since my previous date post (the one about me making dinner for that older girl), ive had a bunch of shitty dates. anyway, there is this girl at my gym (yummy fitness broad and my age which is 20 by the way) who apparantely likes me. well im gonna ask her out (already got the #), and i know the restaurant where im going to take her (since we both are on similar diets), but what should i do after/before dinner. im thinking about taking her to either our large aquarium, or the natural history museum, just to show her im more than a musclehead. so if you guys have some ideas, fire away, and hopefully i will get in her pants in the first 3 dates. (hehe always a good goal, only sometimes achieved!!)
Please, don’t ask her out on a ‘date’. I mean traditional type of date with a dinner and whatever. Do that only after you two had sex. Take her somewhere fun and exciting, forget about museums, something where you two can have fun and some adrenalin rush. After that, you can go to a club, have a couple of drinks (let her buy her own drinks) dance have more of good time. Then take her home and fuck her brains out. Thats what works for me.
I love both aquariums and museums! Especially natural history museums. But my money is on the aquarium. BTW: what aquarium do you live by? Aquarium and then a seafood dinner. Nice.
There have been a couple of really good “date threads” in the past here. (Brock in particular had some nice ideas…) Try a search and see what you come up with.
Well bro, I think you should take her out on a nice date to the place where we went that one time with the abercrombie broads. Then Chaffeur her on over to a nice cheesy ass hotel that charges by the hour and screw the shit out of her. Once you are done drop her off at home giv eher a nic ebig smootch and go out and chase some more tail around the streets of Denver, maybe pick up a nice prositute or 2 for yourself. Remember take lots of pictures with you banging her and the hookers! HAHA
go to a go kart place, faving fun always relaxes chicks, plus go karts kick ass
nick–good idea, but we are both under 21. and yeah ultimately i would like to say the hell with the date, take her bungee jumping and then rail her behind a shed, but i think im going to listen to patricia on this one (just because she doesnt have a penis to listen too). hell maybe i can give the sharks or dinasour bones some entertainment. BTW, patricia, i live by Ocean Journey in denver.
oh yeah just a thought. she is a hot, fitness/sorority chick, so im guessing most guys are trying to bang her when they meet. i just have this hunch that if i do something “romantic” and it seems like i dont want to get in her pants, then i will. (gotta remember, she is just a year removed from high school, so she’ll still get all wet for the cheesy stuff.)
I didn’t realise you were under 21, anyway there must be clubs for 18 and up where you can dance and have alot of body contact. Don’t be shy with her, let her know right away idirectly but as a matter of fact that you will fuck her at the end of the nigh. Believe me, most guys make the same mistake, that you are about to; thinking that she will fall for romantic shit and that all other guys are trying to get in her pants and she doesn’t like it. Be a man (not trying to say that you aren’t) be more open and don’t hide your intentions, be a badass and forget about ‘movie and a dinner stuff’.
Nick is rigth on the money here. Romantic stuff does says “I want to hump your leg” more than anything else. Plus, she is pretty young, and there is a possiblity she would think of dinner as a boring date. I would say that dinner is a big no-no,take here something where you and her can have lots of fun. No girl will turn you down if you make her laugh.
Those ideas are both really bad. Who the fuck wants to go to the natural art whatever bullshit. Girls just want to have fun with a guy and feel comfortable. She is athletic so do something along those lines. maybe not a first date but you could play basketball, go rock climbing, take a run,play tennis, whatever you both like to do. If you show a little personality then she won’t think of you as a musclehead but as a cool and fun guy to be around which im sure you are as most t-dawgs should be. Later bud.
Nick is correct.
yo i appreciate all the advice. the reason i suggested the “educational/romantic” date is because the chick that is hooking us up (a pro fitness bunny) told me that i should take her to dinner. so i figured i might as well do something before/after to show her that im not just a musclehead. also, she has a contest coming up soon, and isnt really able to go out too much right now, so i figured something like my first idea would be good. believe me, normally i would take her dancing or bowling, or hell even “rent a movie” (wink wink), but because of the somewhat different circumstances, and the way we were hooked up i thought this might work. we probably wont go out for a few days, but ill figure something out. (how about dancing in the aquarium while we feed each other? hell that way i get the best of both worlds!) thanks guys. peace
I have to side with the guys on this one. There may be extenuating circumstances regarding precisely “how” you two were hooked up, making the whole ‘dinner date’ thing sound like a good idea, but for any other dates you may have planned - do NOT do the dinner date thing. Attempt originality. Show your personality by taking her to places that you normally frequent. I know that when I am in the ‘getting to know a guy’ phase of dating, I want to step into his life in that I want to meet his friends, drink at his bar, eat at his restaurant, watch his movies, see his place. These things tell a girl a hell of a lot more about you than you taking her to all of her favorite places and catering to her. Naturally, you don’t want to come off like a selfish prick so when you ask her out, make her a two-date deal. On one date she steps into your life and on the other you step into hers. That gives each of you a chance to have control of the situation (some girls like you to take control and others are more comfortable if they control it - you probably want a girl who can handle both). You can flip a coin to see who goes first if you want, but this way you both see eachother in your natural environments and get a better feel for who the other person is than you would get from two dinner-n-movie dates.
Okay, guys: here’s where you have a problem, by thinking “show originality” you begin to “overthink” this first date. Let me remind the two operative words here: First Date. So, the primary thing to do would be to choose a setting that would allow for the two to be comfortable. I think a aquarium or a museum would be great - there are subjects of discussion all over the place in either setting. A dinner afterwards would be cool - the two have gotten cozy and dinner then, wouldn’t be dotted with the “uncomfortable silence” that can often happen.
If there is a "second" date in the not so distant future, then it'll be "her turn" to choose what they do.
Whatever you do, don’t listen to advice given by other women when it comes to relationships. They rarely know themseves what they want and in most cases a guy is doomed to fail if he acts towards women based on what they have to say. Nick is 100% correct here.
JC, I know that in the end you will take her to dinner, no matter what everybody else say, because it just “feels right” for you.OK,than take her there, but have an alternative in your sleeve. If you see the things aren’t going the way they should, just told grab her hand and take her on your alternative location.
You will leave an impression of spontaneous and fun guy. (That goes without saying, but don’t tell her you planned an alternative location)
hmmm maybe this is why my past few dates have sucked. im not really sure who to listen to, you all give good advice, and it all makes sense. while yes, i want to have a good time, and follow the advice of nick and ~karma~, patricia does make a good point. im sure she is going to be nervous at first, and as much as she may want to jump my bones (hehe toot my own horn), she’s not going to until she feels comfortable around me. which is why a place like an aquarium is almost perfect in my opinion. its pretty easygoing, and there are a lot of distractions if shit starts to get weird. (“oooh look at that fish…”) that way, by dinner, which is pretty much a must since we are both on strict, scheduled diets, she will feel comfortable around me. also, she only sees me sweaty, in workout clothes, and talking about iron, so dont you think she would be taken by surprise if she goes to an aquairum with a supposed stereotypical meathead?
You’ve mentioned the whole “breaking the meathead stereotype” thing several times. It seems important to you. Is this because you truly are a meathead and don’t want others to know the truth, or is this because you feel smarter and more interested in other subjects than those lifting around you? I’m not coming down on you at all, it’s just that you need to consider your motives for the things you say and do. If you’re “not a meathead”, she’ll pick up on it no matter what you’re talking about, as long as you make sure not to only talk about lifting. And even then, one’s intellect can be gleaned from how the person speaks. Also, think ahead a little. Don’t go to the aquarium expecting to impress her by saying “that’s a cool fish”. You’ll just look like a meathead in an aquarium pointing at a fish. Also consider the possibility that she wants a meathead, since she does know you from the gym, and may only be going on the date to fulfill her physical desires. Just don’t expect her to view you one way or the other. More important than where you go or what you do is that you be yourself. If you’re a meathead, she’ll figure it out one way or another, so stop worrying about that. It’ll also help if you don’t worry so much in general. If you get laid, you get laid. If you don’t, then keep up the friendship and pursue other tail. But if you already know that there’s interest on the other side, you’re more than halfway there. I wish you the best of luck.
You really need to do more than just dinner. Dinner only takes so much time… after you’ve eaten it’s going to get really boring sitting there staring at your empty plates. And the traditional movie afterwards is a bad way to get to know someone. I say go do something different. Women appreciate originality, or at least an effort on your part to do something fun. She sounds like the physical type (she does go to the gym, after all) so go do something physical with her. Like ice skating, for example… I know, it sounds gay, but it’s always made for a good date when I did it.