I missed this earlier, I guess. You’re in, if I’m not mistaken, your early 20s and are a virgin. What was “his purpose?”
It also isn’t good for men. By that I mean, most men.
Most men aren’t in a position to be promiscuous (or at least with attractive women). A few are. I don’t think it is good for the former group. In extreme examples (see actual incels), there are a lot of mental issues that arise from being left out of the sexual marketplace. Feelings of worthlessness, and insecurity. A promiscuous man usually dates down for sex without commitment (same with male cheaters). Women do the opposite. Without promiscuity those men being left out would find matches that are equivalently attractive to them. With it, those women can mate upwards. Why bother with someone your equal when you can get better? I am not saying this to be misogynist. It is rational behavior for a woman that is only looking for sex without commitment, it’s just that sex without commitment (promiscuity) has it’s winners and losers.
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This isn’t gaurenteed by a long shot
I’m no talking about self motivated achievement. I’m talking about parents that try to live vicariously through their kids or force them to do things because it “looks good”
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Regarding the guy, he helped me with a very important part of one of my projects and I got access to the PhD econ world.
He stopped being useful when I decided I wanted nothing to do with econ and he said some inappropriate things in front of my friends
You said it was “transactional.” What did he get out of it?
I was his toy and a substitute for lack of a better term. He had a thing for one of his cohortmates but she refused him for religious /cultural reasons. He was also mildly interested in behavioural stuff so I’d sometimes share papers and bounce ideas with him
White people?
If you are a person who abstains from one-off, short-term, and superficial sexual encounters with people you have no emotional attachment to and only engage in long term relationships then you have every right to require that from a partner.
If you are not that then you don’t get to demand that from a partner. You don’t get to have your Hoe-Bro Phase and have sex with dozens of different strange women from Tinder at night clubs and then turn around in your 30s and turn your nose up at women who had their own “Hoe Phase” like a complete and total hypocrite.
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HE FINALLY DID IT! @punnyguy
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It may not be correct to be a hypocrite but, I would be willing to bet anything that the men who had a “hoe-phase” disproportionately turned out better in spite of it. Not much of a bet as all research proves it.
It is evolution. It is not how women (most) are wired.
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White devils.
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I would argue much of the feminist agenda goes against how women are wired.
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Sources?
Sure. I have yet to see low confidence lead to happy relationships though.
I can’t say the same for two people who have had sex before meeting.
Not the same ballpark at all, but if she’s legitimately and genuinely happy with an under confident guy expressing a need to control then so be it I guess.
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Neither is achieving PRs…
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Why?
Because, anecdotally, I have yet to see a promiscuous woman who is happy. Even on social media, the women proudly declaring they are “whores” are miserable. It does seem like most female behaviors that are unhealthy stem from daddy issues as in, not having one. When a father tells a daughter who she is, she doesn’t seek that validation via sex with men who offer her nothing in return.
Then there are studies, I don’t have the inclination to explain what a study is to you, which demonstrate the negative outcomes related to promiscuity.
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What if he wants to be controlled?
Define promiscuous? I’m still waiting on that.
Good for him I guess.