Do you guys procrastinate on anything pleasurable or is it just distracting yourself from what you perceive as shit tasks / chores?
I’ll put it this way…
If I won the lotto, and I had the ticket sitting in my closet, I’d probably wait a few days to claim it, and then another few days to go drive to the office and get my money.
You are a crazy dude my pedigree chum. I’d have half of it spent on drugs and women at that stage, probably waste the rest.
(Just a joke, I wouldn’t…maybe)
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And that’s how it gets ya!
Now there’s a thing. You know you have to do it, but… But… But…
If I don’t do things with an almost impulsive immediacy they haunt me until I do.
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yeah, I’m really thinking about doing the 5am wake up thing.
I have a 1272 page book to get through for my next accreditation exam. I passed the first one I was going crazy over in November. Now on to the harder one. 1272pg 8 chapters, I’m at chapter 3 with a little under 2 months to go…
I know I should do a little every day, and yet I don’t lol
it’s like college all over again
bad habits are tough to break and most likely you don’t have an actionable plan that you can execute…now I don’t know this, but what you said is what most people say when they don’t have a clear plan to accomplish the task you have ahead of you (a large one that you’ll have to break up into chunks/sessions).
Do you have a plan in place?
I would argue that my procrastination is fueled by uncertainty. I dont mind committing to things I dont want to do. However I absolutely hate doing things I’m not at all familiar with.
I’ve actually been meaning to refinance my truck through my bank instead of this 3rd party bullshit, but I’ve put it off for weeks because I know I’ll have to go multiple times before I figure it out.
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I think about this from time to time … then I think of all the other shit I want to get done but “can’t” because I procrastinate…on the bright side, I’ve stuck to learning/playing piano for about 2 years now … now to start woodworking again…
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I’m signed up to John Gottman’s “Marriage Minute” emails because they give little tidbits I can often use at work. I thought today’s was nice, so figured I’d share it. The Gottmans, who are a couples counseling industry, focus a lot on increasing positives in marriage rather than on solving negatives. Here’s an example:
In a Facebook post making the rounds, Benjamin Holmgren shares the following wisdom:
…your attitude sets the tone for the rest of the evening within 15 seconds of walking in the door.
So really, it’s not tiny at all. It’s a huge deal.
Because you come home every day. And the things you do every day grind on you.
Jordan Peterson says if you can fix 25 little things like “coming home,” you will have an extraordinary life.
Taking your family to Disneyland is insignificant.
Your kid’s expensive birthday party will be forgotten within weeks.
Coming home?
That’s your whole life. Fix it.
Start today.
It’s the small things done often that make the biggest difference over time.
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So, an update on my happy marriage/relationship.
The Wifey started going to the gym with me again.
yay~
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That’s a good post. Although I don’t like all of Jordan Peterson’s input I believe he is spot on with information he provides about men, women, marriages, and relationships. Some of what he says appeared to be radical on this site. At least that’s what I think considering he was brought up by me and I linked some of his videos along with Tucker Carlson’s and Andrew Yang’s concerning the topics.
There is an enormous blog article that I came across today that touches upon all that I observe and think on the topics. The author is far better written and knowledgeable than I am. I wanted to show it to you. Perhaps others might like it but I will not accept smears or have insults or even lies come my way.
Edit: every author I have read on the topic who I like is anti-misogyny.
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I’ve never heard of him before and didn’t look into his views on other things. I’d be happy to read whatever you want to post.
Just remember that disagreement with a author or an idea is not an attack on you!
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OK, thanks.
Exactly. I wasn’t referring to you. I am simply requesting or expecting that people read what I share or ignore it, and maybe offer thoughts on it. What I will not accept are lies, drive-by zingers, insults, and condescending sarcasm for no reason, or what might appear libelous to me. I post on this forum for some recreation. I don’t need it to be stressful because of that.
Article of possible interest: https://www.singularity2050.com/2010/01/the-misandry-bubble.html
really man? in this place? where everyone is so open to discussion and civil with opinions they don’t agree with 
lol
come on brick. you know better.
(Caveat: this topic is not at the top of the list for me, but this thread -man o’ man…)
So I clicked on your link out of curiosity, and thankfully there is an executive summary and a basic premise.
My .02: I agree with the basic premise, for sure. As far as the summary, I think “a rapid civilizational decline and displacement” is possibly over-stating the importance of the male/female relationship, but in general I agree with this (the specificity of it being applied to men/women notwithstanding) “where the state forcibly transfers resources from men to women creating various perverse incentives for otherwise good women to make extremely unwise life choices, destructive to both themselves and others”.
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Thanks for the feedback.
I understand. It seems rapid and significant to me though. Do you live In the US? If so what area if you don’t mind me asking. I think location Is a huge factor for what people see generally in regards to some of these issues.
I think you will like the article.
NYC area about 30 yrs. Bay Area about a dozen. Reno about 5.
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I lived nearly my whole life in Queens. Now I’m in Suffolk, Long Island. Are you from Manhattan?