[quote]EyeDentist wrote:
[quote]ryanbCXG wrote:
[quote]EyeDentist wrote:
[quote]Yogi wrote:
One more thing, which I think you’ve touched on briefly, but how much of a negative impact do you find staying so lean, especially at your age (forgive my rudeness), has on your social life? Do you find yourself avoiding social situations or do you just go along but politely refuse the food that’s on offer?
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Good question. I have to say, keeping lean has definitely crimped my social life. I avoid functions that involve food or significant travel (ie, long enough to where eating a meal or more would be required). Friends and family have long since stopped extending anything but perfunctory invitations to get-togethers. Further, I am reluctant to eat out very often, and when I do, I tend to frequent restaurants that provide access to the nutritional content of their food–which means chain restaurants and their mediocre food. Once there, I order the same meal every time.
Both of these tendencies drive my wife nuts. In fact, recently she put her foot down and demanded I take her on a belated trip to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary (which passed in July). The look in her eye told me it was best not to fight her on this one. We returned Sunday from a nice trip to San Francisco. (Did I overeat? Yes. Yes I did.)
I suppose this avoidance behavior on my part is a sign of weakness; ie, if I had more willpower, I could face down the temptation of a party tray and/or nice restaurant meal. I guess I’m just following the path of least resistance. [/quote]
Curious as to what you feel is the major draw back to one meal? Maybe once a week? I’m not close enough to most of my family for that part to matter and my mom who I am close to understands enough but to have my SO that restricted by my choices is a bit much for my taste. This hobby should enhance life not detract from it. I am also a fatty who loves food way too much :)[/quote]
For me, the issue is not that there’s a major drawback to having a weekly cheat meal (there isn’t). My problem is, I have a tendency to get overly ‘dialed in’ on the diet/workout thing, and can quickly lose proper perspective on it.
For example, up until our SF trip, I was slowly, systematically upping my caloric intake–a process that was going well. But if I were to eat a meal for which the calories couldn’t be accurately counted, I would (gasp) be unable to know exactly what my intake was, and thus would lose the ability to determine precisely how I was responding to my current macros. The horror!
Taking a step back: Is it absurd for someone not deep into a contest prep to be this obsessive? Absolutely. And insofar as my tendency to get ‘diet blinders’ adversely affects my wife’s quality of life, it’s selfish to boot.
Finding the proper balance between this hobby (obsession?) and the things that are truly important in life is definitely something I need to work on.[/quote]
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. And agreed most that are attracted to achieving a high level physique are the OCPD types which can be good and bad. Finding balance is key. You have insight into it now acting on it would be a solid step. Baby steps though as to not be overwhelmed. I was in the same boat just 2 years go and then met my gf and changed a lot of my obsessions to not hinder getting to know her better and better and spend more time with her. Wihtout her I would very likely be stuck in my very very deep rut of OCPD on training and diet.