Honestly, ditto. My wife has far from a Mom bod. Shes hot, but yeah she has the signs of having kids. She said to me the other day “Im surprised you don’t want me to get a breast lift”. I replied honestly that I don’t feel that way at all. Shes hot to me just the way she is.
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You must be old too since you must not have had access to porn.
And that’s the point. You wouldn’t talk to her, or any woman, the same way you would with a man regarding the issues of weight or body image in spite of neither the woman nor the man communicating to you their dissatisfaction with how they look. In other words, it’s easy to shoot the messenger but the person who receives the message also plays a role.
I’m about to turn 40, but there was no shortage of porn when I was a kid. Dads video stash in the smokeshed, a creepy scout master, the shipping container with a homeless setup, a neighbor’s mom who wanted to educate the kids, russian bubble gum and hotel magazines - I could go on and on.
Ehh, actually I don’t ever bring up those issues with men either. I’m a decently fit and strong guy, so I’m happy to answer questions, but I don’t feel good callimg people out.
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???
I love Fight Club, and just about anything Chuck Palahniuk writes. I misunderstood it for a while and would do pushups in front of the tv. Satire doesn’t come easy to some people.
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I lived in Russia (Novosibirsk) when I was in, 5th grade maybe? They had this pornographic version of bazooka joe gum with sticker. They were plastered everywhere. Benches, elevators, bus stops. I made friends with some kids, despite the language barrier, and someone always had enough to share.
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I feel attacked
It’s okay Andrew cause you’re putting in the work to change that part about yourself.
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Not really tbh. The things I wanted to change are most of the way there, I never cared about being an asshole - I still am.
To be even more honest though, a lot of my anger came from my inability to set boundaries in life. I’ve changed that; it was needed.
I’m still a blunt asshole though. it’s fine, Anti-Heroes are cooler anyways.
So when are you gonna start logging here again
Not sure if I will.
Not sure if I’m even going to stick around the forum tbh. I tend to get too invested/‘addicted’ to any form of social media, and I’m not really getting much value out of this forum anymore, truth be told.
It’s gone from [needed reality check] > [educational] > [helpful for accountability] > [entertaining].
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In today’s world I have found people are extremely sensitive and weak.
You can literally just tell them the truth with no judgement and you are a dick. Being kind about telling someone the truth is basically sugar coating the truth and slanting it in my opinion.
Factual truth told directly exists outside of being kind or a dick. It simply is.
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I agree with all of this, but not in a work setting - or at least not at MY California location, Fortune 5 “Inclusive” company.
My wife is beautiful, but she often doesn’t get to what level I think she is imo.
Women are weird, but I love them.
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I thought this was at the gym.
I don’t talk about shit at the work setting - but work. No politics, no religion, nothing. If it doesn’t have to do with something legal, you can get the fuck out of my office with a quickness. Every female gets space, yes mam, no mam regardless of age. People suck. Give them zero room, especially when you are in a position of power or an owner.
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That’s what they think. Mature adults KNOW if they’re doing something in a kind or unkind way, regardless of how the “snowflakes” react.
Again, this thread is referring to a situation when the fat person initiates the discussion.
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The problem is that micro-aggressions have become a real thing and overreactions around that bullshit move goalposts.
It’s a dick move to overlay “snowflake” reactions across interactions with normal people and manipulatively act like you’re discussing a level playing field.
People know when they’re overly sensitive. They just like being victims instead of toughening up. The run home and tell mommy types.
You completely missed the point. I’m talking about the person saying the “hard” thing. They, if they are a mature adult (or even most children) KNOW how to say things politely or rudely. You can deliver the same news in a polite or rude way. However the person receives it - as another mature adult, or as a snowflake, doesn’t matter. But YOU know whether or not you were polite/kind. That’s all that you can control.
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Idk, you so much as assume someone’s gender (even with biological accuracy), people will call you a bigot these days.
I get your point, but people quite literally are overly sensitive about everything. Operating as you described above further normalizes a societal pressure to ensure you only say certain things, sometimes at the cost of objective truth. Its the entryway to Group Think ™
Just something to pay attention to.
FWIW, i let the afforrmentioned 350lb man lie straight to my face about what he eats. I could’ve called him on it, but that’s not why he talked to me about it. He didnt want my help, he wanted my emotional support.
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