[quote]rrjc5488 wrote:
In my methods of psych class, we’ve got two experiments to design, conduct, then write up over the course of the semester… as a group of 4.
This one girl in our group has fucked us over once before in our first experiment. She was supposed to post her results (which our team was dependent on to write our papers) on that wednesday, but she waited until 9:35am on saturday. The fucking assignment was due THAT saturday at midnight. Annoying as that is in and of itself, I had planned on spending my friday writing the assignment, but because I couldn’t, I had to cancel plans that saturday to be a spotter and loaded at a PL meet at the last minute. (anyone who’s a PL knows how much of a huge pain in the ass it is to find spotters and loaders). So that was obnoxious as fuck.
Last week, for our second experiment, we had to administer surveys to the class, collect them, and then interpret the data and go on with the rest of the study. She took the surveys on friday of last week, saying that she’d quantify the surveys and post the stuff online for all of us to see by this past saturday evening.*** Not only did she not do that, she didn’t show up to class today. So now she’s preventing the rest of our group from getting our shit done AGAIN.
***At this point, clearly it was my mistake to allow her to take the results, but I wanted to give her a chance to redeem herself from her first fuck up of the semester. Fool me once, and all that…
It’s well beyond social loafing at this point and has entered the realm of her being flat out detrimental to our group.
Now, here’s where I’m torn.
A significant part of our final grade (for the course, not the assignments) is an evaluation of our performance from the other members of our group. Normally, I would give this bitch 0 out of the 20 possible points for my evaluation of her performance, but I’ve turned over a new leaf fairly recently. One of the ideas I try to live by is “when someone wrongs you, thank them, because they just gave you an opportunity to demonstrate patience and forgiveness.”
I can’t tell if she deserves the 0 points (that, if you were to objectively evaluate her work performance, she actually deserves) or if she deserves forgiveness (which I’d argue she actually deserves, as well.)
If I were to give her 0 points on her evaluation:
-I’d feel satisfied, given her unacceptable behavior.
-She might actually fail the course, as her other grades aren’t very good and the other two group members are probably going to rail on her in her evaluation, as well. (addendum to this point: if she does actually fail and has to take the class again, she’ll likely subject those group members to the same behavior, which I’d rather not happen.)
If I were to give her X/20 points on her evaluation:
-I’d feel satisfied, given the fact that I was able to see past her unacceptable behavior.
-I feel it’d be unfair to my other group members, who’ve been good all semester.
-I’ll have some good karma coming my way
I’m not entirely sure what I’m asking and I’m well aware that this is a minuscule problem in the grand scheme of life, but I guess I’m asking what would some of you do in a situation like this?[/quote]
I am in stark opposition to the prior advice you have received on this. Give that lazy bitch a big, fat 0, and write in the margin that you’re only giving her a zero because you could not give her negative points.
You’re not doing her any favors by gifting her something’s he didn’t earn and doesn’t deserve. That’s not how shit works in the real world, and you would be doing her a disservice to not teach her that lesson now rather than later when it may have more dire consequences. With her laziness she has ASKED that you give her a 0. If she didn’t want that grade she shouldn’t have failed the group at every juncture.
Do the right thing. Give her the gift of a lesson learned.
