[quote]heavythrower wrote:
almost daily i receive comments on how much better i look, for the first time in my lift i am not the big strong fat guy, but strangers are coming up to me and complimenting me on my arms, my physique in general.
i let this get to me, and it feels good, i try to take it to the next level, and i stall at 220’s. i linger at the 220s for so long i get desperate and basically starve myself to get down to sub 210, which is good, but i feel depleted, flat, and like an squeezed out sponge.
then an offhand comment on one of Z’s threads makes me say: fuck, i will take the personal coaching if this kid does not want it" half serious, half joking, and guess what, Z offered his help! and better yet Strong offers to help with the programing, !!! win win.
well, almost am onth into this, i have gained back up to 220 following a healthy diet, (not the starvation i was doing) and then now, of minutes ago, sitting at 205.4lbs.
though i am getting some random positive comments, seems that my main coach keeps telling me how i am still a fat fuck and need to do better. again, i am little drunk and tired right now, 70 hour work weeks will do that to you, but come on. i kmow i still need a lot of work to be contest shredded, but who says that is the end all be all of success?
i have done a lot so far, and am a little tired of only hearing about what i have not done so far.
if that disqualifies me from my status and the latest fat -guy charity case, then so be it.
my friends and more importantly my wife, who is the only person who really matters, as she is the only one who is gonna be seiing my abds in an up and personal way, likes the improvements i have made so far.
what am i bitching about> ??? not sure, like i said, i had a couple of shots of strong Bourbon, but i am tired of negativity. i have accomplished quite a bit, and i am having lots of issues at work right now and not to get too personal, i am done with any excess negativity in my life right now.
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Dave Tate’s advice on goal setting is really something everyone should take to heart and i think you would be wise in applying it in your situation HT.
I also suggest when setting goals is to keep your goal specific to yourself and a select few, and general to all others. In other words, if your goal is to bench 400 pounds, keep that as a marker in your mind, but if others ask just tell them, I’m training for a bigger bench, or I’m working toward a new PR. Your goal may be to get your bodyfat down to 6%, but all the masses need to know is, I’m dieting right now.
The reason for this is simple: 90% of everyone you meet are negative pricks who will go out of their way to tell you why you can’t do something. Once they know your goal, they’ll try and tear you down. Just keep it vague, and all they can do is wish you success.
Of course, they may still try and tear you down once you’ve actually accomplished your goal, but who cares. You’ve done the work and have the results to show for it. They couldn’t have done it. So f*ck em.
I do feel it’s important to still put the goal out there to make you accountable, but I’d only tell those who know you can do it and will hold you accountable. Take a good look at the people around you, and consider yourself lucky if you know even a small handful of people like this. But all you really need is one: you
Keep at it man.
