dude i know where your at heads fucking spinning,just remember when you first met your wife,it’s the same feeling you have for this girl, well let me tell you just as things got
rotine with your wife the same shit will happen,women are all basicly the same dont fuck shit up with your wife and kids spice shit up with your wife buy her a dildo shove it up her ass while your fucking her shit like that will keep you and your wife together.
There is too much to write about on this subject. Here is a good link for anyone interested:
http://www.cat-and-dragon.com/stef/Poly/Labriola/jealousy.html
Note to self—take Mike’s advice. If things go wrong with my girlfriend in the future, buy her a dildo and shove it up her ass while fucking. Hopefully, any problems we may be experiencing will quickly disappear
Stuck, how does it feel to know your going straight to hell?
LISTEN UP!!! STUCK, if your frickin’ marriage is over than end it. I would advice some counseling to see if the problems you are having are fixable, but if it is dead - then it is dead. How many kids do you have? The thing is they should be on your priority list right now. If the marriage is not going to work, end it for the kids. Yeah a new concept! Staying at a marriage that is a constant fight is more harmful to kids than a divorce. Or worse yet - she gets pregnant again! Statistic show, and I am not foolin’ here, statistics show that the “bad group of kids” come from parents that do not get along, not just divorced parents. If you need to get a divorce to get along with your kids mother - then frickin’ do it! Not because of this current chick - but because your marriage was a brain fart.
As far as telling what you did - forget it. Unless you want to lose money and custody off the bat! Divorce is easiest when the two can do it reasonably and uncontested. And it would be to damaging to the relationship you must maintain for the rest of your life with your kids AND your “EX” wife. Besides, the cheating is just an effect of the poor marriage. Not necessarily the cause. Who knows - she could be doing the samething, and that is why she is not questioning why you stopped buggin’ her in the middle of the night for a quicky!
Hey guy. I am not going to judge ya, or get all irate. I am divorced as well. The true love of my life: my little girl. I cared about her too much for her to watch her mother and I constantly bash on each other. Divorce is not the end of the world. But it is admitting that ya made the wrong choice. Bottom line, if is not going to work, it probably never will.
Wow, I can’t believe my one post would drag on for so long. More notes for you guys: I am totally in love with my kids. I love them more than anything in the world. Sometimes I think that is the only reason why the wife and I are still together. If anything does happen between my wife and I there is no way I would abandon them. We had our first child before we got married and were really on and off for a while, but I always made sure our child was taken care of and spent time with him as much as I could. I do know that the feelings I had for this other woman are the same as when I first got together with any other woman in my life. And I took all of that into account. Looking back, I don’t think I was going to leave my wife for this other woman, I just think she opened my eyes up to how much fun I could still have. I am still a young man. That doesn’t mean I would avoid my responsibilites. Why did my wife not wonder why I didn’t bug her for a quickie? Well, I normally didn’t anyway. Things have become somewhat routine between the two of us, but I think we are also growing apart somewhat. I am not a liberal. I was raised by parents who were both church going people. And I know what I did was wrong. Marriage is a sacred thing, and I know I violated that. If I go to hell because of that then I know it is my fault. I did not mean to portray myself as someone who didn’t understand the consequences of my actions. I know full well what I did and what may follow. I got married young before I had really experienced life and now I am having problems dealing with it. I have talked to a few close friends and one of my brothers about what is going on. They all seem to have different takes on the situation. But as I said before, as of now there is no more between myself and the other woman. We are still friends, in fact I have spoken with her recently. It is very easy for me to talk to her. Sometimes men need a female friend to talk to, and what has happened between the two of us doesn’t affect me being able to talk to her. We don’t see each other as often as before, which is a good thing. Yes, I was and still am confused as to what to do here at home. I want to try to rekindle things between my wife and I but I know it’s gonna take a lot of time and effort. And, thanks for the suggestion, but I don’t have any immediate plans to buy a dildo to shove up her ass while we are having sex. If anyone else has any questions or comments I will respond. If not, then this matter is closed.
stuck - if you really want to try to rekindle things with your wife, perhaps try a weekend alone with her? send the kids off to grannie’s and go away for three days. get waited on hand and foot, and work on remembering why you marrie dher in the first place. you may not be able to do this at home because of the distractions of your ‘normal life’. let her know you feel you have been growing apart and that you are concerned that thigs are getting ‘routine’. don’t tell her about your affair, but let her know that you want to work together to make things more like they were in teh begining. i’m sure she has noticed the distance between the two, and you will make great strides by making the first step in the right direction.
Damn I miss this board!!! Brock - you have my deepest respect. Congrats on your marriage and good luck. I’ll be hitting my 5th anniversary this month and your post almost made me cry (hey I’m a woman, I can do that). Don’t worry about the sex not being as hot as when you dated, it will soon superceed it. I think the best sex comes out of a marriage because of all the trust and freedom you have together - it’s a safe place where you can try anything your partner wants without fear of rejection. The best sex I have ever had has been recently and I don’t expect it to stop getting better. Wild sex is definitely not just for one night stands. This world has been fed lies - married sex rules!
Apparently Jesus Christ hangs out on the Testosterone Forum under the name Big Chief. Appropriate name I suppose.
Stuck… you have to decide what you really want, it’s only right to let your wife get on with her life if you’re not completely committed to being married to her. It is entirely selfish to flip flop… decide! then act! You know that your relationship is faultering. Get off your fucking ass and do something! Yes you made a promise, sometimes promises do have to be broken, people shouldn’t stay together just because they made it infront of a priest… life is too short not to strive for happiness, and it is truely what you make of it.
I’ve been married now for 20 years, we married young and have been through alot in that time, as does everyone. People change, the key is accepting that growth giving the room to grow, and growing too (and I don’t mean waist size). The only way that it can work is by communication.
And, Ironbabe! Sex after five years is only teasing compared to sex after 20 yrs of intimacy.