Did you generally abstain from caffeinated beverages prior to that or just different ones like colas or tea?
Mine started when I was probably 10 or 11 from early mornings delivering papers. At some point about then I started knocking back a cup before I started and another before I left for school.
Before I got kids, the coffee machine was next to the bed, on a timer, brewing directly into two mugs (both for me). Two minutes later my shortwave radio started BBC World Service. That way I survive until I make my pot at the office. Addiction, Moi?
I have GOT to find time to process my feelings, and LoRez’s. So, it’s time for online dating. And now I’m developing a thing for a guy in Iraq, whom I accidentally winked at and then, when he responded, politely said something along the lines of “if you weren’t so far away I’d ask you out” (by which I meant his local home, I didn’t know about Iraq). Next thing I know we’re talking every day and I’m sort of crazy about him and it’s not practical.
But there are others, too. I’ve been out twice. The phrase “jukebox of pussy” keeps ringing in my ears (thanks, people of TNation for all the visuals I will NEVER GET OVER) but I haven’t found that to be an issue; it seems the same to me in that regard as someone I meet traditionally.
Anyway. Iraq. WTF. But I asked what he does for fun and you know what he said? “There’s a gym here.” ~swoon~
But it would seem that the bold approach IS effective. Even if inadvertent. “I like your groceries,” is my plan for next time I identify a target at the grocery store.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
But it would seem that the bold approach IS effective. Even if inadvertent. “I like your groceries,” is my plan for next time I identify a target at the grocery store.[/quote]
Yep.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
“I like your groceries,” is my plan for next time I identify a target at the grocery store. [/quote]
You had me at “like”.
[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
“I like your groceries,” is my plan for next time I identify a target at the grocery store. [/quote]
You had me at “like”.
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I just keep getting smoother and smoother.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]LoRez wrote:
All this coffee talk makes me sad I ruined my kettle a couple weeks ago. I left it on the stove, but forgot to close the lid, so it boiled dry, overheated, and the lid melted clean off.
I haven’t had coffee since.[/quote]
My god. Have you no stores where you live? I would have been there the day it happened, replacing.[/quote]
Well, I just switched to teas, since I have way too much looseleaf green tea at my office. And I’ve been spending more time at the office because the tea’s there. Of course, I’ve learned ways to drink my tea more efficiently (the online tea drinking hipsters call it “grandpa style”), so it’s not going down as quickly as anticipated. But West Lake Long Jing green tea (also known as Dragon Well, literal translation) goes pretty well with virgin coconut oil, so that’s been a fun bit of experimenting.
And energy drinks.
So… yeah. I was finishing off some not-so-great not-so-fresh coffee beans anyway, so until I have good beans, there’s no HUGE rush.
I haven’t talked to that girl since that night, and the subsequent attempt to meet up with her the next day. I’m thinking about wishing her luck on her finals (which are this week) and an internship at CDC (which she’s leaving for this week or next). But I haven’t done it yet.
The drive back I ended up searching out strip clubs. I hadn’t seen a full nude club since college, so there was an element of curiosity at play too. Visited three places, two of them I had a drink and walked out. One of them was the trashiest straight-out-of-some-dystopian-movie dive I’ve ever been in, and I was propositioned within 2 minutes of walking in the door. I finished my redbull and walked straight back out. (I was drinking redbull at that point since I still had about 6 hours to drive.)
But the place I did go to, I enjoyed myself. I had to cope somehow.
And since then my energy has been going toward my girlfriend, which right now is mostly focused on planning a snowshoeing trip when I see her in January. It turns out cold weather clothing is an incredibly fascinating and complex topic. And expensive. But it’s been a nice diversion. I think she’s pretty much exhausted talking about it, whereas I’m still problem solving. I’m taking advantage of this crazy cold weather to figure this stuff out… lots of driving around with no heat, windows open, sunroof open, seeing how things fare with the cold and wind. (Meanwhile, it’s about 50 degrees hotter than it’s supposed to be in northern Alaska…)
But yeah, I think things are fine.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I have GOT to find time to process my feelings, and LoRez’s. So, it’s time for online dating. And now I’m developing a thing for a guy in Iraq, whom I accidentally winked at and then, when he responded, politely said something along the lines of “if you weren’t so far away I’d ask you out” (by which I meant his local home, I didn’t know about Iraq). Next thing I know we’re talking every day and I’m sort of crazy about him and it’s not practical.
But there are others, too. I’ve been out twice. The phrase “jukebox of pussy” keeps ringing in my ears (thanks, people of TNation for all the visuals I will NEVER GET OVER) but I haven’t found that to be an issue; it seems the same to me in that regard as someone I meet traditionally.
Anyway. Iraq. WTF. But I asked what he does for fun and you know what he said? “There’s a gym here.” ~swoon~
But it would seem that the bold approach IS effective. Even if inadvertent. “I like your groceries,” is my plan for next time I identify a target at the grocery store. [/quote]
LOL.
Your life is like a Woody Allen movie. :-)[/quote]
I don’t want it to be! I want it to be like a Frank Capra movie, all cheerful hometowns and happy endings.
So the Iraq guy thinks I know a lot about the military. Have I been in? Hahahaha. I’ve read all the Tom Clancy books, of course, but I think I must be picking stuff up here at TN as I read along.
Wait till he finds out how much I know about porn and shaving balding heads! lol
I made coffee today.
I figured that was important to share. I made it past the roadblock of “I have no kettle” with “ok, I’ll just use a pot” even though that was surprisingly difficult for me to do from a conceptual/principle standpoint.
I feel like shopping for a kettle is such a massive undertaking, since I don’t want something that’s going to fail on me in the future. Plastic parts for anything but handles seems like a horrible design flaw. Because I’m sure I’m not the only person who’s ever boiled a kettle dry.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, it’s time for online dating. And now I’m developing a thing for a guy in Iraq, whom I accidentally winked at and then, when he responded, politely said something along the lines of “if you weren’t so far away I’d ask you out” (by which I meant his local home, I didn’t know about Iraq). Next thing I know we’re talking every day and I’m sort of crazy about him and it’s not practical.[/quote]
That’s good you’re having fun.
Although, from personal experience, what works at a distance rarely seems to work in person (and sometimes vice versa). There was this girl I had awesome online chemistry with, chatting for several weeks. She actually moved in and lived with me for about 3 weeks, and it was clear on the first day that it wasn’t going to work. We tried, but to no avail. (In hindsight, that was a completely stupid thing to do, but eh)
There’s something about online relationships that makes them fun and easy. And I think they’re good for that reason in particular… but they’re very different from the real thing.
On the other hand, my cousin met his wife online when he was in Iraq, and they actually spent a good amount of their quality time playing World of Warcraft together. From what I can tell it’s been a successful marriage. So maybe it’s an age/experience thing too.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, it’s time for online dating. And now I’m developing a thing for a guy in Iraq, whom I accidentally winked at and then, when he responded, politely said something along the lines of “if you weren’t so far away I’d ask you out” (by which I meant his local home, I didn’t know about Iraq). Next thing I know we’re talking every day and I’m sort of crazy about him and it’s not practical.[/quote]
That’s good you’re having fun.
Although, from personal experience, what works at a distance rarely seems to work in person (and sometimes vice versa). There was this girl I had awesome online chemistry with, chatting for several weeks. She actually moved in and lived with me for about 3 weeks, and it was clear on the first day that it wasn’t going to work. We tried, but to no avail. (In hindsight, that was a completely stupid thing to do, but eh)
There’s something about online relationships that makes them fun and easy. And I think they’re good for that reason in particular… but they’re very different from the real thing.
On the other hand, my cousin met his wife online when he was in Iraq, and they actually spent a good amount of their quality time playing World of Warcraft together. From what I can tell it’s been a successful marriage. So maybe it’s an age/experience thing too.[/quote]
[quote]LoRez wrote:
I made coffee today.
I figured that was important to share. I made it past the roadblock of “I have no kettle” with “ok, I’ll just use a pot” even though that was surprisingly difficult for me to do from a conceptual/principle standpoint.
I feel like shopping for a kettle is such a massive undertaking, since I don’t want something that’s going to fail on me in the future. Plastic parts for anything but handles seems like a horrible design flaw. Because I’m sure I’m not the only person who’s ever boiled a kettle dry.[/quote]
You’ve grown so much as a person since the last kettle, though. I feel like you could have plastic parts and it be okay if need be. I think perhaps we could draw a nice analogy to your love life here, where your desire for certainty paralyzes you.
There’s a line in the song Free Will that I like a lot (it’s Rush or Yes, I can never remember which): “If you choose not to decide you still have made a choice.”
So, so true.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, it’s time for online dating. And now I’m developing a thing for a guy in Iraq, whom I accidentally winked at and then, when he responded, politely said something along the lines of “if you weren’t so far away I’d ask you out” (by which I meant his local home, I didn’t know about Iraq). Next thing I know we’re talking every day and I’m sort of crazy about him and it’s not practical.[/quote]
That’s good you’re having fun.
Although, from personal experience, what works at a distance rarely seems to work in person (and sometimes vice versa). There was this girl I had awesome online chemistry with, chatting for several weeks. She actually moved in and lived with me for about 3 weeks, and it was clear on the first day that it wasn’t going to work. We tried, but to no avail. (In hindsight, that was a completely stupid thing to do, but eh)
There’s something about online relationships that makes them fun and easy. And I think they’re good for that reason in particular… but they’re very different from the real thing.
On the other hand, my cousin met his wife online when he was in Iraq, and they actually spent a good amount of their quality time playing World of Warcraft together. From what I can tell it’s been a successful marriage. So maybe it’s an age/experience thing too.[/quote]
http://therationalmale.com/2011/08/26/buffers/[/quote]
I’ve had the awesome LDR that was impossible when we were local to each other, but that was when I was in my teens and early 20s and back and forth between my parents.
That’s not of interest to me now. But I don’t know. I’m going to pursue other options while enjoying the correspondence with Iraq and see what happens. My only real worry is that I attach so easily, and once I do everyone else fades. And then what? :-/
But on the other hand, I know I like him for all the right reasons, at least to the limited extent that can be determined in writing and photos. Still, I do a great deal of communicating in writing and know all sorts of people from my online wanderings (women friends) and I think I’m able to suss out basic personality/lifestyle stuff.
I will say, however, that my girlfriends are asking the same question; is his unavailability the attraction. But I don’t think so.