news.

I will be in DC waiting for her to get well enough to come for a visit, plenty of phone time, and have a plane ticket ready for me to come back if needed.

Thanks again

Phill

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Phil,

I wish you and your mother the best.