Hey t-crowd. Whenever i go to the beach or the mall or wherever i always get looks from girls, and quite often stares.(not because im hideous mind u all) Now my problem is i cant start a conversation for crap. If i had the right ways to start a conversation with a girl, i would be in heaven. Buti digress… what do u guys do or recomend?
Try to give the impression you’re a super friendly happy guy…that you’re friendly to everyone. Smile and say something like “Hi”. Don’t worry about trying to impress her just act like you’re enjoying yourself.
Yeah,I got the same problem,I am pretty bad at starting conversations and keeping them going…I want to make them open up u know…
The t-mag ‘Gang O Babes’ girls answered this is one of their past columns. Most seem to prefer honestly and no silly or cocky lines.
Ok, for once I have time to get involved in an off topic thread. Anyways, I think all of us are different. I think what others have said is good advice, but maybe in more of a social setting, such as a bar, you shoud consider other options. Don’t take me for having a big ego or anything, but so quite a few guys come up to me, and say hi, and try to talk. If you want to get my attention, come up and piss me off a little, say something a little mean. I mean, don’t say something that is gonna make me want to hit you, and never like you, just something out of the ordinary, that gets my attention. This would work best if I have been looking at you all night.
Princess, you are one weird person.
I agree
I’ll second that, Roids.
No, I think Princess has the right idea as this approach has been the most successful for me … for instance, at a buffet (yes, I go on occassion) if I see a cute girl loading her plate, I’ll say, “Damn, you’re not shy about eating.” Look her up and down, and then add, “Well, obviously.” I then wait for her expression to become livid, and then I give a big smile so she knows I’m teasing. Another good thing to do go up to the bar next to a girl, mumble that you’re so drunk that you can’t see straight, then look at her and say, “Hey! You’re pretty cute!” Take another sip and then say, “Even better now!” But those are harsh openers … you need to throw in the confident “Hey, I’m just busting your chops because you’re hot” smile.
I guess for those looking for dysfunctional relationships or relationships with dysfunctional people (or people with severe ego problems) you could go with princess and growth’s suggestions.
For those looking for a more normal opening line, in a conversational setting, just try saying “hi” and asking something relevant to whats going on… i.e. how they are dressed, the place you are at, if they have something with them (a book, etc). If the person has an interest in getting to know you, this will be all it takes.
As weird as princess’ reply would seem, her reaction may be more common than many of us would suspect. Over the years I’ve been able to observe several men who were very adept at flirting, and many women seem to respond to a kind of…“gentle” put down or banter.
Try - “who’d win, crocodile or tiger?” Argue them either way. Always goes down like a lead balloon.
Hmm…VERY interesting…keep em coming if there’s more! 
I am not saying that m advice is perfect, or works with everyone, but I think it can be successful, if a guy does it right. Think about it, from a woman’s perspective. If you’re at a bar, how many guys come up to you and say hi, and offer compliments over the course of the night? Also assume you go out 3 nights a week, 52 weeks a year. Thats a lot of "hi"s and compliments, so much so that it gets old, and routine. So, a wise ass comment spices it up, and can also show if a guy has intelligence, if we have a freindly little arguement or something.
I didn’t say a damn thing about offering a compliment… But I see princess is used to getting a lot of compliments and thus might have an inflated ego. (I think i covered ego is my previous post). And like I said, a girl who is interested in you will keep the conversation going even if all you say is “Hello”. If she’s not, who cares, move on to the next one.
One thing I often do is say something ridiculous. I mean funny but out there (I have a dark sense of humor). THEN I look at her reaction, she could think I’m an idiot, laugh/have a dark sense of humor like me, or laugh/not find it funny but show she’s interested in me. Bottom line: Have confidence and she’ll start pursuing you.
this worked on me recently…and was probably one of the best I’ve experienced…I was at a tournament ordering dinner at the outdoor tables. random guy walks up to me says hello and suggests what i should order, makes some small talk, then leaves. comes back a bit later, askes what i ended up ordering, makes small talk and leaves. i caught him checking me out a few times (while i was checking him out!) then he comes up to me again and askes if he can give me a call and take me out. you bet the answer was yes. here’s why it worked: he didn’t hang out forever and get annoying. by coming back repeatedly he got my attention, and the small talk centered around the food - i.e. find situation appropriate comments in a bar talk about fav. drinks, etc. Lastly, the third time he approached me he asked if the guy at the table was my boy friend and when i said no asked if he could take me out. since i caught him checking me out i figured he found me attractive so it was an ego boost, and hey, i was feelin’ good! it’s confidence boys…you can find anything to talk about if you look around you… And Paul, thanks for reading the column!!!
have a pleasant smile on your face and say “hello” in a nice manner. just be natural and yourself. if you are a nice guy it will show. there’s nothing wrong with being shy. once you get their names and know where they are from you have something to talk about. laters pk
Honestly, ‘hi’ combined with something relevant to the situation is your best bet. If she is genuinely ineterested she’ll do her best to help carry the conversation. Assuming you have average conversational skills you shouid be fine. Half the battle is stepping up to the plate. In reference to princess’s remarks, I had something very similar happen this weekend. My friend and I were talking to two women and it was obvious my friend was doing very well with one but the other was a total bitch. Well, being a “team player” I decide that I would, “jump on the bitchy blonde hand grenade” for my friends sake. I talked to her on and off all night, mainly because I couldn’t stand to talk to her for more than a couple minutes at a time. Eventually, I got so fed up that I said something completely rude at which point her attitude changed. We carried on a great conversation for the rest of the evening and she was totally cool with me. We ended up taking them back to my friends for “after hours”, and yet she was still “bitchy” to my friend. Normally, if I get an attitude from a women then I just move on to greener pastures but due to the circumstances I was able to experience something surreal.
I am naturally a wise ass. So flirting is easy. Just walk up and talk do not fear rejection/denial. Just be you. If a woman does/says something out if line call her on it. I walked up to a woman in a bar when I was 18 and I said hi and told her my name and we bagan small talk. About the place weather etc. All the sudden she blurts out I would rather roll around naked in broken glass than spend another moment talking to you. I realized then that I had nothing to lose so I said “So I guess we will not be fucking tonight?” I then laughed at her and walked away. Moments later she was asking for my number and appoligizing for her behavior. I told her she would have to take me out and pay for everything and I might forgive her. Hee hee. I am funny. Ok what is the point other than tooting my own horn. Just be you roll with it and a woman can either hang or she can’t if she can’t you didn’t want her anyway. Now I am not saying treat her like one of the guys cause well we all know women hate that big time. They say it is cute however translation into womanease “this clown is imature as hell”. Just like when a woman tells you “You should be a lawyer”. Translation you are petty and argue about everything without choosing your battles well. Pay attention listen and watch their body language. Some phsychology books on human behavior can be very effective. If you can get your hands on a CIA interogation tactics book it will lead to tons of fun in the singles scene. You can even take on the whole thing like you would training. Try all different things till you find what works for you. Some people HIT some people hit it. Whatever you do remembe that the beginning of any relationship is a converstaion and she is sizing you up just as much as you are her. You are on even ground in fact if you caught her looking you are already one up. Play it to the bone.