Did lifting and finally getting big turn you into a cocky asshole or did it just help you?
I’m particularly talking about if you were maybe really skinny or really fat and then picked on a lot of whatever and all of a sudden the tables turn and YOU have the upper hand. Kinda like do you use your power for good or evil type of deal.
Honestly, I can’t help but think I’d become a total asshole. Imagine you get like…minimal attention your entire life from women and then suddenly you go to the gym, get really good results and then you start seeing them knocking. Like. That would fucking piss me off more then anything because you just KNOW they don’t like you for YOU at that point. So how do you even handle that?
Yeah but then the “jig is up”. The mystery is over and the truth is revealed. You know it’s all bullshit. They don’t like you for WHO you are but WHAT you are and WHAT you look like. And you know damn well if you ever got sick and lost all that progress you’d be invisible again.
This leads me to the time-worn questions I usually ask to men who are jammed up with talking about women and with “what women want”. Do you want a woman? If so, for what?
I mean that’s the thing. It shows you that we are basically all Murder Apes and that free-will doesn’t exist. It’s pretty fucking scary when I think about it.
You totally dodged my point though. When you look a certain way they will often not care about your bad qualities. Kind of like it’s harassment only when your not attractive.
It doesn’t matter what you want her for if they don’t really care about YOU and just care about your appearance to begin with. Do you follow?
Alright, so if I told you “I want someone who cares about me and will love me for WHO I am, even if I’m obese, skinny, or whatever” what would you say? That’s what I want a woman for.
One man’s confidence can be perceived as cocky or arrogant by another man quite easily. Lifting definitely made me more confident.
Why would this bother you at all?
Are you interested in women who don’t take care of themselves and have nothing to offer besides “who they are”, whatever that is supposed to mean?
I briefly dated a gal because of “who she was”, personality-wise. The problem was that she had little to offer besides a great, funny personality and really spectacular oral sex. She didn’t help my day-to-day life at all and created quite a few chores for me. Not a good cook, no interest in kids, no interest in physical activity outside of sex, no interest in contributing financially, no interest in growing as a couple. She wanted a stable man who could support her financially and fulfill her really weird sex demands in exchange for her great jokes and great head.
That’s why we call should call people who don’t make good long-term partners “friends”, and don’t let them move in with you just because they are funny and really good in bed. That’s why she and I are still friends now, because she’s a lot of fun to hang around.
Not fun to live with at all, not if you’re interested in getting ahead more than head.
When I worked bar security I’d get women who grope the way women do, which usually means a cock grab, an ass grab or just rubbing their hands all over you during a “hug”.
I had way more dudes give me the old bicep squeeze or trapezius grab. A lot of dudes want to size you up with their hands. Motivations probably vary quite a bit. Lifting definitely attracts more attention from dudes than it does females, taken as a whole.
“Who you are” is a totality of your thoughts, actions, quirks, genetics, etc. I believe you have a bad premise if you think “who you are” is limited to their personality, thoughts, desires, and ambitions. You can check all of those boxes in positive ways and still be someone nobody wants to date, and for good reason.