Just going off topic for a minute: what would be your reasons for doing this? I genuinely can’t imagine myself having that conversation.
My dad died 20 years earlier than he should have because he was overweight. I wouldn’t tell my SO she was fat ever, but if she got overweight to the point that it was dangerous for her health, I’d have something to say about it. We have kids. Choosing to live on the edge of death and deprive your children of a parent and your SO of a life partner if you have the ability to exercise and diet is no different than smoking til your lungs turn black. My wife is fit and we go to the gym every day, so perhaps I’m talking big but would balk in that situation, but I feel strongly about being at least fit enough to live to your life expectancy.
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Same reason you’d ask someone to come to your ukelele class, you want to share an experience.
Unfortunately, most people join gyms to become less fat and they tend not to like gyms. That makes jumping to conclusions a pretty natural thing to do - especially if your SO has gained fat since meeting you (as people tend to do when they get older).
PS. I’m not part of a ukelele club… heh he… hehhh
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Ive always been one to stand on the side of being reasonable when it comes to that. Menstruation can be very difficult for some, but I do believe there’s a threshold. By that, I mean women in general at some point in time, need to be able to own up to irrational behavior, instead of hiding behind PMS.
Yes there may be a bit of irritation, or feeling fatigued, or being snappy here and there, but again, still no excuse.
As far as the work setting goes, I see no problem calling off, if some cycles are more debilitating than others, but if you’re able to show up for work, or a Tylenol knocks the issue down in 30 mins or so, it is the responsibility of the individual to carry themselves throughout the day in a regular manner.
I just find that women who use their periods as an excuse to act out, do so regardless of if they’re cycles have arrived or not.
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Thanks for your thoughts and sorry for your loss. Not a situation I’m anticipating anytime soon, my missus seems to have hit the genetics jackpot, however a look at her mother makes me think it might be needed down the road. Hopefully I can show the way before any difficult conversations become needed.
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Fun fact, lad I just hired is president of a ukulele club, make of that what you will.
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Well, the gym isn’t for everyone. So I’m not talking about being like “hey fatass you need to eat boiled chicken and brown rice and pump iron”, I just mean, getting an exercise regimen of some sort - walking, yoga, etc. and identifying what foods are causing issues. If you love the person, you’d try to stop them killing themselves, right? You just have to find a way to do it respectfully.
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Every relationship starts off happily married in the minds of both partners. A good marriage lasts a lifetime.
Commonly stated statistic is 80% of divorces are initiated by the wife. Not really an obvious downside for the wife. Women get at least 50% of the assets, often more if alimony/child support is involved, and usually get primary custody.
So It looks like there are plenty of guys that are happily married until the wife says she wants a separation. I know quite a few guys in that situation, none of them ever beat their wife, psychologically abused them, or cheated on them. They weren’t perfect, but then neither is anyone else, including their wives.
Around 50% of marriages ends in divorce.
Good luck to all the guys that are in happy relationships, I know quite a few of these guys as well. I really think these relationships work despite any special thing that the either party is consciously doing. Success is based upon relatively sane personalities, shared values, goals, and expectations. That being said both sides have to be prepared to compromise, and both sides make an effort to keep the relationship positive.
I think many women from Gen X onwards have been told they can have it all, expect the best or accept nothing. Their expectations are grossly unrealistic, and because they are unhappy about themselves, and refuse to take ownership, instead blame their husband. Its their easy option.
Everyone gives Greenboy a hard time, but realistically with cold hard facts, no emotion involved, no sane man would enter into a marriage in the western world, unless their fiancée met all the criteria for success that I mentioned earlier.
When it comes to young adult men(some older ones too), they don’t make decisions with their head. This can lead to handicapping their odds for a successful relationship let alone a successful marriage.
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Absolutely. Appreciate your thoughts.
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And here we go. Now we getting personal again. I love being told I’m wrong by titty swinging fat bellied powerlifters lol.
Also amazing how the point I was making about how men won’t look down at a jobless woman, or a woman making less compared to how women will look at a man in such a situation. It’s about the fucking hypocrisy you dumb fucks.
Sigh, always it’s always pointless.
True, but what difference is that then guys dealing with it? I find that women deal with it far worse than men do.
You don’t go home to a guy that wants to leave dick trails all over your accomplishments and wrangle for power, status, etc, do you?
No. You go home and want some kindness and support for enduring hardship.
Now back to equality: Don’t you think she wants the same?
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Who is this referring to, haha
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has literally nothing to do with topic of thread
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who does that even describe in this thread anyway?
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Imma guess you never got around to posting that pic showing your @flipcollar-like physique
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there’s an incredible irony in the guy who’s been banned and had multiple posts removed for being a dick whining that OTHER people are too quick to make things “personal”
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there’s also an incredible irony in the whiniest, bitchiest member of the forum being the one who complains that WOMEN are emotionally and mentally defective.
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He did, did you not see it? After calling @emilyq a dumb bitch and saying he was scared to have his identity revealed, he sent a picture to her personal email (unannounced and unsolicited) completely randomly (to the person who hates him most on the forum, weird when you’d want to preserve your anonymity), and she showed it in the t-ransformation thread. It was the most blatant stock photo I’ve ever seen. A neck-down shot of someone in a hoodie and shorts, with the focal point being the shoes. Couldn’t tell anything about it, but definitely not him. It was awesome.
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Unless we were wealthy by a single income, there is no way it would be acceptable for my lady or myself to be a stay-at-home parent past the age of 3.
Where I grew up, and where I now live, the vast majority of wives are working and equal income earners. IME only trashy women look at men as sources of money, and only trashy men go for those women. It might be time to move if that is the predominant behavior and sociapothy you see around you.
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Did you check his references?
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Apparently me, even though I’m a 90kg competitor 
How he would react to guys lifting more weight than him:
https://www.instagram.com/p/B6M5M-1Fv83/
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Ive never understood this. It’s OUR money, why wouldn’t I want there to be more of it? I make a decent salary, but it’s still government pay. My wife? Two promotions away from well over double my pay, and working hard to get there. I would be freaking elated if she did! We would be able to put so much into investments, travel more than we do, would ease the transition for me from military to civilian whenever that comes. We both work, we both are objectively good at what we do, and if she gets paid more, then it’s just a win win for both of us.
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Quality post. Thank you sir.
Sorry, I’ve decided to drink some wine tonight. What’s your point here? Are you assuming that they get home and I’m ripping them apart?
Like Beyond was saying this gen of women have been brought up entirely different from the past, and yet they still hold mostly traditional values when it comes to how men treat them.
For example - flap, do you think it’s ok for your wife to tell you that you need a better job? Because I’ve seen women do this A LOT and dues on this forum seem to defend that rational as “dude stop being a loser” but god forbid you tell a woman she needs to hit the damn gym because she’s starting to look unattractive. That’s the hypocrisy I talk about, and what I see on a daily basis.
We are being manipulated to accept women for the way they are, while we must do all we can to be our best, to beat the guy next to us, and be the fucking champions of the universe for our significant other/potential mates.
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