I agree with Patricia on this one, I think the aquarium sounds good because it is a little out of the ordinary, it shows that you put some thought into it and that’s what is going to score you the points. It isn’t so much where you take here that will impress her it’s the amount of thought you put into it. Also, it is not so casual that she will be uncomfortable if she wants to dress up for you a little, you’ll have some outside stimulis if you need it, but if things are going really well, you won’t feel obligated to pay attention to it so you can focus on her, and you can stay for as long or short as you like. Also, she probably decided whether or not she was going to give it up three weeks before you got around to asking her out. She said yes, so don’t sweat it. Be yourself, a little chivalry doesn’t hurt, smell good, and floss. And hey, you know what they say, make her laugh, make her breakfast.
As far as dinner, it sounds like you are pretty busy, but if you can’t do it yourself, alot of deli’s and catering companies will make you custom picnic baskets to order that have everything you need, including basket, utensils etc. Get a big blanket, and a couple of those fat candles that will stand up by themselves, and some music, and take her somewhere pretty.
Do any of you guys actually get 2nd dates? I can’t believe some of the shit I’m reading here. You must watch Blind Date on TV too much. That stuff is all designed for entertainment value.
Here are some “rules” as imparted to me a while back by a true dating master. 1) NEVER take a girl to a place where you hang out all the time for a first date, especially if you’ve taken other girls there and people will recognize this is a new one. 2) The first date should be a non-threatening date and should be done in public. 3) The first date is between you and the woman, and is generally a “talking” date, so choose a first date location appropriately. A nightclub is probably too loud, but a museum might be too cerebral. 4) Keep the “romance” to an absolute minimum on a first date to not make the girl think you’re needy. A dozen roses is probably too much. 5) NEVER talk about past relationships, love, marriage etc. on first date. (You probably don’t want to tell her how you’re planning on fucking her right away either.) There was more advice, but I think these are pretty useful guidelines, or maybe I’m too old fashioned.
You are old fashioned 
probably don’t get laid on the first date too often. Don’t mean to offend you, just this is what I would expect to happen to someone following those rules. If I could give guys only one rule, it would be ‘who cares what she might think’. Don’t worry too much, relax, do what you feel like, talk about whatever you want, be as physical as you want at the moment and just have a great time. Since we are all different, each guy would have his own approach, though as a rule a badass jerk gets laid 99% of the time (speaking from personal experience) and a nice guy has to wait three dates at least and then still find himself in a nonfulfiling relationship.
along with what nick and yorik are talking about, i think it has to do with how the girls are in the first place. my ex girlfriend (dont worry, i WONT talk about her on the date) was all into the romantic stuff, and the last date i was on loved the bad boys. i dont really know this chick, so thats why i wanted to do something where i could feel her up…whoops i mean find out what she is looking for. hey if she wants a meathead, we all know i have that side(as do you guys im sure.) and if not, then i have my non-iron side as well.
i had the greatest date a few months back and i thought since u were the same age i could help. i took a girl to a restaurant similar to ur situation, then after i took her ice-skating. wait hold up let me explain. if she isn’t any good, think about it, u have to help her along, u can’t let her fall every step, so there will be grabbing and touching, so u r already half way there, all u have to do is close the deal bud. good luck.
I guess we have different ideas of a “date”. I think a date is different from a pick-up. If a person just wants to get laid right away, he would pick up a girl (at a bar, at the gym, where ever) and take her home and do her. That’s a whole different set of techniques. (I know a different guy who is the master of pick ups. Notice I’m not the master of anything, except perhaps… well you get the idea.) As for dating, I assume the goal is to have some type of “relationship” even if it’s just friendly fucking. Anybody you see all the time you had better establish some kind of rapport with, hence you need a “date” rather than a pick up.
Take her to the aquarium, and then to dinner. You made a plan stick to it. If she likes you, things will happen. If she doesn’t, it won’t really matter where you go. These other people are over thinking it. The minute you over think, you are bound to screw up. Just go with the flow, be yourself, and have a good time. Good luck.
A woman will pretty much decide within the first five minutes of a date wheather you are worth sleeping with eventually. If so, everything you do on the rest of the date will determine if she changes her mind or not.
i think yorik makes a good point. if i just wanted to wet my willy i’d just go to a club and, like nick said, ask who wants to spot me in a “hip dominant” workout that night. after getting slapped a few times, im sure i would find some chick. this girl, on the other hand, seems pretty cool to hang out with (from what i hear), and even though im not looking for a girlfriend, we go to the same school, so it would be nice to have something with her, thats why i chose the more traditional type of date. plus, i actually know shit about fish (thank god for last minute senior projects on sharks and ocean life) so it might be kind of cool.
I’m with Yorick. I’m in Denver too, and if I want to get laid I just go down to Blue 67 or Purple Martini or whatever, pick up a girl and do it. A date is about more than just getting laid. The best first date I ever had was coffee in a bookstore. We talked nonstop for three hours. Call me old fashioned or whatever you want.
I also want to chime in on the whole “jerks get laid and nice guys don’t” thing. I am a nice guy and I have no problems. In my opinion, people assume that a nice guy is always a coward. But if you’re a gentleman who isn’t afraid of sex, then you’ll get laid a million more times than the cowards and a hundred more times than the “badass jerks.”
what part of denver? and the aquarium im taking her to is ocean journey.
Take her to the Target Cafe, Cram a Corn Dog down her throat then nail her. That’s what you should do on a date.
Its summer, take her to the beach. Its nice and romantic and gives you a chance to be alone with her. Stay the night or the weekend. if you can’t fuck this bitch after that you’re a fucking putz!
Just go to some bars and have some beers, you will have a better chance of going back to her place.
I live in the Wash Park/Bonnie Brae area. If you’re a college guy, you’re probably over at DU, huh? Good luck at Ocean Journey - if they don’t close the whole thing down soon.
Or you could nail her WITH a corndog IN Target’s cafe. Now that’s original.
actually i go to CU, but im home for the summer. i live in the golden/lakewood area, lift at the point athletic club. i love wash park though. by far the best place to toss a football in the summer. some smoking hotties there. and yeah, there gonna keep ocean journey around for a bit i hear.