[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
How many fights have you been in, csulli?
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Haha like one. Nobody ever seems to want to fight me :([/quote]
Your doing it wrong[/quote]
[quote]theBeth wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
How many fights have you been in, csulli?
[/quote]
Haha like one. Nobody ever seems to want to fight me :([/quote]
Your doing it wrong[/quote]
[/quote]
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
You’re joking right?
The guy took you shooting, he probably carries or has a weapon close to him at all times. He probably has a sense of confidence about him attached to his weapons, so don’t attempt to intimidate him, you may not get the reaction you want.
Big and strong doesn’t always mean good protector or good judgement or even good fighting.[/quote]
Well I did use a smiley face in the parenthetic statement. 
So I’d hoped that was taken as a light hearted joke.
Besides, I’ve never claimed to be very smart or stable.(but thats a topic for a whole other thread. quite the contrary more often than not:))
So, the grocery store!
I’m with Dr. P on this. That would be unexpected and pretty cool.
[/quote]
“Mister! Mister! HI. I see you like Pringles. Have you ever tried real potato chips? Because they taste a lot better.”
I think you’re all setting me up to take the fall. lol[/quote]
It really is that simple. Trust us, we’re men, we have to do cold approaches all the time if we want to meet women, we know how they work.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Not to sound defensive, but I must have SOME game, or the weirdos wouldn’t be so taken with me. I think I may have a talent for kissing.
[/quote]
Come on, attracting men who want an ersatz-mommy is like only attracting sluts for men.
There are no bragging rights there.
[/quote]
One more thing. Again, not to sound defensive (although obviously I am) but I don’t think I play a mommy role in relationships regardless of the maturity level of my men over time. That’s not my dynamic at all. I’m not domineering, and they’re not submissive.
The clingy thing was only one of the childish behaviors of the hunter guy, and it was a complete turn-off. But even so, I don’t think he’s looking for a mom, or would accept one. He’s very competent in terms of household things and work. House, cars, boats clean and well maintained, proficiency in cooking and quick cleanup, chivalrous. Just weird in addition to those things.
In my long term relationships my role would be more cheerleader/supporter and dreamer. [/quote]
Well, obviously, you are repelled by his behavior.
[quote]red04 wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
You’re joking right?
The guy took you shooting, he probably carries or has a weapon close to him at all times. He probably has a sense of confidence about him attached to his weapons, so don’t attempt to intimidate him, you may not get the reaction you want.
Big and strong doesn’t always mean good protector or good judgement or even good fighting.[/quote]
Well I did use a smiley face in the parenthetic statement. So I’d hoped that was taken as a light hearted joke.
Besides, I’ve never claimed to be very smart or stable.(but thats a topic for a whole other thread. quite the contrary more often than not:))
So, the grocery store!
I’m with Dr. P on this. That would be unexpected and pretty cool.
[/quote]
“Mister! Mister! HI. I see you like Pringles. Have you ever tried real potato chips? Because they taste a lot better.”
I think you’re all setting me up to take the fall. lol[/quote]
It really is that simple. Trust us, we’re men, we have to do cold approaches all the time if we want to meet women, we know how they work.[/quote]
“So you like Pringles you dirty rotten pervert. I hope you rot in hell”
Bitchslap, knee to the groin.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Not to sound defensive, but I must have SOME game, or the weirdos wouldn’t be so taken with me. I think I may have a talent for kissing.
[/quote]
Come on, attracting men who want an ersatz-mommy is like only attracting sluts for men.
There are no bragging rights there.
[/quote]
One more thing. Again, not to sound defensive (although obviously I am) but I don’t think I play a mommy role in relationships regardless of the maturity level of my men over time. That’s not my dynamic at all. I’m not domineering, and they’re not submissive.
The clingy thing was only one of the childish behaviors of the hunter guy, and it was a complete turn-off. But even so, I don’t think he’s looking for a mom, or would accept one. He’s very competent in terms of household things and work. House, cars, boats clean and well maintained, proficiency in cooking and quick cleanup, chivalrous. Just weird in addition to those things.
In my long term relationships my role would be more cheerleader/supporter and dreamer. [/quote]
Well, obviously, you are repelled by his behavior. [/quote]
Well, creepy is repellant to most people. The childish stuff - “lacking insight” may be a better way to put it, because my sense is that he would have been happiest coddling/spoiling/worrying over me. The problem is that he was projecting some sort of fantasy onto me and then falling in love with it. It wasn’t remotely real.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Not to sound defensive, but I must have SOME game, or the weirdos wouldn’t be so taken with me. I think I may have a talent for kissing.
[/quote]
Come on, attracting men who want an ersatz-mommy is like only attracting sluts for men.
There are no bragging rights there.
[/quote]
One more thing. Again, not to sound defensive (although obviously I am) but I don’t think I play a mommy role in relationships regardless of the maturity level of my men over time. That’s not my dynamic at all. I’m not domineering, and they’re not submissive.
The clingy thing was only one of the childish behaviors of the hunter guy, and it was a complete turn-off. But even so, I don’t think he’s looking for a mom, or would accept one. He’s very competent in terms of household things and work. House, cars, boats clean and well maintained, proficiency in cooking and quick cleanup, chivalrous. Just weird in addition to those things.
In my long term relationships my role would be more cheerleader/supporter and dreamer. [/quote]
Well, obviously, you are repelled by his behavior. [/quote]
Well, creepy is repellant to most people. The childish stuff - “lacking insight” may be a better way to put it, because my sense is that he would have been happiest coddling/spoiling/worrying over me. The problem is that he was projecting some sort of fantasy onto me and then falling in love with it. It wasn’t remotely real.
[/quote]
Yeah, I know.
He iz da victim of da female imperative!
Meaning, a gynolatric society has pussified him beyond repair.
Behold, a mangina.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, um, the hunter guy texted tonight asking how I’m doing. I should just ignore it, right? There’s no need to reiterate “no thank you”?
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You joking?[/quote]
No! I have no way of knowing, of course, but I get the distinct sense that he feels that he’s given me time to cool off, and has cooled off himself, because he was pretty upset when I said enough the second time. I think I was extremely unequivocal:
[quote]Jason,
I want you to stop contacting me. I ended things because it all seemed way too intense on your part for people who barely know each other, and now your anger and suggestions that I’m somehow cheating on you are freaking me out.
I’ve begun worrying that I may have a situation, in that you are way over the top. I would like some reassurance that you’re in control of yourself and I don’t have to worry about that. We saw each other for two weeks. This is not the breakup of a relationship.
I barely know you and you have accused me of using you and cheating on you. This has nothing to do with other men, there aren’t any, it has to do with that I don’t feel safe any longer and just want it to stop.
Emily[/quote]
I mean, that’s a pretty clear “no,” no?
I thought we might be done when he shot off that I obviously don’t want someone who’ll treat me well (nice guy fucked over again!).
But last night he texts “mmm, shrimp are good, how are you doing?” The shrimp refer back to conversations we’d had previously, in response to which he bought some frozen shrimp.
It certainly seems like it SHOULD be a joke. And yet.
I honestly find it more than a little worrying.
Edit: it has just occurred to me that “you joking?” could be about my question rather than his bizarre tenacity. In which case I guess . . . no. :/[/quote]
Em, yeah, I was referring to your question, but now I’m more concerned about this guy’s mental health.
I guess it’s possible that Skyz has hit on something re:interpretation, but your note seemed pretty clear to me.
As your older brother, allow me to suggest that you proceed with caution henceforth. [/quote]
If by “caution” you mean “paranoia” I am doing so. Beyond that I’m not sure how to achieve being careful.
I agree about my note. I would think that any rational man reading it would feel slightly threatened by ME, because it uses such escalated language. When my ex-boyfriend was in town last he emailed to say “I’ll be in [town] on Friday. Just letting you know in case you want to leave the state.” This is in response to an earlier trip and my “Maybe you have no desire to anyway, but just in case let me be clear that I do not wish to see you.”
Of course, that was because I didn’t want to fall sobbing into his arms, not because I was afraid, but he certainly heard it and reacted by offering what I think is standard male acknowledgement that a female has expressed some degree of worry. There was sarcasm, but also respect for my need for clear boundaries.
I am attempting to find a larger guy forthwith in order to, as Skyz suggests, send him over for a talk with the hunter, but my identified target wouldn’t cooperate.
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I guess if he contacts you again, I’d advocate a text that says “Leave me alone,” and nothing else.
After that, I’d ignore him until he stops or escalates. If the latter, I’d get the police involved.
[/quote]
That about sums up my plan. Do nothing unless I have to, a restraining order if necessary. Hopefully it’s a non-issue. Very few people as nutty as I’m worrying he might be can hold a job long term, which he has.
Hopefully he’ll move on to someone else, who is more open to what he offers. I know they’re out there; I’ve worked with their kids.
He should have caressed your trembling bussombz with his bloody hands.
He should have cut your bra open with his hunting knife.
He should have taken you on a rug in front of a fire he himself built.
Alas, he was born in unfortunate times and is afraid to be a man.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Not to sound defensive, but I must have SOME game, or the weirdos wouldn’t be so taken with me. I think I may have a talent for kissing.
[/quote]
Come on, attracting men who want an ersatz-mommy is like only attracting sluts for men.
There are no bragging rights there.
[/quote]
One more thing. Again, not to sound defensive (although obviously I am) but I don’t think I play a mommy role in relationships regardless of the maturity level of my men over time. That’s not my dynamic at all. I’m not domineering, and they’re not submissive.
The clingy thing was only one of the childish behaviors of the hunter guy, and it was a complete turn-off. But even so, I don’t think he’s looking for a mom, or would accept one. He’s very competent in terms of household things and work. House, cars, boats clean and well maintained, proficiency in cooking and quick cleanup, chivalrous. Just weird in addition to those things.
In my long term relationships my role would be more cheerleader/supporter and dreamer. [/quote]
Well, obviously, you are repelled by his behavior. [/quote]
Well, creepy is repellant to most people. The childish stuff - “lacking insight” may be a better way to put it, because my sense is that he would have been happiest coddling/spoiling/worrying over me. The problem is that he was projecting some sort of fantasy onto me and then falling in love with it. It wasn’t remotely real.
[/quote]
Yeah, I know.
He iz da victim of da female imperative!
Meaning, a gynolatric society has pussified him beyond repair.
Behold, a mangina.[/quote]
He’s not a mangina, he’s a weirdo! The females didn’t do this to him, he’s done it to himself.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Not to sound defensive, but I must have SOME game, or the weirdos wouldn’t be so taken with me. I think I may have a talent for kissing.
[/quote]
Come on, attracting men who want an ersatz-mommy is like only attracting sluts for men.
There are no bragging rights there.
[/quote]
One more thing. Again, not to sound defensive (although obviously I am) but I don’t think I play a mommy role in relationships regardless of the maturity level of my men over time. That’s not my dynamic at all. I’m not domineering, and they’re not submissive.
The clingy thing was only one of the childish behaviors of the hunter guy, and it was a complete turn-off. But even so, I don’t think he’s looking for a mom, or would accept one. He’s very competent in terms of household things and work. House, cars, boats clean and well maintained, proficiency in cooking and quick cleanup, chivalrous. Just weird in addition to those things.
In my long term relationships my role would be more cheerleader/supporter and dreamer. [/quote]
Well, obviously, you are repelled by his behavior. [/quote]
Well, creepy is repellant to most people. The childish stuff - “lacking insight” may be a better way to put it, because my sense is that he would have been happiest coddling/spoiling/worrying over me. The problem is that he was projecting some sort of fantasy onto me and then falling in love with it. It wasn’t remotely real.
[/quote]
Yeah, I know.
He iz da victim of da female imperative!
Meaning, a gynolatric society has pussified him beyond repair.
Behold, a mangina.[/quote]
He’s not a mangina, he’s a weirdo! The females didn’t do this to him, he’s done it to himself.
[/quote]
No, da femalez did it.
Poizoning da air with their jabbering.
He just gave in to da jabbering…
Never knew it could be different…
Poor mangina…
[quote]orion wrote:
He should have caressed your trembling bussombz with his bloody hands.
He should have cut your bra open with his hunting knife.
He should have taken you on a rug in front of a fire he himself built.
Alas, he was born in unfortunate times and is afraid to be a man. [/quote]
But enough about YOUR weirdo fantasies!
FYI, no woman wants blood on her $58 minimizing bra, much less having it cut.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
He should have caressed your trembling bussombz with his bloody hands.
He should have cut your bra open with his hunting knife.
He should have taken you on a rug in front of a fire he himself built.
Alas, he was born in unfortunate times and is afraid to be a man. [/quote]
But enough about YOUR weirdo fantasies!
FYI, no woman wants blood on her $58 minimizing bra, much less having it cut.[/quote]
You would be as wet as October.
And blow up HIS phone.
Come on Emily, lie to me.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]red04 wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
You’re joking right?
The guy took you shooting, he probably carries or has a weapon close to him at all times. He probably has a sense of confidence about him attached to his weapons, so don’t attempt to intimidate him, you may not get the reaction you want.
Big and strong doesn’t always mean good protector or good judgement or even good fighting.[/quote]
Well I did use a smiley face in the parenthetic statement. So I’d hoped that was taken as a light hearted joke.
Besides, I’ve never claimed to be very smart or stable.(but thats a topic for a whole other thread. quite the contrary more often than not:))
So, the grocery store!
I’m with Dr. P on this. That would be unexpected and pretty cool.
[/quote]
“Mister! Mister! HI. I see you like Pringles. Have you ever tried real potato chips? Because they taste a lot better.”
I think you’re all setting me up to take the fall. lol[/quote]
It really is that simple. Trust us, we’re men, we have to do cold approaches all the time if we want to meet women, we know how they work.[/quote]
“So you like Pringles you dirty rotten pervert. I hope you rot in hell”
Bitchslap, knee to the groin.[/quote]
She touched me, it’s love!
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
minimizing bra[/quote]
Wait wut?
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
He should have caressed your trembling bussombz with his bloody hands.
He should have cut your bra open with his hunting knife.
He should have taken you on a rug in front of a fire he himself built.
Alas, he was born in unfortunate times and is afraid to be a man. [/quote]
But enough about YOUR weirdo fantasies!
FYI, no woman wants blood on her $58 minimizing bra, much less having it cut.[/quote]
You would be as wet as October.
And blow up HIS phone.
Come on Emily, lie to me. [/quote]
Oh, okay.
Yes. I would text at 5:28 am, then at 5:32 and 5:50 am, then at 6:15 am I’d call and say good morning! Couple more texts while getting ready for work and then when I figured he was in the car heading into work at 7:30 or so, call and wish him a nice day.
[quote]red04 wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]red04 wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
You’re joking right?
The guy took you shooting, he probably carries or has a weapon close to him at all times. He probably has a sense of confidence about him attached to his weapons, so don’t attempt to intimidate him, you may not get the reaction you want.
Big and strong doesn’t always mean good protector or good judgement or even good fighting.[/quote]
Well I did use a smiley face in the parenthetic statement. So I’d hoped that was taken as a light hearted joke.
Besides, I’ve never claimed to be very smart or stable.(but thats a topic for a whole other thread. quite the contrary more often than not:))
So, the grocery store!
I’m with Dr. P on this. That would be unexpected and pretty cool.
[/quote]
“Mister! Mister! HI. I see you like Pringles. Have you ever tried real potato chips? Because they taste a lot better.”
I think you’re all setting me up to take the fall. lol[/quote]
It really is that simple. Trust us, we’re men, we have to do cold approaches all the time if we want to meet women, we know how they work.[/quote]
“So you like Pringles you dirty rotten pervert. I hope you rot in hell”
Bitchslap, knee to the groin.[/quote]
She touched me, it’s love![/quote]
It’s chick talk for “pleeeeease, can we have sex??”
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
minimizing bra[/quote]
Wait wut?[/quote]
Err . . . yeah.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
He should have caressed your trembling bussombz with his bloody hands.
He should have cut your bra open with his hunting knife.
He should have taken you on a rug in front of a fire he himself built.
Alas, he was born in unfortunate times and is afraid to be a man. [/quote]
But enough about YOUR weirdo fantasies!
FYI, no woman wants blood on her $58 minimizing bra, much less having it cut.[/quote]
You would be as wet as October.
And blow up HIS phone.
Come on Emily, lie to me. [/quote]
Oh, okay.
Yes. I would text at 5:28 am, then at 5:32 and 5:50 am, then at 6:15 am I’d call and say good morning! Couple more texts while getting ready for work and then when I figured he was in the car heading into work at 7:30 or so, call and wish him a nice day.
:)[/quote]
Probably not.
But, the scenario I described above, you would have loved every second of it.
Plus, I would have gotten you a new bra.
Dark red satin, certainly not minimizing and with panties to match.
But then, I am thoroughly unmanginaed so a “minimizing bra” would be ripped to shreds by my steely eyed gaze alone…